Regret

What does this word Regret do to us?

WHY do some of us live a life of Regret?

What is it about us that stays in Regret?

Cambridge Dictionary

Noun
A feeling of sadness about something sad or wrong or about a mistake that you make, and a wish that it could have been different and better.

Verb
To feel sorry about a situation, especially something sad or wrong or a mistake that you have made. (1)

Concise Oxford English Dictionary

Feel or express sorrow, repentance, or disappointment over.

Used in polite formulas to express apology or sadness. (2)

Google

Noun
A feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over an occurrence or something that one has done or failed to do. (3)

Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Noun
1    Sorrow aroused by circumstances beyond one’s control or power to repair.

2a. An expression of distressing emotion (such as sorrow).

Verb
1a.  To mourn the loss or death of.
b.  To miss very much.
2    To be very sorry for. (4)

Etymology

Noun
1530s – from the verb or from Middle French regret

Pain or distress in the mind at something done or left undone.

Verb
Late 14th century from Old French regreter.

To look back with distress or sorrowful longing;
To grieve for on remembering.

Long after, bewail, lament someone’s death; ask the help of (Modern French regretter). (5)

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WHY is the original word meaning not exactly the same today?
WHY do we not all unite on a one unified meaning of the word?

What is it about us that has different definitions about a word?

As this is a simple website, let us keep it simple.

According to the above descriptions, we could summarise that REGRET is:

When we feel sorry about someone who has died and we feel sad.

We have made a mistake and now realise that and feel sad or disappointed.

So what is it about Regret that keeps us re-living in our mind what we could have done or not done, said or not said at the time?

What are the endless list of Regrets that we have?

Regret our frivolous spending and now paying off the debt?

Regret not paying the overdue bill and getting the phone cut off?

Regret never bothering to learn how to cook, clean and do the laundry?

Regret living like a couch potato and now we are going to be evicted?

Regret living at home in our 40’s and never growing up and getting out there?

Regret putting up with abuse in our relationship, because we were scared?

Regret embarrassing someone we deeply respect in our drunken moment?

Regret the lack of respect and decency we present to others with our swearing?

Regret inviting our nosey neighbour around, who is the town’s biggest gossip?

Regret gossiping and judging others as we are now getting what that feels like?

Regret not opening our heart to others as we are afraid we will get hurt again?

Regret living our double life and not living a see through life?

Regret having an affair knowing the stakes were high from day one?

Regret acting like sensible adults with our kids, when we know we messed up?

Regret blowing money on our kids because we wanted to impress them?

Regret never taking any true action when it came to discipline for the children?

Regret going against teachers when they were doing their best for our child?

Regret ever buying mobile phones for our children at such a young age?

Regret pandering to our teenagers because we wanted them to like us?

Regret taking our adult grown up kids, who still live with us, on holiday?

Regret the broken relationships that have deeply hurt us?

Regret going into a relationship to get our needs met only to find it turns ugly?

Regret blowing all our savings on the person we no longer live with?

Regret trying to impress others as deep inside we know it’s a waste of effort?

Regret trying to please the world and its brothers as no one appreciates it?

Regret poking our nose into someone else’s business and making things worse?

Regret the unnecessary stress because we want others to see things our way?

Regret not speaking up when we had the opportunity so many times?

Regret the things we wanted to say to someone and now they have died?

Regret not being open and upfront with our parents when we could have done?

Regret the fact that we are never real and honest with others?

Regret saying what we were feeling to our dear friend?

Regret treating our dog like it was not our human friend?

Regret staying in the job when they were going to make us redundant?

Regret getting caught up in the nonsense which stops us doing our job?

Regret losing our job which was because of our behaviour?

Regret lying to the bank manager about our business?

Regret selling our house to fund our champagne lifestyle?

Regret trashing our body with copious amounts of alcohol?

Regret going out to party, when we really wanted an early night to sleep?

Regret the all-night bender as we never heard the alarm go off in the morning?

Regret the constant late nights as no amount of make-up covers the results?

Regret ever starting the cannabis road that led to other drugs?

Regret the whole month of December with our wayward behaviour?

Regret the whole Christmas thing as we keep falling for the same things?

Regret New Year as soon as it arrives, because the old year was awful?

Regret being Bored with Life because we know we can make other choices?

Regret eating foods that consistently give us heartburn?

Regret the late night curry as we can’t stop farting the next morning on the train?

Regret that bloated feeling we wake up to after the midnight munchies?

Regret living on junk food as we live life in the fast lane?

Regret drinking coffee as coming off it gives us headaches?

Regret eating chocolate because it has become our daily addiction?

Regret being addicted to soda drinks, which means we need more and more?

Regret taking the first energy drink with caffeine, as we need it every day now?

Regret living on sugar and snacks and now we have Obesity and Diabetes?

Regret overeating every day and having to buy large size clothes?

Regret every single Diet we have tried as none of them have ever worked?

Regret wanting more and more and never getting that perfect life?

Regret plastic surgery as we know it looks fake and phoney but it’s too late?

Regret abusing our health systems because we have lived irresponsibly?

Regret listening to other people and jumping on their bandwagon?

Regret the fact that we use lying as our normal because others do it too?

Regret lying to the shops so we can get more money out of them?

Regret creaming the welfare system knowing we have side cash jobs?

Regret being fooled by the media and other distractions?

Regret getting into video gaming which has us check out for hours?

Regret staying up all night playing video games on a school night?

Regret all the social media distractions we are hooked into everyday?

Regret spending time checking constantly who likes us on social media?

Regret posting on social media when we are drunk and not ourselves?

Regret using the Internet in a very irresponsible manner?

Regret ever going and visiting the dark world wide web?

Regret doing porn every day to get our fix, thinking no one knows?

Regret not having a table, so we eat in front of the TV every day?

Regret spending screen time and making that more important than face to face old fashioned talking at the dinner table with our family?

Regret sitting on the fence, when we could easily have said our bit?

Regret doing nothing when we could have done something?

Regret being cold in our own home as we don’t want to have a high gas bill?

Regret having cold hands and cold feet, as we never take care?

Regret never using our common sense hat when it is there all the time?

Regret talking on the doorstep freezing just to be polite to the neighbour?

Regret stepping out of the house, without our coat, as it was a short trip?

Regret dashing out of the house with no umbrella and getting soaked?

Regret ignoring the signs to rest more and now we have the common cold?

Regret our footwear choices because our feet are telling us loud and clear?

Regret blaming everything and everyone, when we know it is us?

Regret never cleaning out the cat mess and our house stinks big time?

Regret treating our car with disregard, neglect and no real care?

Regret leaving our travel card on the train as we never bothered to put it away safely?

Regret the serious stuff like forgetting the passports at home?

Regret the small things like forgetting to put the trash out on bin day?

Regret throwing litter out of the car window on the highway and getting caught?

Regret all our vices and our secrets as it disturbs us inside?

Regret losing the plot when we could easily have made sensible choices?

Regret our lifestyle choices which mean life is lived in the Fast Lane?

Regret every Birthday as we wanted to outshine others and it did not work?

Regret spending all that money on our kid’s birthday party just to outdo others?

Regret treating our mother in law to an expensive gift only to have her tell us off?

Regret paying excess luggage fee as we have still got the just incase syndrome?

Regret living in that just incase syndrome which drives us nuts every day?

Regret the hoarding and holding on we do when know we could let go of it?

Regret those silly moments like having those tattoos in places we cannot hide?

Regret that we cannot seem to hold our happy days as our issues keep coming up?

Regret the anxiety we wake up with, because we are not equipped to deal with the day ahead?

Regret the games we play every day just to avoid what we are aware of?

Regret feeling like we have gone backwards with our evolution because of our ill choices?

Regret the excuses we keep coming up with because we are comfortable in our lifestyle choices?

Regret the solutions we keep coming up with as they feel like band-aids?

Regret ignoring what the medics tell us to do, following serious surgery?

Regret not listening to the wisdom of our older generations, when we are young?

Regret never saving money the good old fashioned way, which does make sense?

What if we could choose to live another way?

What if there was a way to move from Regret?

What if we could get past the sadness of Regret?

What if we never have to feel disappointment again?

What if we never have to express Regret to anyone?

What if we could let go of our ugly thoughts of Regret?

What if we could wipe the slate clean of Regret?

What if we never have to carry the burden of Regret?

What if we could erase those memories of Regret?

What if we could remove all our past Regret days?

What if we could learn from our failures and move on, so we do not need to live in Regret?

What if we could see all our mistakes as a learning in order to evolve and so there is simply no need for Regret?

What if all those years of Regret do nothing other than delay our evolution?

What if Regret has no place to rest in our human body, so having Regret means we are in constant unrest?

Regret certainly keeps us stuck and going around in the same old patterns, which keeps us feeling all our errors and re-living them as if they were currently happening.

Imagine what these feelings are doing to our body?

Our mind has a way of keeping us repeating these old records in our head and stopping us from moving on.

What if Responsibility for how we live now and the daily choices we make, ERASE the thoughts of Regret?

What if by taking Responsibility for the daily choices we make in our life now, it supports us to re-imprint our past behaviour, so we no longer need to live in Regret?

What if Regret was and is a mistake and so it is simply a learning on our path, re-turning back to who we truly are?

What if Expression is Everything so by being open and expressing in full, in each given moment, there is no Regret or sadness, as we gave it our best at the time, with no holding back?

What if Regret is something we never need to feel again if we have the word Responsibility in every choice we make?

Could it be that simple?

References

(1) (n.d). Cambridge Dictionary. Retrieved January 4, 2017 from
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/regret

(2) Concise Oxford English Dictionary – Twelfth Edition. Oxford University Press. 2011

(3) (n.d). Google. Retrieved January 4, 2017 from
https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=regret+meaning&oq=REGRET&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0l5.4106j0j9&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

(4) (2017, December 28). Merriam-Webster Dictionary. Retrieved January 4, 2017 from
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/regret

(5) (n.d). Online Etymology Dictionary. Retrieved January 4, 2017 from
https://www.etymonline.com/word/regret

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Comments 7

  1. Brilliant blog – on a much needed topic.

    I wonder how many of us live in the world with regret – probably a lot, and as it is not a so called medical condition – we don’t have any statistics to know exactly how many of us feel regret.

    What I am curious about as regards regret is – does regret motivate us to act in a certain way or lead us to act in a certain way because of the regret – rather than us moving and acting based on true purpose?
    Do we for instance, bury the feeling of regret (as it is uncomfortable) by doing other distractionary things?

    I have had many regrets in the past and then acted in ways that didn’t actually take responsibility, but were a reaction of the regret I felt – simply said because I felt a regret I wanted to ‘make up for it’ by over compensating in some way. Examples would be:
    Regretting the way a relationship ended, vowing never to do it that way again, and then going on the ‘rebound’ to try and go for a ‘better’ relationship rather than look at the deeper rooted issues that were at play when the relationship ended.
    Regretted not getting a project done on time, and staying up all night in a frantic flurry to finish it – and in that damaging my body, and offering a below par project that was rushed.
    Regretting having eaten a food that wasn’t nourishing for my body – and then being self critical on myself, and then being over disciplined in my food/eating as a punishment to myself.
    None of which worked.

    What is brilliant in this blog is that there is another way – and, when I feel regret nowadays I am learning to take the next step having learnt, and with a willingness to take more responsibility, which really does work.

  2. If I can do the best I can, utilizing all of me, and accept that “mistakes” are not wrong just opportunities to grow, it pretty much leaves regret out of the picture.

    I go back to the young child that is constantly making “mistakes”, no regret there, just notice what happened and move on. We only learn to live in the past as we grow older.

    Be the forever student, as a wise man said, always ready for more.

  3. My life up until 7 years ago was full of regret and I could at the time write a book (being retorical) as it consumed my life so much. But what I did not realise at the time that by living in my regret I developed deep ingrained patterns of holding on to emotional stuff, feeling angry all the time and taking zero responsibility for the choices I made that led to my regret.

    When I did start to uncover this it was ugly and not easy to face. But with the help and support from the author of this blog I was able to understand and take Responsibility for my life without adding in the regret.

    Once again Simple Living Global has nailed it!

  4. This is an important topic for humanity.

    It feels like regret is such a common and draining thing.

    Running reel in your head of how things went or how they could have been.

    Thoughts cycling around, not actually going anywhere. Not letting you move on. In fact, dragging you down, making you feel less.

    Just yesterday I was thinking about something I didn’t say in a meeting.

    A missed opportunity, yes, but as I see from this blog, also a learning.

    And with the learning comes evolution.

    I say a big yes to that.

  5. Regret is focusing on the past, rather than being with what is happening now.
    I can find myself thinking about past events, and realize I am totally checked out, have no idea what has been going on around me, in the present moment. A great way to not have to take responsibility.

    Yes I need to observe what happened in the past but only to see what effect my choices have made, and how I might do something different in the future.

    It is all about responsibility and commitment to life. Do I just want to play in my mind, with what might have happened? Or focus on what is happening now and what is next.

    There are so many amazing opportunities that are being offered to us to use our special talents, time to let go of the past and get on with it!

  6. There is no regret when you are everything that you are in any situation.

    We just observe what is being presented and shine our light.

    It allows the magic to happen.

  7. If we feel regret when we remember a past event, could the regret be a message that maybe we should have done something different in that situation?

    So if we do not indulge in the regret, it could be a opportunity to evolve.

    Everything happens for a reason. It is up to us as to how we use the event.

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