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“The important thing is to NOT stop questioning”
Albert Einstein

  • Why do we ask Questions?
  • Why are young children constantly asking Questions?
  • Why is it important for us to ask Questions?
  • Is there a need for Questions?
  • What are we questioning?
  • Who are we questioning?
  • Why are we questioning?

From a very simple and basic understanding, children question everything, as they want to work things out and gain understanding so that they can learn.

Could it be possible that as adults, we at some point stop the questions and assume we are supposed to know the answers just because we are now grown up and society expects us to know?

Could it be possible that to pose questions can be uncomfortable or challenging for another so we avoid it at all costs?

Could it be possible that if we hold back asking questions about things that we know are not right, it guarantees things will never change?

Are we afraid that questions may lead to even more questioning and this feels disturbing to us?

  • Do we only question if it feels safe?
  • Do we calculate and work out what the response may be before we question anything?
  • Do we feel silly or stupid if we ask questions?
  • Do we feel we do not have the right to ask questions in certain situations?
  • Do we feel that our questions may not be valid or worth asking?
  • Do we feel our questions are not valuable so they do not deserve a response?
  • Do we expect others to ask questions for us and on behalf of us?
  • Do we feel uncomfortable knowing that by avoiding questions it harms others?
  • Do we know that asking questions helps us and our family, friends and community?

Do children sit there and work things out before asking a question?

No – they just keep asking and nothing stops them because they want to learn and grow.

It is innate and they ask questions well before they go to nursery or school.

Here is a clear sign that it is in us naturally to ask questions and yet we grow up and lose this ability to question things and be open to the answer.

So why do some of us choose to rarely question anything?

What stops us from asking questions?

  • Could it be possible that if we ask questions we are in effect asking others to respond?
  • Could it be possible that others may react to our questions and that feels scary?
  • Could it be possible that by asking questions we learn and grow?
  • Could it be possible that questions opens the door for us all to evolve?
  • Could it be possible that by not asking questions we are holding back something that could be valuable and important for our evolution?
  • Could it be possible that what you have to say is equally important for everyone to learn?
  • Could it be possible that if more people started to question things, our world may be different?
  • Could it be possible that what is missing is real honest questions?
  • Could it be possible that we focus on how the answer might be well before we even ask the question?
  • Could it be possible that we never give our self permission to ask questions?
  • Could it be possible that we only question those we know will give us the answer we want?
  • Could it be possible that we only question those we feel safe and secure with?
  • Could it be possible that we avoid questions publicly at all costs because others get to know your name and that feels too much?
  • Could it be possible that we play the joker and the funny guy because we do not want to be questioned seriously about anything?
  • Could it be possible that when we are questioned, we react and it is our reactions that make us feel uncomfortable?
  • Could it be possible that you feel there is no time for questions, as you just have to get on with life?
  • Could it be possible that by asking questions we have to take on some form of responsibility?
  • Could it be possible that our questions could mean that we are accountable on some level for what we are asking?
  • Could it be possible that all this questioning business is a total waste of time for you as you got far better things to do?
  • Could it be possible that you avoid questions unless it is about something you are confident talking about?
  • Could it be possible that by asking all these questions about why we question anything, is to get us to simply ponder on the following —

By asking questions we are saying that there is something more here to explore and we begin to open up a discussion that there is something bigger or grander on offer in that moment. To not ask the question confirms we stay stuck and comfortable exactly where we are. No change, no room for growth, no gradual development, so ultimately no evolving.

Inspired by the life and work of Serge Benhayon who has shown me that it is safe to question anything and be open to learning through understanding, as this allows for true evolution.
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  1. As I was reading this blog, the more I read I actually could feel myself giving myself permission to ask questions and that it’s OK. There’s actually nothing wrong with asking questions. You’ve brought a lot of understanding about questioning through this Blog Bina, it is true – How do we learn if we don’t allow ourselves to ask Questions and explore things?

    1. Well I can see no other way how we as a race of beings are going to evolve unless we start to ask questions and then get good at it and not be afraid to ask questions so we can learn. The thing is if we are seeking out someone to give us an answer then chances are we are not staying open to what is possible. A classic example could be you know alcohol is affecting your body and things are going hairy in your life and you want to give up but the people you go to for support all enjoy their glass of wine and say to you its ok just don’t drink too much. But you know deep down you are actually addicted to the stuff but you can hide it because of your status in society. So what happens?
      You probably stop asking questions and accept it and continue or struggle daily with trying to give it up.
      I stayed open and when I came across Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine I got my ‘ding dong’ moment about alcohol and it made sense. I know I kept asking questions like why did I need alcohol and why was I addicted to chocolate. The why why eventually got me sorted but without the questions I doubt I would be here writing this blog or comment.

      1. What a groundbreaking idea. If I get what you’re saying here, instead of trying to stop doing something you knew was bad for you/you didn’t like, you simply asked yourself why you’re doing it and kept asking until you got to the answer. Then when you got to the answer the behaviour could fall away because it wasn’t true for you. So simple, so effortless. In fact, it sounds like the most caring way to change your life. Blows all those self help books on Amazon out of the water.

  2. When I questioned adults as a child on anything that didn’t make sense to me, I was often told to be quiet or not to be so silly and that I was a nuisance if I persisted in my questioning or asked too many questions. I could also feel that some of my questions about life made the grown-ups feel uncomfortable. Short story, I put a lid on my questioning. I feel that this is a common story for most people – we are often not encouraged to ask questions, particularly those that challenge the status quo and then we get to accept this and go along in many instances because that is what gets us by. Asking questions is a mark of intelligence and shows we are looking more deeply at life. It is well worth overcoming any of the hurdles mentioned in this article that stop us asking questions – thanks Simple Living for the encouragement and the reminder.

    1. This is so true! And in fact I realised reading this blog that I have ‘put a lid on it’ moments as an adult too. When you ask questions and people’s reactions signal you’ve gone too far or you can feel it’s created a discomfort and you pull back so they don’t feel bad or so they don’t come at you or so you don’t lose face. In fact a wise person and someone dear to me told me a year or so ago that I ask too many questions and I could feel my response to that coming up as I read this blog. Coming up in a way for me to see that I’d put a lid on evolution by dialling down my questioning after that conversation – it let it have a real influence on me! How freeing to see the importance of questioning everything, in fact the responsibility we have to do so. If we take things at face value and never truly look beneath, that’s the same as accepting the constructs of society – the belief systems of other people and that’s the fastest way to become a lemming jumping off the cliff because all the other lemmings are doing it.

      1. What you say here is true because so many of us can relate to this Jenifer about only asking questions to a point because we can feel another is in reaction or feeling the discomfort. So what do we do, pull back, hold back in order to make sure the other person doesn’t feel bad or come at you as you say.
        The bit that is interesting in your comment is you mention a wise person.
        In truth how wise was that person that you hold dear when you made a deliberate choice of ‘dialling down’ your questioning from that one conversation and how it had ‘a real influence’ on you.
        It is high time we learned how to discern others even those we stick on a pedestal and label as ‘wise’.
        Always go with what you feel and so what if you get it wrong, at least you learn. Subscribing and following what another says means you ‘put a lid on evolution’. Not worth it because our relationship with Evolution is what really matters.

  3. Great comment Josephine about it being common in most people, putting the lid on questioning. We rarely challenge the status quo and yet we tend to moan about the way the world is and how bad things are getting. I love what you say that ‘asking questions is a mark of intelligence and shows we are looking more deeply at life’.
    This is exactly it.
    If we don’t ask questions then we just go around and around and then wonder why our life is stuck and not shifting gear. If you think about it, without the questions we cannot actually move on, expand, develop and evolve.

    1. That’s true, we moan and react to the way life is but never or rarely question it. Moaning has never gotten me or anyone else anywhere, yes it shows on some level we know there is a wrong but without the questions like – why and how we just go around in circles.

  4. I love staying open and curious in the world – there is so much to learn and so much to understand when we stay open and curious – and our awareness can deepen as can our honesty through that too.

    1. Staying open is great and I agree Jane it does support us with our awareness.
      By not questioning anything we are guaranteed to go around and around with our own head talk and pick up the odd thing from out there – usually the media and think that is it.
      I know that when we ask questions others may not like it or it may disturb them but if we are honest to the best of our ability with no hidden agenda, then how can that be a bad thing. Einstein told us not to stop questioning an we all know he contributed something like that simple quote that we are still banging on about today. Why?
      There has to be something about never stop asking questions that we as a world need and this is why it still stands today. History has a way of doing this.

  5. OK, so now I’m asking myself why there have been times I did not question…

    I realize, for me that it is because I had given up; I held a belief that the hard stuff had no answer at the time; in other words I gave up on the possibility of there being another way to see it; thinking there is nothing that will answer my most desperate questions I felt hopeless, questions like how to get out of my poverty, depression, negativity, repeating mistakes and dysfunctional relationships…

    …when I read a bit of Serge Benhayon’s work that all changed. I realized what I already knew (I was reminded), that there are reasons for everything and with openness and questioning I CAN find the true understanding I needed to get free of what was not working for me and with that I have come a million miles.

    1. Great comment Jo Billings and you are living proof that when we have that ‘giving up’ energy running our body things feel hopeless and desperate. I know from my past experience when I had given up on life that to question anything would mean change.
      Sounds crazy but it is true. You want change but you are so exhausted and feel its not possible or you have a ton of excuses.
      The moment we start to question and bring in the WHY, things shift instantly.
      I got all this and more from the teachings of Serge Benhayon.
      He gave me permission to question anything and everything and this is why this website is dedicated to humanity and asking them questions non stop.

  6. I feel you are spot on here Bina. questioning everything is the key to evolving. So, why are we not questioning everything? I feel that we start out with all the questions in the world but over the years, when we feel we cant actually make any difference to what is going on in the world, we start to stop asking questions and take a back seat. We then look at events across the globe and we say ‘thats awful’ and then carry on as normal. So us not asking questions is perpetuating the likes of greed, corruption, human trafficking, cyber abuse, drugs, etc. Starting to ask questions is never too late and if we all to start to ask questions then those in authority have to start to answer our questions.

    1. This is a great comment Tim and well expressed – thank you.
      I agree that ‘we take a back seat’ and stop asking questions like we think ‘its over there and not in my world and what difference can I make’, so to speak.
      As you say by not asking questions, is where the problem is. That is why corruption, greed, human trafficking, drugs, cyber abuse are on the increase. If enough of us started to demand answers those who need to be accountable would have to answer.
      We, each of us individuals make up this world and so we as individuals need to be asking questions and not accepting anything less, which keeps us in this mess we are currently in.

  7. Reading this blog has got me to ask myself why do I not ask more questions?
    Why did I stop when it comes so naturally to a child. From your list I get a sense of some of it, something to feel into and look at today.. and to ask why is our world the way it is, in the state it is in, in all the areas of life? Thank You

  8. Something that struck me recently was observing kids asking question after question and of course they do it so they can learn.
    We all know that life is a constant learning and so that means asking questions should be a constant – throughout our life.

    By asking questions, I seem to lift the fog that is sometimes in the way of what I need to see clearly and things start to make more sense. If I get an understanding because of the questions I have asked then this helps me to accept things and move on.

    Not asking questions I feel is why we seem to just accept things in life and it is not always for our highest good. In other words it may not be the truth for our evolution.

  9. Not asking questions has limited my experience of the world. I had all these questions inside and I did not let them out. So no more of that. I am questioning everything now.

    Yes, asking questions, even if you do not get an answer, shows that you are open to another way. Interested in what life is all about.

    If you ask questions, you give the opportunity for another person to look at life differently and possibly ask another question that will inspire you.

    It also gives the opportunity to deepen a relationship with someone. Allows other people to see that you are interested in what is going on in the world.

    If something is not working, question it. It is the only way things will change.

  10. I was not sure what blog to post this comment on and it really is about us asking questions.

    Out in the community yesterday, so this is a small microcosm of our world, but as we know it has an affect on the whole world – macrocosm.

    Parents own a busy business and after school the boys aged 4 and 8 play on those screens non stop for about 4-5 hours.
    I was talking to them but they could barely say anything as they were hooked on ‘killing the bad guys’ and trying to beat their previous score.

    What was interesting was the older boy was super quiet and the younger one was very loud and vocal and was constantly being asked to keep quiet.

    Should we be asking Questions or just say nothing as that is what most would do?
    WHY are they so hooked on these screens?
    How is this going to support them in the future?
    What does engaging with non humans on a game for hours going to do?
    What is the purpose?
    What affect could this be having on their mental health?
    What affect does this have on their true health and well being?
    How are they coping or dealing with any emotions that may arise during the day?
    How do they feel about having no connection with parents after school?
    What is the quality of life when we give our children small screens to keep them busy?
    What is it about modern technology that has such an impact on our kids?

    WHY are parents in my community telling me their children are not sleeping as they are addicted to computer games?
    Is this a 911, or a wake up call for us, as these children are going to be our future generations?

  11. What you say here Bina is really important. It is indeed a 911 and a wake up call for the world to start addressing this. I was spending time with my friend’s daughter who is 6 years old and I was astonished at the fact that her school give out computer tablets for the children to do their homework. So majority of her work is done on-line. What are we teaching our children? That to interact with LIFE you do this on the other end of a screen. What happened to face to face communication?

    There is a world wide issue with children who are Exhausted lying awake at night on their mobile phones and computers. Why are parents not questionining WHY their children are so Distracted. Could it be they are so Distracted themselves it is an easy option to IGNORE.

    We have created a generation of Exhausted Children. Should we not be Questioning WHY? This generation will grow up into Exhausted Adults. How are they expected to function in Life?

    Why are we not showing our children how to go to bed early? Could it be if we do not have a consistent sleep pattern ourselves that our children think it is okay to go to bed late.

    What happened to communicating with our children on a one to one level which in turn helps them to EXPRESS with real humans rather than a virtual one. Modern technology does not talk back, REAL PEOPLE DO.

  12. The question is am truly willing to commit to doing whatever is needed to support humanity?

    How far am I willing to go to surrender to God?

    If I am not not willing to totally surrender to God, then how can I surrender to anything?

    I am transitioning to a new job and new place to live. In the past I would just push through the process not really being open. I was making choices from a place of what society was asking of me not what felt right to me.

    I am now allowing surrender in all parts of my life. Surrendering to what ever is needed of me to support humanity. Very scary but it is what is needed, if we are to make true changes in the world.

    I am understanding that in order to move on in a surrendering way I first need to let go of all the things that I have done around creating a life of security. It is a process of trusting myself and God. That everything will be amazing.

    This process of letting go has already physical changed my body, and my life, I look and feel younger and there is less body tension. I am ready for whatever is next in my life.

    The old way of living life on our planet has not worked, it is time be honest about that and truly do something different. I am finding that if I can surrender to life, things just seem to flow. I feel like I am part of the plan rather then fighting for survival. That is the way our earth works and it is how we were meant to live.

  13. In my family of origin asking questions that were remotely personal or could bring up negative feelings was considered intrusive rather than caring. After my recent breakup my siblings and parents would for example ask me “how’s your new apartment?” rather than “how are you feeling about the breakup?” Seeing during the breakup what a huge difference those more direct questions made to how cared for I felt, I’ve started asking more questions like that of others – being less afraid to potentially unearth a negative feeling.

    It’s more like reconnecting with an old habit though because as a kid I asked a million questions, and for a long time one of the main ways I felt drawn to people was through the quality of the questions they asked. I loved people who asked daring questions and who asked common sense questions and realized I had strong negative reactions to people who asked questions only to appear smart or who only had one question for every situation applied like a hammer to not only nails but screws and pipes and who knows what else. So even though I’d temporarily disconnected from my own questioning abilities I was still reacting to it deeply in others.

  14. When I was really young, my mumma tells me I used to ask different adults lots of the same questions.

    I wanted to know if they would give me different answers or more information.

    This is because I am curious.

    I still ask loads of questions.

    I love asking questions.

  15. Questions are such an important thing to be asking so that we do not stay stuck and accept things as they are. I used to just accept everything as it is, my behaviours, the behaviours of others, how families are and how working life is, to name just a few areas of life, however there is no growth in that and by accepting things as they are, we actually allow abuse into our lives.

    For example – I used to accept that to be a woman it was important to be in a romantic relationship with a man.
    However as each romantic scenario occurred I would not feel great. For many years I would override this and push on through to try to make things work, but over the years I began to question – why I would feel emotional pain and whether this was normal?

    I questioned whether this was how relationships were supposed to be and most of all I started to question and inquire into what I felt I deserved.

    All of this has lead me to a point in my life where I have chosen to be single as a way of deeply respecting myself. This does not mean that I will never be open to a romantic relationship, but what it does mean is that through the questioning and the subsequent changes made it has lead me to raise the standard of how I choose to be treated in relationships. Without asking questions this would never have happened and I would have remained in very abusive relationships. Now I no longer have that in my life and it feels very good.

  16. Thank you for this super-important blog.

    As I read the post, I found myself asking myself, “when did I ask stop asking questions like a child asks questions?”

    What came to me was a memory of my father who often worked long hours and liked to decompress after work by reading the paper and sipping whisky. He liked to do this in quiet and he used to encourage myself and my brothers to go and play if we approached him to ask questions. Our mother discouraged us from engaging with Dad at these times in the evenings because she said Dad was tired and needed to rest.

    So, I feel, I developed over time at this young age a tendency to lace any intention to ask a question with a fear of rejection. This tendency than morphed over time into a pattern and habit of only asking questions when I feel safe.

    I had never seen this tendency in myself to only ask questions when I feel safe. Thank you so much – I may never have discovered this about myself without reading this tremendous post.

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