SSS – STOP Shouting and Swearing

The following article is taken from the Simple Living Global Back to Basics presentation called SSS.

What is all this shouting and swearing about?
WHY do we need to shout?
WHY do we swear in the first place?
WHY has shouting and swearing become so normal?
WHY do most of us ignore those who shout and swear?
WHY do we allow others to shout and swear at us?
WHY do we Accept shouting and swearing in our world?

Is it possible to change our ill ways of living once and for All?

Is there another way to live that puts an end to this shouting business?

Is it possible that a level of understanding is needed to knock out swearing?

Would it be true to say that swearing means we are not really going anywhere?

Would it be true to say that swearing just feels like a normal thing to do these days?

Would it be true to say that consistently shouting becomes a habit – a pattern?

Would it be true to say that we find we cannot stop ourselves from shouting?

Would it be true to say that stomping and shouting helps no one?

Would it be true to say that we have become masters at winding ourselves up?

Would it be true to say that our brain feels like it has been hijacked when we start venting with our shouting and swearing?

Would it be true to say that we all have stuff constantly going on in our heads?

Would it be true to say it feels like thoughts coming in fast taking over?

Would it be true to say it feels like ugly thoughts that are not really us?

Would it be true to say that we sometimes act on these thoughts that hurt us?

Would it be true to say that if anything hurts us then it actually hurts everyone?

Most of us at some point feel the tension and pressure of anything we have not dealt with like our –

Buried Emotions
Deep Hurts
Issues
Unexpressed stuff
Sitting on the fence not doing anything
All the “should have said this, should have said that”

ADD to that the possibility that we think nobody is bothering to truly listen to that.
ADD to that the fact that no one actually did take the time growing up to listen.
ADD to that all the things we wanted to say but never did as no one had the time.
ADD to that all the moments where we could have said something but held back.
ADD to that the hurts that we pretend do not really exist but we know are still there.

ADD to that the crap life we think we got dished out and we have never got over it.
ADD to that the perfect childhood but deep down we know that was not the case.
ADD to that the being nice and polite syndrome, when inside we feel a volcano.
ADD to that the fact our life to this point has been totally fake and phoney.
ADD to that the probability that we wear a mask that is not us every single day.

ADD to that the double life we juggle just to make things look good on the outside.
ADD to that the lying we do every single day because we feel the Truth is possible.
ADD to that the pressures of keeping up with all our ways to have a perfect life.
ADD to that the regrets and all that guilt that wakes up with us every morning.
ADD to that the stress of just existing in this world to keep going and keep up.

ADD to that the drive to have more and more, which leads to even more frustration.
ADD to that the anger we feel but have never got to the root of WHY.
ADD to that the resentment we hold towards the world and its brothers.
ADD to that the bitterness we feel about the life we have that others don’t.
ADD to that the rage we sometimes feel from a build-up of unspoken frustration.

ADD to that a time bomb deep inside us waiting to explode without warning us.
ADD to that non-stop crazy thoughts that are out of character goading us.
ADD to that a voice inside our head pushing us to do something we know is not really us.
ADD to that a force that makes us act out something that we sense is not Truth.
ADD to that our odd behaviour that makes us think we are having a mad moment.

What if we think we have found a solution to deal with our buried stuff?
What if we demand the attention of others and shouting is our way?
What if our body wants to explode from time to time to release this pressure?

What if shouting comes from a feeling that no one is listening?
What if shouting is our only way of expressing to the world?
What if we think shouting somehow means we will get heard?
What if shouting was something we grew up with so just normal?
What if shouting disturbs our true natural state of being?

What if swearing takes the edge off for just one moment?
What if we think we have a right to swear as our life sucks?
What if we like swearing as we notice others pay attention to us?
What if swearing is what everyone does so we join the bandwagon?

What if swearing makes us sound cool with our mates but we hate it?
What if others swearing puts us off but at the same time we do it?
What if we always feel our body jump when others are swearing?
What if we dismiss those who are swearing like they have lost the plot?

What if we know little about the real truth of why we swear in the first place?
What if we don’t have real role models who simply do not need to swear?
What if the END of shouting means a more settled and steady body?

Dear World

Could it be possible that swearing and shouting means –

Our blood pressure rises?
Our blood needs to pump faster?
Our heart is under pressure?
Our breathing is out of sync?
Our nervous system starts to race?
Our brain can no longer think clearly?
Our body starts to harden?
Our jaw starts to tighten?
Our head starts to thump?
Our body feels unsettled?
Our organs are no longer in harmony?
Our body starts to shut down?
Our natural state is disturbed?
Our movements have changed?
Our balance is not steady?

What if there were people walking the Earth today who have knocked out shouting and swearing from their system?

What if there were people who understand deeply what shouting does to the human body and can present another way of living?

What if these people are the ones who hold the answers because they have gone from serial swearing to no swearing?

What if there is Another Way?
Could it be that Simple?

The author of this blog is living proof that it is possible to knock out this shouting and swearing business once and for All.

After attending a Universal Medicine Presentation by Serge Benhayon – a man who knows what he is talking about, it was the END of Shouting and Swearing.

With the understanding of WHY the need is there in the first place to shout and how to knock out this nonsense, things changed fast.

Having a deep understanding WHY we have a build up inside us of unexpressed emotions that want to explode in the form of swearing made simple sense.

Developing a true connection with our body with the Universal Medicine Gentle Breath Meditation. (1)
https://www.universalmedicine.co.uk/services/free-audio-library/gentle-breath-meditation

Learning how to stop and pause.
Clocking what just happened.
Asking Questions so we can get to the Truth.
Building a Foundation that supports our body.
Developing a daily rhythm that is all about Expression.
Finally, Living this without the need for perfection.

GOT IT.

NEXT –

Deal with the deep hurts, the daily frustrations feeling like the gall bladder was about to explode into rage, the hidden anger, the ugly bitterness, the resentment and the deep sadness and grief of the life that was my own ill choices.

Above all END THE BLAME game.

BINGO – THE END of shouting and swearing because it is ok to make Mistakes.

It comes from making new choices that support us in daily life.
Bringing life Back to Basics and that means Simple Living.
Changing our Priority in life.
Getting real and getting honest.
No longer making Lying normal.

This inspiration was first lived and then shared by way of presentation with a handout that goes into the detail of HOW we can live a life without the need for shouting and swearing.

It simply works because we have gone to the root cause and dealt with it. This means that it can no longer be a part of our living way.
In other words, we are free from the ill vibration of shouting and swearing.

References

(1) Benhayon, S. The Gentle Breath Meditation. Universal Medicine. Retrieved July 23, 2017 from
https://www.universalmedicine.co.uk/services/free-audio-library/gentle-breath-meditation

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Comments 23

  1. I have worked in jobs where swearing is considered normal, and have joined into that way of talking.

    I am recognizing that I went along with swearing so I would fit in.

    It does not feel ok, when I swear. That is the truth.

    No more overriding what I feel is true.

    1. Very interesting to read this, Ken. There are so many environments where swearing is the norm so it would be easier to fit in if you also swear. I know I have done that or sworn to present a particular image.

      I remember a friend at uni who used to swear when he was thinking instead of saying ‘erm’. It was a habit he said he’d picked up in the army.

      I have read about moves to outlaw swearing in the workplace in certain countries, usually in the context of anti-bullying efforts. For example this in New Zealand: http://www.stuff.co.nz/business/73323499/look-out-workplace-potty-mouths–swearing-at-work-a-nogo

      It makes sense that a reduction in swearing would lead to a less aggressive working environment.

  2. Many people have told me that venting anger or emotions is needed…

    I had one counselor who would buy china dishes from lawn sales and smash them in her basement and others recommend hitting a punching bag but…

    … is it possible that this does not change anything?

    I find that venting, being vented at or being in the presence of one who is venting (swearing or yelling) feels terrible in my body and there is always more behind it like there is an endless supply…

    …So is it possible that when we consider swearing and yelling to be normal or acceptable we are just giving ourselves or others ‘permission’ to vent without taking the responsibility to STOP & FEEL and communicate about it if needed so we can bring understanding to what is bothering us?

    Simple Living Global has shown me that when I simply honour what I’m feeling and look at what I am reacting to, I am able to let go of the emotions that make me feel bad or sick or stuck; then I am more free to just be who I am.

    There are Universal Laws; one can be shown in the phrase “what goes around comes around”.

    If what we ‘put out’ comes back, are we magnifying our symptoms by expressing in reaction, instead of getting to what caused it?

    Can we consider that what is needed is truth-full-ness to break this cycle?

    Could truth-fullness be the key to break any unwanted cycle that is disharmonious?

  3. “What if swearing takes the edge off for just one moment?”

    This has been exactly my experience of swearing, both for myself and those around me.

    Just yesterday my husband hit his head and bang, out came a swear word. I know for myself that is a much easier reaction than (1) feeling how much it actually hurt (2) pausing to clock why it happened, which for me would usually have been not taking enough care of my movements.

    For me, swearing would always have been an outlet for what was running through me and a cover up for what was really going on. I’m finding the more care I take of myself the less I want or need either.

  4. I haven’t shouted or used swearing much in my life but when I did things never felt complete and I felt sick afterwards as actually it felt like an assault on my body, and an assault on others. If I did swear it was like taking the top off to vent something, but I never dealt with what was at the root of that so the issue came up again and again, until I dealt with it.

    What I have come to realise through the inspiration of Serge Benhayon is that I have a responsibility in every part of my life – and if something doesn’t feel right, I now look at my part in that, which stops me from going into blaming others or getting into rage or frustration about others.

  5. Swearing is a way of avoiding taking responsibility for what happened. Avoiding looking at the message the incident was presenting to us.

    If we react to a situation then there is something there for us, that we do not want to see or feel. The reaction [swearing] is a way of not feeling what is really going on.

    So if we swear and can catch ourselves in the reaction, it can be an opportunity to deal with an issue or hurt.

    This process can be as easy as nominating the situation, really wanting to know the truth, and feeling in our body what is there to feel.

    Simple Living Global has supported me to remember this natural process with Skype sessions.
    It has helped me deal with many emotional issues, which has totally changed my life.

    I am 66 years old and feel like I am starting a new life.

  6. This blog explains alot! Thank you Simple Living Global.

    There has been a news story bounding around in the UK this last week about a man screaming at someone saying ‘Get ready to die’ in what is described as a fit of road rage.

    However it has also been revealed that this man is a fan of nature and practices mindfullness so ordinarily we would think that this guy would be cool, calm and collected.

    So what happened for him to lose it?

    In my experience being blissed out on meditation practice such as mindfullness is not the answer. All that happens is our stuff gets buried – so all of the emotions don’t actually go anywhere but are pushed down – so we can present a nice image to the world.

    Most certainly the first step in me being real and not pretending has been to use the Universal Medicine Gentle Breath Meditation to connect to me and my body rather than escape and deny what I am feeling. As a result I now have very few angry outbursts as I deal with the underlying sadness that the anger was covering.

  7. I’ve not been a shouter and very very occasionally swore, still had the pent up feeling inside but just held it in. I didn’t want to let it out as I could feel the intensity of it. From the presentations of Serge Benhayon I learnt that holding it in, being silent, was just as harmful to the body and everyone else as shouting and swearing, the energy was still the same. I learnt to deal with what was behind those feelings/emotions, learned to express what I was feeling without emotion and changed how I was reacting to life, taking responsibility for my choices and not giving myself a hard time about it.

    It is a great feeling not to have all those pent up emotions inside and to express what I am feeling instead, I can feel how this keeps a harmonious balance in my body and how I am in everyday life, with no perfection, so now if I feel a twinge of annoyance or irritation I feel it loud and clear and can do something about it by seeing it for what it is and expressing.

    The Universal Medicine Gentle Breath Meditation has really helped me.

  8. I’m reading this blog and wondering if all our swearing and shouting has contributed to the ‘threat culture’ we are seeing online.

    We all know cyber trolling is widespread and on the rise. And it is apparently now commonplace for our politicians to suffer serious threats as a result of their work – 85 are now under police protection.

    Something is not right here.

    Do we all need a dose of SSS?

    What impact would it have on these trends if we all went on an SSS programme?

    https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.express.co.uk/news/uk/780726/mps-police-security-protection-85-serious-threats-jo-cox-murder-neil-coyle-chris-bryant/amp

  9. ‘What if we think shouting at somehow means we will get heard?’
    Interesting as I find that when someone is shouting, I find it more difficult to hear them, apart from the volume there is such a force coming with it.
    When two people or more are shouting can anything be really heard at all?

  10. Shouting and swearing just shuts down any possibility of true communication or connection.

    When I was a child I feel like I totally contracted when someone shouted at me. That I had done something wrong.

    In order to make any true changes in our world it is critical that we communicate well. That requires a level of respect for another person.

    With support from Simple Living Global I have been dealing with my issues. Because of this I am able to observe and understand what is happening and not react. This allows me to make a better response to the situation. No more SSS for me!

  11. I came from a family that did not swear. I can remember when I started to swear around my teens. Looking back it was when I was Upset, Angry and Frustrated about something. For many years I would end up swearing to myself (inward) more so than verbal. That was just as bad then saying it verbal. Every third word had a swear word in it.

    Fast forward swearing is not in my vocabulary at all. WHY? Because I started to EXPRESS the things that were bothering me rather than using a Swearing tool that got me in more of a MESS and left me STUCK in A RUT of MISERY.

    Swearing and of course Shouting covers up our EXPRESSION and so our Frustration and Anger digs deep into the body.
    Hence onset of illness and disease. We all know how our body feels when we shout and swear so WHY do it.

  12. I never really exploded in shouting but did have pent up emotions held in my body, backed up so making me ill. Looking at why helped my to understand that it was because I was not expressing what I felt. From doing the Universal Medicine Gentle Breath Meditation this supported me, over time, to be with and stay with my body learning express from what I felt. This meant the had conversations and arguments I had running over and over in my mind reduced and reduced as I expressed what was there to be expressed. I am not fluent with this yet but I express a whole lot more now and when I don’t I can just acknowledge it for what it is, express if there is the opportunity or learn from it, nominate it, let it go and move on.

  13. It looks like mums are far from immune on the swearing and shouting front.

    The papers report advertisers want to stop their adverts appearing next to posts from venting mums on mum-support-networks – and those swearing posts are prolific.

    I have seen that as a new mum – the fatigue and the tension building up inside.

    I wonder what a difference a big dose of the medicine in this blog would make to those mums:

    Learning how to stop and pause.
    Clocking what just happened.
    Asking Questions so we can get to the Truth.
    Building a Foundation that supports our body.
    Developing a daily rhythm that is all about Expression.
    Finally, Living this without the need for perfection…

    Deal with the deep hurts, the daily frustrations feeling like the gall bladder was about to explode into rage, the hidden anger, the ugly bitterness, the resentment and the deep sadness and grief of the life that was my own ill choices.

  14. Top blog Simple Living Global, on a subject that definitely needs more understanding.

    Swearing seems to be such a normal part of our lives.

    Why is that?

    Why do we use swear words to say want we want or how we feel?

    Take the ‘F’ word for example:
    How is it that one word can say so much without saying anything?

    We say F*** when we are angry.
    We say F*** when we hurt ourselves.
    We say F*** when we are sad.
    We say F*** when we are happy.
    We say F*** when we do or see something amazing.
    We say F*** when we are being friendly.
    We say F*** when we are surprised
    We say F*** when we get good news.
    We say F*** when we are frustrated.
    We say F*** when we want to exaggerate things.
    We say F*** when we are shocked.
    And the list goes on…

    I used to be the above list but not anymore. Since gaining an understanding from Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine, I now know how harmful it is to use swear words instead of expressing, in full, how I truly feel.

    I very rarely swear these days but if I do, firstly, I know it is a build-up of ‘stuff’ that I haven’t expressed in full and secondly, it actually hurts my body if I swear now.

    It also has an effect on me when other people swear and although it shouldn’t necessarily have a different affect, when women swear, it feels even more harmful.

    So, going back to my first question of ‘why does swearing seem to be a normal part of our lives’?

    Is it because we are just too lazy to express in full?
    Or
    Is it because, as a race of beings, we haven’t expressed our truth for so long, we have forgotten how to truly express?

  15. An article in the ‘Metro’ newspaper, 3rd November 2017, gives a review on a new restaurant that has a swear word in its title.

    It talks about the strange “hotchpotch of anything goes flavours” which I assume lends to the title of the restaurant.

    The first sentence of this article says, ”What a noble tradition swearing is – there’s nothing quite like letting rip with a few profanities and imprecations.”

    Most people will swear to express when they are angry, sad, annoyed, frustrated or any other negative feeling and there are some who swear to express positive feelings as well.

    How is it possible that swearing can be seen as a ‘noble tradition’?

    Is it possible that swearing is just a way of expressing an emotion without truly expressing that emotion?

    Is it possible this article would have been better served if it was asking the question of why someone would have a swear word in the name of their restaurant?

  16. Metro News – 20 December 2017

    Rochdale town planned to fine people £100 for swearing but this plan has now been dropped. Critics have said it breached human rights.

    After reading this blog, using our common sense and putting our understanding hat on – WHY would anyone want to swear in the first place?

    As a serial swearing person in public in the past, I thought it was cool and got me noticed and it was worse with alcohol.

    I can honestly say I no longer swear and it has been over a decade.

    I am not looking for an award and I am not saying we need to fine the public, as that task would be impossible in reality.

    What I am saying is that to stop swearing, I needed an understanding that made sense.

    What if this Simple Living Global article is talking sense and has wisdom that can be applied?
    What if the author does know what they are talking about?
    What if the answers are here for all of us, if we choose?

    Imagine a world one day where no one even knows what swearing is.

  17. A small queue at airport customs and the guys behind me were swearing profusely about it.

    They were still swearing as we exited.

    You could tell they were getting off on the swearing. Bringing in as many different profane words as possible. Playing off one another. Making sure people around them heard.

    I have done my fair share of swearing in the past and it is interesting to see the patterns playing out in others – seeing what may be fuelling it for them.

    I wonder how they would feel reading this blog – what understanding it might bring them, as it has for me.

  18. A man on the train yesterday having a row on the phone with his partner.

    The train wasn’t so busy and everyone was politely pretending it wasn’t happening – giving him space.

    Then he swore. You could feel the whole thing shift.

    His tension increased, his body position got more angled, his voice got harder and tighter. The argument went downhill fast. The floodgates opened to more swearing.

    The people in the carriage got tense and started to get annoyed. Where there had been understanding before, now there was none. The argument became an imposition on everyone.

    The destructive power of swearing for all to see.

  19. Shouting & Swearing to me makes my body feel ill and out of body experience. When I swear on occasion and say it out of anger, I always question where I left myself or react to say that. Growing up it was normal to hear my dad swear a lot in Gujarati and for him it was normal in conversation with family & friends. He also talked very loudly as if shouting but he was not shouting just normally speaking. This as a child made me shut down a lot because I just didn’t like all the noise and bad words.

    The crazy thing is that I’m a parent now and have shouted towards my boys regarding one thing or another and have come to realize how it may make them feel if I myself do not like my body vibration.
    I have learned to choose a different way of communication with them. However, it continues to be a work in progress!

    It’s amazing that swearing has become the norm around all situations.

  20. I have never really been one to swear, but most definitely I have shouted. When I hear anyone shout or swear it actually disturbs me, as it has a jarring feeling.

    I know that when I have shouted, it has been out of frustration – either feeling not listened to or allowing pent up feelings over a situation that I cannot control being expressed in the shout. However if I was honest in my communication by saying ‘I don’t feel listened to’ or if I accepted situations, rather than trying to control them, I feel that the need to shout would not have been there.

    I have never felt good when I have shouted, so I doubt that others are left feeling good afterwards either.

    What if NOT swearing and shouting are good medicine, not just for us but others too?

  21. Friends concluded over lunch yesterday that swearing is way more prevalent now than when they were growing up.

    Back then, you would be severely disciplined if you swore and certainly if you swore at someone, and this happened very rarely. It was seen as extreme behaviour.

    The observation was that swearing has become normalised, to the point that it is now not seen as a big deal. And that swear words are used in conversation, not just in arguments.

    There was a reflection on why this would be. Why have we accepted this increase? How did it come about?

    And what it is actually like when we swear or hear swearing, regardless of whether it is common or not?

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