Get REAL, Get HONEST and Get to TRUTH

Let’s get real first.

Next – get honest.

Life for most of us is far from honest if we are being honest.
Somehow, somewhere along the road we started to be dishonest.

For the purposes of this blog dishonest and lying are the same. 

When did lying become normal because we ALL KNOW Lying is not normal.

How come we all love kids who just say it as it is with no holding back.
They speak Truth and we feel open, expanded and go wow wow.

Well once upon a time, we were those young children, so where did we lose the plot?
At what point do we stop speaking the truth?
WHY do we subscribe to this dis-honesty business?
When did we start living a life of dis-honesty?
How great is the quality of our sleep if we are lying in the day?
How does our body really feel when we are lying?
Are we aware that we have become great liars as adults?
WHY are we uncomfortable around people who are consistently dishonest?

Would it be fair to say that we would like to think that we are honest people most of the time?

Could it be possible that we have moments of honesty in certain areas of our lives?
Could it be possible that to be honest all the time would be hard work?
Could it be possible that to get real would mean being more honest and that feels uncomfortable?
Could it be possible that being real is scary as you may not be popular?
Could it be possible that being super real and honest means you would stand out?
Could it be possible that being honest would mean no more nicey nice?
Could it be possible that we don’t fancy the RESPONSIBILITY that comes with being real?

We all want Truth in our life because it is natural and we can feel it is the only thing that has survived over time.

Truth is who we are and Truth is where we come from.

Truth is constant and consistent. Truth is easy and simple. Truth is Real.

How dis-honest have we as a society become if we choose to ignore our own body?
The very own vehicle that is with us from day one until our last breath.

How dis-honest have we become that we celebrate Christmas because it suits us but is not the religion we choose to follow?

How dis-honest have we become that we say “Happy New Year” on auto pilot mode without feeling the pain and misery we have that we live with everyday that is not ‘happy’?

How dis-honest have we become that we say Yes when we actually mean No?

How dis-honest have we become that our fear dictates to us that it is ok to not speak our Truth?

How dis-honest have we become that we ACCEPT dis-honesty as a normal way of life?

How dis-honest have we become that we do not question anything when we know and can feel it is not the Truth?

Where is our moral compass and how often do we ignore it?

To get to Truth we need to start with Honesty.

Honesty is the first step to Truth.

What if we started to get real and be honest about how we feel?
What if we started to get honest so we could get to deep honesty one day?
What if our life started to flow because we are being honest everyday?
What if we started to be honest about how our body feels?
What if we made a choice to honour what we feel and not push it down?
What if we gave ourselves permission to express what we feel?

If we start to become honest about what is really going on in our lives, then we have the choice to make changes that support us and this may inspire others to do the same.

Truth was something I was searching for and I could not get to it because I had not opened the door to honesty. I was living a lie and I had to admit and accept that first. Then I started to get real about what was really going on in my life and things changed, so I got to open the door to Deep Honesty.

Being deeply honest has led me to Truth. It is a daily practice that works and is easy.

I was a master of lying and today I claim that I stand for Truth and I walk the talk and Live Truth to the best of my ability every day. My commitment to Truth is unwavering.
No perfection needed.

FOR THE RECORD – you are no longer popular if you choose to live Truth.

“It is time to get real.
It is time to get truthful.
And, this can only happen if we are willing to make the choices that will allow it.
And hence, we need to connect to our inner-most, for the outer has failed us, and our bodies and our planet are the living proof of this failure.”
Serge Benhayon, Esoteric & Exoteric Philosophy ‘The Sayings’, p.228

With deep Appreciation to Serge Benhayon for this inspiring quote that Truth is possible for us all equally and the first step is to Get Real. This man lives and breathes ABSOLUTE TRUTH 24/7. Fact.

Dear World,

Nothing is working in our world that is making simple sense.

Instead of blaming this that and the other, would it be wise to start to

GET REAL

GET HONEST

So we can GET TO TRUTH?

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Comments 28

  1. Another Truth-Full blog from a person I know to live truth in every area of life.

    I also had been searching for truth… but I could not get to truth while I was trying to skip/avoid the honesty step. A simple yet revealing concept.

    I had not been getting ‘real’ or honest about my part in everything… since I started getting ‘real’ and developing honesty in every area, with the inspiration and support of Simple Living Global and Universal Medicine, I have been coming back to truth/re-discovering truth inside me.

    Truth was here all along; Truth is Universal, it belongs to every one of us.
    Truth is far deeper, more beautiful, Loving and powerful than being nice & popular… and lost, sick and in constant struggle. The world is in desperate need for honesty and the Truth that honesty can give us access to.

    Where is our responsibility? Why wait?

    1. Great what you say here Jo about you trying to skip or avoid the honesty step.
      Very revealing indeed.
      Important what you share also about not getting real or honest about your part in everything and again this comes down to RESPONSIBILITY. Once we have that word as part of our daily living we are well on the way to being real which then takes us to the Honesty department.
      TRUTH holds a quality that is strong, steady and unwavering. Whereas lies and living dishonestly feels like a shaky and unstable vibration. Been there, done that so hence why I can write the blog and make a comment like this.

  2. I thought I wanted the truth in all parts of my life. But with support from Simple Living Global and Universal Medicine, I came to understand that my truth was more about what the outside world was doing rather then what I was doing.

    Honesty is a much more personal word, it required me to go deeper and ask questions that I did not consider before, like “If I truly care for myself why do I drink alcohol?”
    When I started to ask more honest questions, then I was able to be more open to what the real truth is and if we truly ask for truth then we will be supported to find it, and deep down that is what we all are looking for.

    1. Thank You for sharing Ken. I feel asking questions needs to be a normal part of our life if we are to truly evolve as a race of beings here on earth.
      Lets face it there is so much dishonesty and the majority of us are not real and the ugly thing is most people feel this even if they say nothing. We clock it when dishonesty is in our face and obvious but our body feels even the slight dishonesty or call it lie, be it from ourself or others.
      The thing is we get away with it and its the norm because most of us choose to live this way. Note – it is always a choice.
      From lived experience I can say as the author of this blog and founder of this website that being real, being honest to the best of my ability and Living Truth day in and day out holds a quality that brings a deep settlement in my body. You get to sleep without any tension or racy head and there are heaps of benefits on top of that.
      You become less popular as you no longer do nice or nod and agree.

  3. When we have a dishonesty going on that we are living Michael then it filters out in other areas of our life.
    Get Real and Get Honest is like giving ourselves permission to no longer accept those small lies which stack up as you know.
    My take is that when we are not consistent everyday in the honesty department then we get drained even if we are not aware of it. Not living naturally means we have dishonesty going on somewhere in our life or in every area.

    Small steps and asking questions does make a difference. No perfection needed and no gold stars or fireworks if you get real, get honest and get to Truth. It is what we all need to be doing, yet very few in our world choose to live in this way. It comes with that word that seems to be like a thread weaving into all blogs on this website RESPONSIBILITY.

  4. It is interesting how so many of us say we want truth but so few of us do the work required to get to truth. It starts with the body and as you say if we are not honest about our body and the impact of our choices on it then what chance do we have to get from honesty to truth? I used to for example say that I loved potatoes. However every time I ate them I would develop a pain in my stomach. This went on for years until one day I got honest and realized that I simply could no longer eat potatoes. Eventually I got to the truth of the matter, which was that I used potatoes to dull down my awareness of what was going on around me.

    1. Your first sentence Elizabeth Dolan is monumental. Think about it we say one thing and wonder why things don’t change when we don’t bother to action it.
      If we do want truth in our life as most of us deep down do, then we need to do our bit and that is the ‘work required to get to truth’ as you say.
      Just starting with some honesty and questioning is going to put us on the right track. Your potato example is great and it comes with that word RESPONSIBILITY.

    2. Elizabeth this is so true! If offered, I wonder if we’d take an honesty pill so we didn’t have to put the work in. Imagine if we were all like the lawyer guy in that film Liar Liar, who couldn’t lie, because his son wished it so. Only in this life there is no honesty pill, we have to choose it. And your potato example shows the honesty starts with ourselves before we even get to truth in our interactions with others. Reading that very real example helps break down the pictures of what honesty is and I am learning that it goes far beyond what most of us are taught growing up in the boy-who-cried-wolf-style stories. I’m learning that being true to yourself is at the foundation of it all. Some of us have got so caught up in ideologies, norms and what we think we are supposed to be/be doing, that a big part of this ‘work’ you speak of is, I’m finding, about asking ourselves what is true and being prepared to ditch the stuff WE FEEL is not, regardless of how that makes others feel. For example, when I gave up alcohol, my friends tried the peer pressure thing, saying they wanted the old Jenifer back. There was no going back for me, though, because I had the assurance in my body of what I knew was true for me. There are other things I’m looking at now that are a little tougher.
      Like why do I overwork?
      Why do I pander to my children?
      Why do I rush when I’m taking care of me?
      Getting really honest WITH MYSELF about these things is, I know, the way to shift them at their core, in an enduring and real way that new year’s resolutions simply cannot deliver.

  5. When I was growing up I began to see that grown-ups did not do what they said. I did not feel that was ok. How could I trust anything that a person says? I felt that saying something is easy but it is worthless if you do not follow through on it.

    When I heard Serge Benhayon say that do not believe anything I say unless you can feel it to be true for you, I was intrigued. Maybe this was a way to know if someone was lying?

    I had observed that a baby could have a very different response to different people, without that person saying anything. Animals do this too. So something else was going on. They were feeling something that goes beyond words.

    Everyone can feel these things, but because of our dependence on words we do trust our feelings any more.

    I am now choosing to feel the fact that I feel everything all the time and what I feel is important and it is the truth for me at that moment. This choice feels so right. It is what I have been missing all my life.

  6. Michael, I totally get what you are saying here. It’s so easy to go along with the ‘norms’, hey? And what this blogs says is so TRUE: “FOR THE RECORD – you are no longer popular if you choose to live Truth”. I have started to look in those dusty corners and get honest and it’s not pretty in there, I can tell you that. It’s not like I’m going around outright lying to people, though there has been plenty of that in my past. No, but I’m realising there is much more to being honest that not outright lying, as this blog presents. I am learning that Truth is a step way beyond and it’s a big one. I’m on my way with baby steps, such as seeing where I’m pandering to people and where I’m playing small or where I’m overriding how I feel because ‘things need to get done’ etc. There is still a way to go. For example, I’m less into Christmas as each year passes (will this be the year I finally get honest about how pointlessness it truly is?), but in the dry cleaner the other day, a lady was talking about how she HAS TO have an inflatable snowman for her son even though she doesn’t want one, and I didn’t tell her I thought it was a load of twaddle and that SHE is the mother, she doesn’t HAVE to do anything. Why not? Well the truth is I could read what was going on with her and I knew she would react to me if I said what needed to be said so I didn’t, I held back. Ouch. As soon as I was out of the shop, I could feel it in my body (gross, cringing). I even contemplated going back in. And just today, I got flummoxed when an old friend asked me if I’d ‘become a bible basher’. Well no, I’m not someone who bashes bibles, but I have a strong and building connection with the divine and it supports me beyond measure so why didn’t I lay that out for her? So the TRUE answer to all these questions is YES:
    “Could it be possible that being super real and honest means you would stand out?
    Could it be possible that being honest would mean no more nicey nice?
    Could it be possible that we don’t fancy the RESPONSIBILITY that comes with being real?”
    But the clear answer is also that I want the Truth and to get to that takes work. So onwards we go.

  7. The observation about people saying ‘happy new year’ on auto pilot is huge, and particularly topical today, on 1 January. It brings to mind 2 things:

    (1) We have an opportunity every day, all day, to actually FEEL WHAT WE FEEL, but how many of us let ourselves do that and make space for it? What would happen if we did? How would our lives change if we were honest about how we feel?

    (2) What are we comparing against when we say ‘happy’? Someone messaged me today saying ‘hope this year will be as good or even better than last year’. Is this part of the problem? That our truth is pegged to the status quo; to what we are currently living. What if there is more – so much more? How will we know if we don’t make the enquiry?

  8. Ken, you hit the nail on the head here. How many adults set the rules for kids but don’t follow them? Don’t swear, tell the truth, be gentle, don’t drink or do drugs, don’t shout, don’t sulk, eat your greens. What exactly are we role modelling, expecting our kids to do as we say but not as we do? We’re kidding ourselves if we think they don’t know; you and I are testament to that. And if they know and watch our inconsistency, what are they learning? It reminds me of the shocking statistics on cyber abuse: 1 in 2 people surveyed by the anti-cyber abuse organisation ALLRISESAYNOTO CYBERABUSE.COM say they have experienced some form of cyber abuse. 1 in 2 of us! And there are 3 billion people online. 62% of those surveyed were over 18. So if most cyber abuse is experienced by adults and cyber abuse is on the rise, what are we teaching the kids? We’re telling them not to abuse online, but where are the role models if all the adults are doing it or not saying no to it? Our individual actions have a bigger impact than we might want to admit.

  9. Love the realness of this blog. Lying and dishonesty covers so much in life and I have found there can be different levels of dishonesty one beneath another, that I may not be aware of but as I work with this much is changing. I have certainly done nicey nice, saying things to not make waves, not speaking up when I felt from my body I had something to say. I have realised the effect this has on my body, and on others, and the responsibility I hold in expressing truthfully, rather than trying to fit in through dishonesty. How different my body feels when I do this, I feel so much lighter with much more energy, my body doesn’t feel congested, I don’t run over in my mind the things I want to say. Being honest and speaking my truth brings change , not just to my health and well being but to others too.

    1. Thank you Ruth Ketnor – I agree there is a realness to this blog and this real theme extends to the whole of this website.
      The author lives a quality that is very earthy and very real and this comes through in the writing and leaves no doubt in the reader that honesty is the way to go.
      That nicey nice stuff that you talk about is ugly and it hurts us and is a complete dis-service to another. No one gets the real deal and we all go around and around in circles playing the nice game and offering no evolution so what is the point?
      As you say being honest and speaking the truth does bring change.

  10. One would think that being real, honest and truthful is easy, but the body is indeed the marker of all truth, showing humanity that it is not as easy as we would like it to be. The health condition of humanity is proof that there is something very wrong in the way we live, and that we are not as real, honest and truthful with ourselves as we could be, and inately are. For myself, as time goes by I do become more and more aware of myself, my feelings and the choices I make, – and how they affect me. Not very long ago I reached another level of my honesty in admitting that I was angry with myself, and had been for many, many years. Not so coincidently my neck has been hurting for many, many years, and it really is that simple, to put two and two together. I have made the wrong choices for myself when it comes to relationships (among a few other things), and I have completely ignored myself and my feelings saying loudly no. My irresponsibility has to go SOMEwhere.. There’s only one way to go from here, and that is deeper. Thank you, Bina, for expressing so truthfully.

    1. Great comment – thank you Nathalie Sterk.
      The bit that sticks out is near the end where you talk about the irresponsible choices that you make “has to go SOMEwhere…”
      This is huge if we just stop and press the pause button for a moment.
      So we all do things that are a oops, ugly choice, harmful, not truly supporting etc.,
      We then have our own way of dealing with it – in other words pretending it didn’t happen, ignoring the feeling that comes up, numbing what we feel, denying what we feel or whatever behaviour it is that we have learned to cope with an ‘irresponsible’ choice.
      But what if the undealt with feeling does go somewhere?
      What if no amount of pretending, ignoring, denying or numbing changes that fact?
      What if an addiction of shopping, porn, gambling, overeating, overworking or self medicating in any form actually buries these feelings even deeper?
      What if those feelings bring dis-harmony to our natural state of being?
      What if our body is not in joy because we have stuff undealt with?
      What if our body does not like the stuffed down, swallowing unexpressed hurts?
      WHAT IF – our body is copping it all and one day Boom – it shows us those stacked up irresponsible choices in the form of a dis-ease in the body?
      All this is well worth at least considering because nothing seems to be working right now and things are getting worse. If that seems a bit too much, there are plenty of blogs on this website confirming our world is not in a great place.

  11. I was just reading that the world as a whole is becoming more corrupt, aka dishonest, as shown by the latest ‘Corruption Perceptions Index’ published by Transparency International. They do a survey annually, analysing corruption levels globally, focused on the public sector in each country, and this latest one shows more countries declining on their previous score than improving. For autocratic regimes, this is perhaps predictable, but for democracies, what on earth is going on? The UK stayed steady at number 10 scoring 81 out of a possible 100. The US dropped 2 points to 74. Top scoring were New Zealand and Denmark with 90, Australia came in at 79.

    http://www.transparency.org/news/feature/corruption_perceptions_index_2016

    Why aren’t these advanced democracies scoring 100? Why aren’t our governments jumping on these scores in alarm, to address them? Why aren’t journalists all over this?

    Could it be because a little bit of dishonesty is seen as okay, as the norm? Is it because we are comparing ‘down’ rather than holding absolute Truth as our benchmark?

  12. On the subject of honesty, how is it possible that companies known for doing dishonest things become super successful? I read that a car manufacturer known and fined for going to great lengths to avoid following the rules, just had a bumper year on sales.

    Where are we at that we can read about such scandals, such deep dishonesty, and DO NOTHING about it or in fact say YES to it by buying the product? Isn’t this showing us something?

    I also read that a big telecom had a surge in sales after a data breach scandal that hit the press. Apparently, people were not reading the news properly so instead of taking in the details of why the company was in the press and rejecting it, they just saw the brand more and so it was top of mind when they next came to buy a phone.

    Doesn’t this say a lot too? How much attention do we put to the brands behind our products? How much do we care about the integrity behind the things we use every day? Where is our own honesty in this and how far are we prepared to take it? Only as far as it won’t be inconvenient? Or all the way?

  13. Dear World
    Would it be true to say that we have become a society that finds it easy to deny, ignore and hide from what we know and can feel is the Absolute Truth.
    Is it because it suits us?
    Is it because we are so invested in living a lie?
    Is it because it keeps us comfortable in our uncomfortableness?
    is it because it does not challenge us in anyway?
    Is it because everyone else is doing it so why be different?
    Is it because we want things easy and hunky dory?
    Is it because we don’t want to admit we all have the power to bring about real change?

    If we start with a dose of Absolute honesty and choose to ponder on these questions, could that be the start to get us back on track – the real road to Absolute TRUTH?

  14. A few years ago I would be squirming and uncomfortable but… I love this blog.

    With the first big waves of getting-more-honest-with-myself behind me… I know that it is the very stuff I have not wanted to face about myself and my choices that held me back and caused more suffering than what I was afraid of.

    Getting real and honest and getting to the Truth is something I work on every day, sometimes it is hard but what is amazing is that there is always more to see and realize and more beauty to uncover and open up to… in myself and the world.

    Every comment posted here is so beautiful to me…
    Many people I have recently met have been expressing how little honesty there is around and I know the power of inspiration when we see someone just being themselves, being honest and speaking truth.

    I miss who we ‘really’ are and I know that by getting honest we can get to the true intimacy and connection that I feel we all, ironically, ache for beneath the quick fixes and surface nicenesses we use that don’t allow us to to live the quality and depth of life we can live.

  15. I read your comment above yesterday Simple Living Global and took time ponder on your questions. I would say Yes to every single one. In the last few years I have been a lot more honest with myself looking at the way I live, the choices I am making and why. Although it seemed very challenging at the beginning I would not change doing this for anything with how I feel today and I will not stop. The joy I feel with this is the joy I know we all have within waiting to be expressed, connected to… back on track, as you say.

    I saw on the back of a persons work jacket yesterday morning ‘ safety in mind ‘ it felt very relevant to this blog and what I was pondering on. It reminded me how much I used to go into my head to sort things out, work things out, when life challenged me in any way, to get away from the uncomfortableness I felt of not taking repsonsibility… not living the truth, that is with us all, and how we all can do this. But this I found to be such a lie as this took me away from my body where I feel the truth and live the truth from. If I am not with my body I will not get to feel truth, so it was safe to go into my head.. further away from my inner knowing and feeling from my heart and body. I can still do this but so much less and feel so clearly now the lack of connection with my body when I do and therefore the truth and I have the choice to change it.

  16. Of course, most people will say they are honest and truthful, because in truth, no-one wants to think of themselves as dishonest or untruthful.

    And for the most part, to a degree, most of us are honest and truthful.

    But to be totally and truly honest and truthful takes commitment and the dreaded R word – RESPONSIBILITY.

    I know for me, from where I was a few years ago to where I am at now, my honesty and truthfulness has improved a great deal, but I also know there are areas in my life where I could bring more honesty and truthfulness.

    For instance:

    I could be more honest with expressing how I am feeling.
    I could be more honest in asking for help and not thinking I am the only one who can do the job.
    I could be more honest when I need to rest more.
    I could be more honest in what foods my body doesn’t need.

    The list is not exhaustive but the message is clear – there is always room for more honesty and truthfulness.

    As the author of this blog says, all we need to do to get to truth and honesty is to ‘Get Real’ and be honest as to where we are really at.

  17. In my past I tried a lot of ‘self-help’ stuff.
    I definitely wanted someone to ‘fix’ me and so I was not taking responsibility…
    so of course I found those who did not ask me to truly take accountability for myself.

    Until I got real fed up and started asking for the Truth in a big way I did not find those who, by their lived integrity, would ask me to get honest and really look at how I lived, at my choices and their consequences.

    Until Universal Medicine and Simple Living Global, no one had shown me, by living it, how important it is to get honest about my part in life and how powerful it can be when I get ruthlessly honest and allow myself to ‘feel’ what I have been choosing and from there to make the changes I want from the inside out.

  18. When I was hurting from physical and emotional pain, it took a lot of honesty to take responsibility for it. I felt that I had lived my life in a good way, why was I hurting so much?

    So I ignored my bodys signals and just went on doing what I was doing, not wanting to look honestly at what was really going on. Eventually my body physically stopped me, (I could barely walk up stairs) and the doctors could not find anything wrong with me.

    At that point I surrendered and said I really want to know what is going on. This was a level of honesty that I needed to get to in order to start my true healing process.

    It is crazy the level of discomfort I went through just to avoid wanting to get truly honest about how I was living my life.

    If we honestly ask for the truth, we will find it. There is so much support waiting for us.

  19. I was just thinking how much this world is a lie and how we live lies and think its ok.

    The word dishonest feels like a mild diluted version of the word Lie.

    I grew up hating lies and the hypocrisy that went with the culture and religion and then my reactions led me to the spiritual new age nonsense so even more lies. What an utter waste of 40+ years.

    I realise now that I was searching for Truth and longing for something that made sense about life on earth and beyond.
    In 2005 I attended a presentation by Serge Benhayon, Universal Medicine and I did not like this man or what he had to say. Twelve years later I know exactly why.

    He was real to the core and every word that comes from this man is Absolute Truth and I have learned heaps from his teachings. We each hold Truth in our body so it is well worth using our body as the marker of truth, a compass to guide us in life.

  20. An article in the Express, 3rd December 2017, talks about ‘New laws could see scientists face criminal charges for research fraud.’

    Under new laws being considered by MP’s, scientists who carry out fraudulent medical research would face criminal charges.

    The proposal is among a raft of measures to tackle drug company fraud being examined by a commons committee.

    Members have been told that misleading claims about the effectiveness of drugs have led to patients dying.

    Whistle-blowers have also received death threats.

    The all party committee has received testimony claiming prominent academics are paid large sums of money to publish false data.

    A consultant cardiologist who submitted evidence to the report said: “If someone was to falsify data about aircraft performance and planes started crashing, they would likely face a criminal prosecution. But falsifying data about drugs is highly unlikely to lead to a sanction, even if it kills people. The real scandal is the extent of this problem is covered up by senior people in the profession and major institutions. Regulators deal with it ineffectively even when people repeatedly offend but they do not seem to understand misconduct can lead to deaths of patients. It’s absolutely outrageous.”

    The consultant cardiologist, who is based at Royal Stoke University Hospital, started investigating misconduct 35 years ago when a drug firm offered him a bribe to falsify research on a drug with life-threatening side effects.

    If these claims of misconduct going back 35 years are true, then the scale of deceit is breath-taking.

    It seems incredulous that these companies have been allowed to get away with this behaviour for so long.

    As stated earlier in this article, it is fair to assume that any company falsifying information that could potentially cause the deaths of others would, and should, be prosecuted.

    So why the failure to prosecute in these cases?

    In truth, how long have these drug companies been acting in this way?

    How long have these drug companies been making profit more important than human lives?

    Is it possible that if a company acts in this way, it is safe to assume that ‘Getting Real, Getting Honest and Getting to Truth is the last thing on their agenda?

  21. Thank you for this extraordinary, outstanding blog.

    I totally appreciate the honesty of both the author and the contributors who have submitted such truthful comments.

    I realise that often I have not been honest in my life because I have wanted something from the world more than I have wanted either the truth or to be truthful.

    In those moments of dishonesty, what have I wanted from the world? At different times, I have wanted to be liked, or to be recognised, or to fit in, or to feel safe and comfortable by not rocking the boat, or to gain financially, or to get some thing, or to avoid feeling some deep buried hurt, or to escape some responsibility I don’t like.

    But, was it worth it? Each time I told a lie or was dishonest in speech or thought, it could not possibly have been the real true inner me doing the speaking or thinking. So, with each dishonest thought or word I was increasing the gap that I have created between the real true me inside and the substitute me I so often present to the world.

    That gap between the real me and the substitute me is the emptiness that I have felt that I have tried to fill or escape with all kinds of self-abuses and ill behaviours including smoking cigarettes, endlessly seeking mental stimulation and entertainment and over-eating to numb my feelings (to name but a few).

    It is abundantly clear to me now that every dishonest thought or word of mine used for short-term gain in the world has increased the misery I have felt inside because each lie of mine has taken me that bit further away from the real, true and joyous me inside.

    1. I can so relate to what you are saying here Raja.Thank you for this very honest comment.

      I know that I very often do not truly say what I feel over concern what the response will be and wanting to avoid feeling hurt, however I am aware that I end up feeling hurt anyway – hurt by not saying or honouring what I felt.

      Very often I have had thoughts/strategies as to how to change things, but in the end it does come down to the fact that if I do not chose to be myself in every situation, then I am setting myself up to feel hurt or feel that something in me needs fixing.

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