Hot Talk

What on earth is Hot Talk?
Who subscribes to this?
What does it mean?
Is there such a thing?
How is it used in our world?
WHY do we need to know about Hot Talk?

The world and its brothers and mothers talk.
We talk all sorts of stuff.
Some things make sense.
Other things make no sense.
We call that nonsense talk.

For the purpose of this blog –
HOT TALK is simply talking the talk but NOT Living what is being said.
In other words, not delivering what comes out of the mouth.

We seem to have hot air talking the talk, but it’s not real.

We struggle and find it difficult to back our Hot Talk nonsense.

We make out we are certain we will do what we say.
We simply don’t have the commitment to back up what we are saying.

We give it the big ’un that we are going to do this or that but we do bugger all.

We find it easy to do Hot Talk but that’s where it stops and ends.
We have this consistent tendency to make false promises.
We get this ‘is it worth it?’ so we give up at the first sign.
We convince ourselves that we can come up with the goods but we simply can’t.

We make others believe we will be there, no matter what.
We give it the Hot Talk saying lots of words to sound good.
We know it is impossible, but our mouth is expressing like it is possible.
We think we can do what is needed, but inside we know it’s no way.
We get caught every time when we do Hot Talk as we can never back it up.

We are like steam with our Hot Talk as it evaporates soon after we express it.

We are always talking about a new thing but it’s just Hot Talk.
We are bored doing Hot Talk but it has become a habit in daily life.
We always go into regret soon after our Hot Talk as it’s a non-starter.

We seem to enjoy Hot Talk but feel crap as we know it’s just talk.
We feel like we have failed, the moment we open our big mouths.
We don’t like the feeling it gives us when we do our Hot Talk business.
We know deep down our regular Hot Talk is fake and phoney.

We know inside us that our Hot Talk is a waste of time.
We know it’s cheap doing Hot Talk but yet we still do it.
We all know Hot Talk drains us because it is not real.

We get stressed as our Hot Talk babble seems to be consistent.
We get anxious every time we open our mouths and do this Hot Talk.

We think we are equipped to take action, but then the anxiety pops up and we go back to doing nothing.

We sometimes notice how silly we look doing the hot air Hot Talk.
We often realise that Hot Talk is cheap and has no meaning or purpose.
We find we can’t stop ourselves from this ugly behaviour of Hot Talk.

We seem to think we impress others because we find it easy to do Hot Talk.
We sort of convince ourselves that Hot Talk is what others want to hear.
We know our usual Hot Talk bores the pants off our family members.
We are known for Hot Talk with our mates because no action follows ever.
We want to copy others who do Hot Talk to keep up with them.

We like to think we are going to join the bandwagon like others, but know it’s not us.

We don’t like the thought of taking action and being consistent.
We find it very hard to deliver what we say with action to back it up.
We hate the fact that we need to take Responsibility when we talk.
We have well meaning thoughts to commit, but that’s where it ends.

Dear World

What if we are not equipped to deliver what we express because we are not living a life of True Responsibility?

What if we do the Hot Talk and have no intention of backing it up with True Actions?

What if we need to Commit to Life so that we can really talk the talk?

What if Hot Talk are just cheap words that are simply empty because there is nothing behind what is being expressed?

What if True Actions speak louder than words?

What if we don’t need to do Hot Talk?
What if we just need to get on with it?

 Could it be that Simple?

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Comments 12

  1. For the last month or so at work there’s been an ongoing conversation about how to measure something that just kept going around in circles without getting resolved as people got into ever more philosophical and abstract approaches.

    I feel like previously I would’ve participated way more enthusiastically in those conversations but I’ve learned a lot from Simple Living Global about getting on with it. Without asking anyone else’s opinion I decided to go rogue and try an approach that most people had sort of dismissed.

    When I shared the results of my approach I expected people to be skeptical because they’d already dismissed the theory behind it.

    The reaction I got was the complete opposite. Having mostly rejected the idea in theory, most people when presented with it already done totally got it and multiple people in the team are copying the approach for other uses.

    It was a huge lesson in the power of getting on with solving a problem rather than a lot of hot air about how to solve it. Now that I’ve seen how powerful that approach is I want to find all the other places in my life filled with hot talk and get on with it instead.

  2. True actions do speak louder than words. Too often we (I include myself in this) ‘inflate’ what we have done, exaggerate, or talk about things but haven’t taken responsibility for them. I know Ive done this for instance, in a work situation for fear of being ‘found out’ – Ive exaggerated or told a white lie about something I say I have completed when I haven’t completed it. Or if someone has asked why something broke I blame someone else or don’t speak up, when I know I had a part to play in why it broke. Every time I did this my body got hot and bothered and, I didn’t feel well – I felt queasy, under pressure, and worried I would get found out. I also know this felt complicated and dishonest.

    Nowadays to the best I can, I take care not to exaggerate, not to lie about something I haven’t done, and to take responsibility to the best I can, for something when it goes wrong. In learning to live like this my body feels less tense, and no longer feels under pressure or worried that I will get found out – I would far rather be honest and say I hadn’t done something than pretend I had.

  3. If you have something someone really wants and they say if you give me that I will give you sweeties and anything you want and you give it to them and then they don’t give you what they said, this feels really annoying and horrible.

    It is better that they give you what they say or don’t promise anything in the first place.

    1. Well said Thomas – it is truer to be real in life and if we know we can’t do something it is better to say no or be honest, than to make an empty promise that we don’t follow through.

  4. Absolutely great blog. So, so true.

    I feel we give ourselves a lot of hot talk too.

    All the self-promises about what we will and won’t do. The things we’ll stop doing or will start ‘tomorrow’.

    The cycle of internal disappointment, regret and incompletion might be more subtle, but it is just as draining.

    Applying the ‘getting on with it’ principle to our own internal dialogue feels as powerful as in our relationships with others.

    1. “The cycle of internal disappointment, regret and incompletion might be more subtle, but it is just as draining.

      Applying the ‘getting on with it’ principle to our own internal dialogue feels as powerful as in our relationships with others.”

      This really resonated for me. In my life at least right now, applying the getting on with it to my own internal dialogue might not only be AS powerful as applying it in relationships with others but potentially far MORE powerful.

      A wise woman recently asked me to consider “what are you allowing versus what are you indulging?”
      I thought of that question as I read this blog and I suspect a lot of my own hot talk comes not being clear on the border between allowing and indulging.

  5. What a great blog. How many times over the years I have said I will do something and I have not followed through. Then I end up frustrated because I know I have set myself up. Present day I tend to set myself small goals and stick to them, rather than unrealistic ones I know I will never achieve.

    Hot talk is in every day life. I always find it interesting when it is election time in the UK and each political party will present their manifesto and big promises to lure people to vote for them. I notice when they do win power they never follow through what they have promised and make excuses.

    This blog really sets the scene for me and is a great reminder to just be myself. There is no need to subscribe to band wagons or cheap talk.

  6. With the seasonal events coming up I feel there will be a lot of hot talk over this period, being nice when really we want to say No, going to see people we really don’t feel to. Making lists of changes for the coming year.. with expectations.. that never get done.

    I used to do all this, but over the last few years I have been getting more honest with myself and therefore life, still plenty to work on but it has had a big impact on how I am expressing myself, I am much more aware of when the hot talk is there and with out judging myself take note and and be more aware next time.

    Focussing on how I am living, taking care myself, staying present with my body and bringing this to my conversations I can feel how different this comes across in what I have to say, when I am talking from my experience.. and what I have lived.

    Super blog, thank you.

  7. I was involved with the alternative energy field for a number of years, supporting people to use energy wisely. This was a time when solar technology was getting popular. Many of the jobs I had were working with people that were buying solar panels because it was the “in” thing to do.

    I would explain to them that simply by installing more efficient appliances they would easily make up the difference a solar setup would provide. And it was a much more cost effective way to go. Most of the time they would ignore my suggestions and go for the panels installed on their roof. That was more exciting than changing their lightbulbs.

    I came to understand that just because it makes sense to do something, it does not mean that people will do it.
    It requires a change in consciousness to actually make a true change.

    I eventually stopped doing that kind of work because I felt I was not really helping people, in the way I wanted to.

    With support from Simple Living Global, I am now understanding how to truly support people to make changes in there lives.
    By living my life with true responsibility the best I can, I inspire people to want to change, in a deeper way.
    Then I do not have to tell them what to do. They know what to do.

  8. Ok, Politics, for me, the ultimate example of hot talk.
    Basically I feel most politicians will say whatever they feel they have to, to get elected.

    Yes, many politicians have good intentions, but when they get into the system, they get lost.
    They either play ball with the system, or they are gone.

    The system is so ingrained, it is very hard to get anything done. A major restructuring is in order.

    While I do not agree with many of the beliefs of the current leader of the USA. I feel he is less hot air than most politicians. Maybe he is what is needed to stir things up, and get on with it.

    1. I agree, Ken – politics is a hotbed of hot talk.

      But I’m increasingly seeing how every part of that is simply a reflection for all of us of what we are living and allowing.

      If we were all living integrity and responsibility and purpose, we would have a rich seam of politicians from which to choose and we would elect them and hold them (and they would also hold themselves) to account.

      So every time we see hot talk and no follow through or a lack of integrity in politics, we could actually see that as motivation to step up and bring what is truly needed, by our own way of living.

  9. I very seldom read a newspaper or surf the web because most of what I see is not worth reading.

    Why is that happening? We have the most amazing information system [the internet], and yet the quality and integrity of information on it, defeats all the possible benefits. How can you trust what you read and hear?

    We have created the internet that we have, it would not exist as it is, if was not for our input.

    Is it possible that we do not want see and take responsibility for the world that we have created, so we have created a virtual world?

    Is this why the internet is so popular with children? They can ignore reality and not face the fact that they are inheriting this world?

    For our children’s sake lets stop all the hot talk and get off the fence and get on with it.

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