What is Our Priority?

What is it that we view as more important than anything else?

What do we value the most in our lives?

What do we think needs our extra attention?

What do we choose to focus on as our priority?

Do we have an urgency about certain things but not other things?

Do we have a mental list of what we think is our priority in our life?

Do we just accept our Priorities in life and never question them?

Do we think checking our social media is more important than a real life chat?
Do we put watching Sport before the health of our family?
Do we see our headache or sore throat as less priority as it’s only minor?
Do we have a ‘to do’ list that is our major priority?

Is our work our biggest priority?
Is security and protection our highest priority?
Is our next holiday our main priority?
Is making money at whatever cost, our only priority?
Is nothing really a priority anymore in our lives?

Are the kids our greatest priority over our own health?

Do we feel our true health and well-being is not at the top of our priority list?
Do we think our partner suffering with pain is ok as it is not a 911?

Do we actually care what our Priority in Life is?
Do we ever stop and ask the WHY question?
Do we ever review our Priority in Life?

Have we ever stopped and asked what is our PRIORITY IN LIFE?

Over 20 years ago, I had emergency surgery and my partner was not able to be with me as he was playing in a sports tournament. Not having his support most certainly affected my time in hospital and understandably so. At the time his PRIORITY was to not let the team down above anything else.  Fast forward today and that would not happen. WHY?

Simple – we now have a different PRIORITY and that changes everything.

Could it be possible that when we start to take true RESPONSIBILITY for our own health and well-being and make this our number one PRIORITY, we begin to value things differently?

Could it be possible when our body’s health is number one on our priority list, our daily choices hold a quality of Responsibility?

Could it be possible when we start to value our true health, we hold that EQUAL value for another, no matter who it is?

Could it be possible that if we make lifestyle choices that support our body, we are equipped to deal with anything that life presents?

Could it be possible that when our PRIORITY is to ensure our well-being is at the top of our ‘to do’ list, others get the best of us?

Could it be possible that once we put our True Health at the top of our Priority list every single day, our health systems will feel the benefits?

Could it be possible that if our PRIORITY was our True Health and Well-Being, we would feel the urgency that our world is suffering?

Could it be possible we would then sense the RESPONSIBILITY we have to inspire others by the way that we Live?

Could this be the answer to our World Health problems?

Dear World,

Could it be that simple?

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  1. Oh man… What a question.
    In reading this blog I can see how simple it is that if my life is not working or feeling the way I know, deep down, it could & should be & feel I can see that it is time to look at and re-assess my PRIORITIES.

    In having this question put before me, “What Is Our Priority?” I look around and easily see that, on the whole, we as a human race we are not prioritizing what most needs our focus in order to address and change the many issues, illnesses, disharmonious ways & relationships we are all in.

    This question is a big deal and worth looking into as raises true answers to all our miseries.

    Over the past 6 years, Simple Living Global has inspired me to focus much more on my body and well being. I am still shifting my priorities over from the many peripheral, ‘fun’, surface distractions I used to use to not deal with my self, my situation or life, to listening to and honoring what my body is communicating to me. This has changed my priorities with others as well and brought me into a more responsible perspective as I look out to life.

    Now that I am living a more healthy and whole life due to changing my ‘priorities’ I know the big part I am to play in this world where self care comes, all too often, at the end of a long list…

    1. Great point you make Jo Elmer how we simply do not prioritise and focus on what is truly needed that is important and this is what can lead to all sorts of stress and complications.
      The blog title is a question that as you say is ‘a big deal and worth looking into ..’ because we could get back on track if we got our priority in life.

      The reason you feel inspired by Simple Living Global is simple – the person reflecting to you another way to live is presenting what they live. That means there is no room or empty gaps in there for made up stuff and fluff to fill it all up. It is real, practical, easy and above all LIVED by the person saying it does work – give it a go.
      When someone chooses to present what they live it holds a quality, a vibration so to speak that is felt by others. For some they may say they don’t like it because they don’t really want change and thats ok but the truth is you can’t knock it as deep down we can feel what is truth and what is not.
      Changing our priorities in life is a game changer and one we all need to get to one day.

  2. Priority for our health and well being is way down the list for most of the world today.
    Sad but true. This is why we all need a stop and pause moment to question WHY.

    WHY do we not have our health and well being a the top of our priority list?
    WHY is RESPONSIBILITY so needed at the top end of our priority list everyday?

  3. It is so easy to prioritise the things that are not a priority. We put going out, meeting up with family and friends etc first. We do this when we are EXHAUSTED as opposed to not doing that and going to bed early and getting a restful sleep. That was me a few years ago no longer. I put me FIRST above all. I can’t function if I do not look after me in the first instance. I still do prioritise but in the right order and not at the detriment of me. A great blog!

    1. Yes indeed Priscilla this is ‘a great blog’.
      A strong message about what exactly is our priority if we are honest.
      It seems that most of us chop and change our priorities to suit us and suit where we are at.
      I have come to realise that focus is needed to keep our priority in life where there are adjustments made to allow for unexpected things which happen.
      example – following a training course, I returned home and my priorities needed to change. I had to focus and make effort to stick to the new plan that week to allow for the extra changes that had happened. No big deal but I was more aware of how things would not flow unless the priority was there in the first place. A great way to live.

  4. The question about our priorities is a great one because it shows us that the ball is in our court so to speak, that is, that we have free will to change our priorities. We can actually choose to make more loving choices and make that our priority.

    1. Thank you Elizabeth for spelling it out that ‘we can actually choose..’
      The power of choice is huge and it speaks volumes. We have a choice in everything and that includes what we want on our priority list.
      Even if we are not aware, we all have some form of priority in our life. For some it maybe their parents or kids, others work, sport, food whatever. The state of our world today is that our human frame and its well-being is not on the top priority for the majority and our health statistics confirm this fact.

  5. What IS our priority? Great question which is worth assessing again and again.
    Looking at the world around me it appears that we have Security prioritised way over the Quality of life.
    We have Comfort prioritised way over true Connectng to and Being True to who we are deep down.
    We have Images of what is the Right Way to live prioritised way over the True Way we can sense in our Hearts.
    We have prioritised the Quantity produced rather than the Quality inherent in all things.
    And we have Function of our body and every other aspect of life way over the Harmonious Rhythm and Flow which allows and naturally promotes a Loving Expression.
    Why do we not wake with absolute Joy to face our every new day? And Why is our wold in such dire mess? All we need do is look at our priorities.

    1. Great that you have expanded on this blog Golnaz and given the reader more to ponder on about what is their priority in life. Thank You.

      Security and Comfort as you say are big priorities in most peoples lives. Fear based usually coming from our past and then anxiety about the future makes us seeking security at all costs.
      I agree quantity seems to be favoured than quality.
      Even in research qualitative research which is anecdotal is not really taken seriously.
      You give a great answer to your question about why the world is in such a mess –
      ALL WE NEED TO DO IS LOOK AT OUR PRIORITIES.

  6. This blog highlights the importance of Priority and brings it’s focus to what really matters, our responsibility with our choices and truth of what this word carries. How easily Priority can be put onto everyday things rather than the self responsibility you talk of, and wow what difference this would make on our health systems. I know for sure changing my choices to responsible ones have stopped me being a drain on the health system. Listening to my body’s messages, pains, aches, illnesses and responsibly doing something about it along with deeply caring for myself has brought remarkable change to my health and wellbeing. Thank you Simple Living for asking ‘ What is Our Priority ‘ .

    1. A great comment Ruth and thank you for sharing.
      I like what you say about ‘the truth of what this word carries’ when you talk about RESPONSIBILITY. How many of us ever stop to feel the truth of what a single word carries?
      Your own story about taking responsibility means you no longer drain our health system and this is huge and well worth taking note of. Doing something about why you got ill in the first place and being honest about how your choices may be why you got the pain, ache or illness is taking responsibility and should be a priority for all of us.

      1. Yes and with the over burdening on our health services and packed out hospitals, rather than us complaining about these services and long waiting times maybe if we started to look at why we are ill or in pain, at our choices in life.. making This Our Priority, not only could this be the beginning of our true healing but ease the amount we are leaning on the health services, like the NHS.

  7. I have been feeling the deep hurt that I felt when my mom choose not touch me with tenderness. I am feeling the devastation I felt when her priorities were other then loving me.

    I understand now that because she could not love herself, she could not truly love me. And I understand that it was my responsibility to love myself at some point and that I carried that hurt for so long because I did not want to take responsibility for loving myself because I felt the world owed me that love.

    With support from Simple-Living Global I am changing my priorities so I can serve mankind in the best way I can.

    1. It is interesting how we carry deep hurts and demand from others what they simply cannot give us. We judge others when their priority is not loving us in the way we want them to. It is great that you now have an understanding and have taken responsibility to love yourself and not expect or demand it from another.
      Changing our priorities as this blog is presenting makes sense and can serve our world instead of draining mankind.

  8. Great questions are raised here that are shaking the comfort we are sometimes in – always inspiring to read the articles on this website. Bringing awareness and deeper understanding for our responsibility.

    Thanks Simple Living Global for uncovering that what is not true and getting the awareness back to that what is needed to be done for a better and greater together.

    1. Questions need to be asked so that we can all be shaken out of the comfort that we are really finding uncomfortable.
      Comfort is delaying our evolution. Nothing changes, the world continues to suffer and we have to live with our misery and agony every single day.
      Change our priorities and things get moving in a way that ensures a more joyful and content life because taking RESPONSIBILITY is at the top of our list.

  9. Many people believe that there priorities are ok because they are doing things that they believe are good for people or our earth. But are they really helping when they are so exhausted they need stimulants to get through the day?

    I learned from my parenting experience that I could not take care of my children, with any quality if I was exhausted. Also that children learn from what they see, not what they are told, so what am I showing my children as a way to live?

    My children were my priorities but was I really helping them if I was living a life that was in disregard of myself?

    It takes a deep level of honesty to ask questions like this, but this is what it takes to create true priorities in our lives.

    1. This comment speaks volumes Ken Elmer so thank you for your honest sharing.

      How many of us actually stop and question the QUALITY of how we are living as a priority?
      In other words, if we are exhausted as you say here Ken then how can we believe we are doing good for other people or our planet.
      Is it really serving humanity if we are lacking a deeper level of honesty and think we are doing ok when the quality is simply not there because our choices tell us so?
      A good point you mention about your children being your priority and yet you was living with a level of disregard. Kids know and they can feel everything. They may not express what they truly feel for whatever reason but if there are no true role models around, we can bet our bottom dollar they will not have a true priority list that does not harm self, others or their environment.

    2. Ken you raised an interesting point about parenting from exhaustion.

      I have observed this constantly in my work environment as a midwife. Mother’s give birth to their babies and whilst they are on the ward, the other children or extended family visit. These mothers continue to mother the other children visiting them in hospital forgetting she had spent hours in labour or that she has to present herself with a certain image to the extended family.

      One woman looked absolutely exhausted made herself get out of bed despite a disturbed night with her baby all because her in-laws were visiting. She stated she had better make an effort and yet disregarded what her whole body was saying – ‘you’re tired, please rest/sleep’. Half an hour later all made up, she waited for them to visit. Where is the sense in this, her body was already signalling and she continued to function.

      How is it impacting her baby? How is it impacting her feeding or relationship she is forming with her baby, who is this woman when she is with her newborn? She ignored her body, she ignored what her priorities were in that given moment with her newborn

  10. A powerful message here – what is really going on with the world?
    Technology is making things faster and yet we are no further a head. Health systems aren’t making any one well from true health but from a quick fix health and then no wonder they are always busy.

    I have worked in the health systems in both Australia and UK and I have observed, priorities have changed, patients’s length of stay, let’s get them in and let’s get them out just as quick. Audits are a priority, are we achieving high scores, if not why, then fix it so we can look good, forget that we are short staffed or ran off their feet, audits are a priority – the list is endless but sadly I observe no priority in the state of the staff’s health.

    I was at the receiving end of not prioritising my own health, just functioning and existing. As already mentioned, exhaustion, was continually knocking on my door till one day it broke it down, I had no choice but to take heed and listen to the messages that were always there, I asked myself, who am I really living for?

    Fast tracking 2 years, with no perfection, mastery or degrees I am listening to my body more. I pay more attention to what is important to me and my body, the rest will prioritise itself as I become me, the real me, the whole me instead of part me.

    1. A great question here that you have given us all Shushila – who are we really living for?
      We all need to be asking this and starting with honesty so we can get to Truth one day.

      If we do not make our body that of True Health and Well-Being then what is the quality we are doing things in?
      Those like you working in our healthcare system care for others so there is a huge RESPONSIBILITY to present a body that is at the minimum being taken care of which means paying attention and listening to what it is communicating as you say.

  11. Yes, it is all about priorities but my my experience is I can not prioritize truly if I am exhausted. Of course if I am exhausted my priority should be to take care of myself, but i have been exhausted most of my life and did not realize it. So what is going on?
    Even when i could barely walk up stairs and my doctor said i was in good physical health I still could not accept the fact that i was just wiped out. I feel this is because I had done all the “right” things in my life, so i could not possible be exhausted.

    So my beliefs of how I should be really controlled the choices i made. I have felt I am more open to doing something different then many people, but i realize now how my beliefs still have a strong hold on me.

    I am slowing down and checking in with myself more often. This gives me a better chance to make choices that are good for me, and that will allow me to make better choices that affect humanity.

    1. So many of us would be able to relate to what you are saying here Ken Elmer about the fact that you could simply not prioritise because you were exhausted.
      This is telling us something here – that our thinking is not clear and it is like we are in a fog and cannot see through it when our body is exhausted.
      You mention about your doctor confirming you are in good physical health when you felt ‘wiped out’ is telling us something. With due respect to our doctors, could it be possible that they themselves with all that training in medical school and enormous pressure and workloads actually have exhaustion?
      Could it be possible that we cannot see or confirm exhaustion in another when we carry that ill in our body as it is not cleared?
      This might sound a bit way off but it is no different to a smoker telling someone to give up smoking. The person advising still carries the ill so the words do not hold the power for true change.
      From lived experience I know that my priorities change and sometimes it is daily. Life is constantly moving, nothing stands still and the same even if our comfort minds like to think so. That ‘checking in’ with yourself that you mention at the end of your comment Ken does need to be one of our priorities in life as our body knows. It just knows.

  12. This is true for me too. For example, I’ve discovered if I eat late and I eat too much, I need more sleep and my productivity, my ability to stay present and my wellbeing are much reduced, but if I eat just what I need and not too late, then the quality of my sleep is deeper, I need less of it and I’m able to be of greater service and bring more of me to people and to the day.
    Sleep, for me, is super-healing and I feel vibrant when I get good rest – others feel it too and what a reflection to get from another, to inspire great sleep choices? This is foundational for everything else and yet if I don’t prioritise it, it slips and then come the knock on effects. So there’s a responsibility there for sure, to stay committed to caring about what I eat and when I go to bed. It just makes sense. And then I look at this statistic about 27 December 2016 being one of the busiest days ever for A&E in Hospitals, with 60,215 patients attending. 60,000 humans going into A&Es around the country in a single day! That’s like entire football stadium of people needing help at the same time. What on earth are we living that we’ve created such a massive surge on hospitals over Christmas? A surge with which hospital staff can’t even begin to keep up.
    The NHS is groaning at the seams and noone seems to know what to do about it.
    Reading this blog and having a good hard look at our priorities would be a powerful place to start.

  13. Just pausing to really think about this one for a moment:

    ‘Could it be possible that when our PRIORITY is to ensure our well-being is at the top of our ‘to do’ list, others get the best of us?’

    There is a lot here. The idea that something might be more important than the commitments we’ve made. Than doing our day job. Than having a tidy house. Than making our phone calls. Than replying to our emails. Than doing the laundry. Than getting the life admin done. Than helping with the homework. Than going to the gym. That there is something that must come first or else the rest of it is simply a waste of time, or worse. That there is something that will ensure the quality of all that we do and that the quality of what we do has a massive impact on everything and everybody. That the quality can drain and impose and control and disturb, or it can settle and expand and inspire and pull up and heal.

    I know which I’d prefer, but what is the magic ingredient and how do I bring it into my life?

    Enter this website. Prioritise our well-being. Get the basics right and build from there. Sleep, gentle breathing, self-care.

    For me, the idea that you would put your own well-being at the top of your to do list is a tough one. A busy job and kids and a home and all the rest aren’t going to take care of themselves. With a volume of commitments, self care sounds almost self indulgent. But I’m realising however alien or self indulgent it might seem, it is fact the absolutely right and responsible thing to do.

    What sort of quality is in all that activity and those relationships if there is no well-being? What reflection are people getting if there is no true self care? That it’s ok to overwork and rush about so long as you are capable and look presentable while you’re doing it?

    It almost feels like a conspiracy, where society accepts, perpetuates and even celebrates the paradigm so we all play along. Something passed down from generation to generation. Given the seal of approval by the media. Busy-ness seems to be the new norm.

    Isn’t it time we all shouted ‘cut’ and walked off set to work on another way?

  14. I could add to this awesome list of ground-shaking questions: ‘is work more important than quality time with our children? ‘.

    Exactly a week ago today, I had decided to stop work early and pick up my kids from school, even though they were booked into afterschool club. I had a powerful and productive day with work, loads got done, easy. School pick up time got closer and I went into ‘just clear a few more things’ mode. Looking back this was nonsense behaviour – I had done much more than a day’s work already, the value of my contribution was huge and yet I was behaving like it wasn’t enough. I picked the boys up an hour later than I had planned and was told one my youngest had been distressed at going to aftershool club as he wanted to go straight home. Of course he did!

    What a lesson. It did not feel good. What were my priorities that day? What does it show me about how I’m prioritising more generally in life? Do my children come after my work on the priority list? And why didn’t my amazing work feel complete or enough?

    So it’s a week later. Today I get to choose again.

    This blog really helps focus your intention.

  15. I feel it would be very challenging to have raised my children with myself as a priority. But I understand now that would have been the best parenting thing to do, showing them that taking care of myself is critical if I really want to help someone.

    Yes, it challenging to do something different, but sometimes it is only way to to change something that is not working.

  16. I have been watching how my body and soul prioritize things in my life. When they see an opportunity to deal with an issue, they know exactly what to do to support me to evolve. Even to the point of interrupting my sleep to clear something because that is a better time to go deeper to access some old stuff. Or allowing me to get in a situation that does not feel ok, but is needed to deal with something I have been avoiding.

    The more I trust this process, the easier it is to get out of the way and allow in all the love, support, and amazing intelligence that is all around me.

  17. Thank you Simple Living Global for these very pertinent questions.

    Surely it makes sense that by taking responsibility for our own health and well-being, the answers to your questions would be YES.

    If we, being the microcosm, made our own health and well-being the priority, the microcosm would soon become the macrocosm.

    So why is it that we are not prepared to take responsibility for our own health and well-being?

    Why do we:

    Smoke
    Drink a proven poison called Alcohol
    Work too many hours
    Take drugs
    Push our bodies through strenuous exercise
    Not rest when we are in pain or when we are ill
    Be nice to others just to ‘please’ them
    Hold back what we want to say for fear of hurting others

    The list could go on but it shows that we treat our bodies with a lot of disrespect.

    Why is it so hard to break free from these harmful behaviours?

    Could it be that we would have to start to look at our issues that we are holding onto?
    Could it be that our issues give us a meaning in life?
    Could it be that we are comfortable with our issues?
    Could it be that by making our health and well-being a priority, we would have to change our way of life?

    How awesome would it be to know that by changing our priority of our own health and well-being, we are potentially changing the whole WORLD?

    1. Yes Tim, when you put it like that.. in making our own health and well-being-being a priority we are potentially changing our whole world. That’s massive. The benefits would be vast not only for us on a personal level but for us as humanity.. and for our planet.

      If this is considered.. doesn’t it make it a choice worth taking?.. to take responsibility for our health and well-being?

  18. Changing our Priority in Life is a game changer.
    I know that my priorities today are completely different to the past and I know I will never go back to that nonsense behaviour as I call it.

    I seem to talk to myself and check in during the day if I am not focussed on doing what I know needs to be done.
    There are days when the list is long and it is what it is. By pushing and driving myself, which was my old style I seem to go backwards.
    Priority for me now is to make sure my body is not feeling disturbed by anything whatsoever that is undealt with. That does not mean honking my horn or going off on one to somebody but feeling the truth of what I am feeling.
    In others words honouring what I feel and not dismissing it.

    Looking after my health and well being, to the best of my ability will continue to be my top priority as this supports me to do what I do best – Get on with it.

    1. I so agree with you Bina changing our priority in Life is a game changer. I am in now in peri menopause and what it has shown me that this is the next phase of my life. Do I just stick to what I have always done? NO.

      With this change comes RESPONSIBILITY and this has given me an understanding that plodding through Life is not a priority; but Living the Real ME IS.
      The drive and push to do things is no longer a priority.
      Instead looking after myself is. We cannot expect to function if we do not go to bed early. When I look back when I slept 2 hours a night and could barely stay awake during the day. Fast forward present day I go to bed early and get things done that is not at the detriment of my body.

      WHY as a society do we still seek to find a quick fix to keep our body running on empty.
      It is always interesting to observe people on the train in the morning – majority are either fast asleep or drinking energy drinks.

      Could it be if we changed our way of Living and put ourself first and take care of our body, the levels of exhaustion in the world would decline and we would take more Responsibility in the way we live.

  19. I have reached a point in my life where things are very good but at the same time I feel a discomfort.

    The discomfort is the fact that it is clear that I am to place my relationship with myself at the top of my priority list. I’ve been very good at making sure that everyone else is OK first and putting myself last, but now life is asking me to shift the balance. It feels very selfish and not completely natural but only because I’ve been used to another way of living.

    I moved house a few weeks ago and this morning I took the time and space to cut and place my drawer liners and complete the last piece of unpacking BEFORE I did anything for others. I also made sure I had some hot water in a flask ready and with me so that I could nurture my body at the same time.

    I know that it’s making these kind of small changes daily that will enable the balance shift to occur.

  20. I have been observing an ever increasing trend in the use of distractions & addictive & extreme behaviors in society around the world from hobbies to hard drugs to sexual abuse and social media.

    This to me shows a trend of people ‘opting out’, a trend in priorities being about escaping-from rather than dealing-with the issues and emptiness we are all feeling.

    We once had news casters with integrity on TV, one was named Edward Morrow and he said that “TV in the main, is being used to distract, delude, amuse and insulate us.”

    It is our priorities that shape TV, consumerism and the world?

    Is it time we stop blaming and look at what we are choosing/prioritizing each day?

  21. A couple of months ago I was attacked by verbal abuse in the early hours going out to my car, my car was hit on the window. It scared me and all I wanted to do was get away, which once I got into my car I did. Instead of calling the police I drove off and after stopping to settle and come back to myself I continued my journey, only later to call the police.

    I now realise the impact that in not calling the police straight away had, they were not able to get any finger prints from my car as I had travelled. As I left it until later to call them the person had long gone so they were unable to trace them. I can now see how my choice not to report this incident straight away allows this person to be out there and potentially do it again.. to myself or someone else. This has been a big learning for me.. to look at in how I prioritise in this kind of situation.

  22. I was speaking to someone in the property industry where they build big residential blocks. Part of those blocks must be dedicated to social and affordable housing.

    He was saying that the local council were not happy with the plans they presented for 4 bedroom apartments because the layout would not meet the ‘expectations’ of those needing free housing.

    A high proportion of those on the housing list apparently want a separate television room and not a kitchen/living area in one.

    This is a priority for those needing housing and those placing them in housing.

    What is going on here?

    Why is a television room a priority for those without a home?

    Why are these expectations met without question?

  23. Our priorities basically have produced the world we have.

    So how can deal with all the illness and disease that we have in the world? Just make that a priority in our lives.

    It seems like an obvious choice if we want to improve our quality of living, which everyone wants to do, so why don,t we do simple things that will support us? Or why do we continue to do things that hurt us?

    I have asked this question of myself. It is very humbling to get to a point where I realized that maybe I have done things that were not loving because I felt I did not deserve love.

    Simple Living Global has supported me in this process.

    Now that I understand better the reason for my choices and felt the sadness and devastation of feeling like I had to give up on myself, I now find taking care of myself, just the obvious way to live.

    Our priorities are to help other people. It is ingrained in us. But in order to do that, we need to take care of ourselves first.
    Then we know what true care is all about.

  24. An article in The telegraph, 30th august 2017, talks about how a “Beauty queen hands back crown after being told to lose weight.”

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/08/30/beauty-queen-hands-back-crown-told-lose-weight/

    A size 10 beauty queen handed back her crown after being told to lose weight to compete at an international level.

    Zoiey Smale, from Nottinghamshire, was named Miss UK after winning the UK round of the Miss Continents contest in June this year.

    But as she prepared for the final round of the competition in Ecuador, she said the organisers told her she needed to “lose as much weight as possible” to stand a chance.

    She was left gobsmacked after speaking to the competition’s national director, who said she was passing on feedback from the international director and all Miss Smale could say was “pardon” before hanging up the phone.

    She didn’t get back to them for two weeks before deciding to pull out.

    Miss Smale said, “I think it’s important to empower women and know it’s OK to be healthy, educated and a good role model. I didn’t hand back my crown straight away as I was going to go out of protest, however what example would that be setting?”

    When speaking later to the national director of the competition, she asked her to tell her what exactly was said by the international director.

    “I was told, ‘she needs to go on a diet plan as she is too big.’

    Miss Smale said, “I’m not too big at all, I’m just bang on average. I just think to lose as much weight as possible for a competition, why would people say that. Its horrible and it made me feel so rubbish for a long, long time.”

    When looking at the photographs of Zoiey Smale, it really is incredible that she was told to ‘lose as much weight as possible.’

    The photographs show a very slim woman and to lose more weight would be bordering on anorexia.

    It beggars belief, that with all the exposure there is these days about how body image has a profound effect on all people, especially the young, that an international beauty competition is advocating putting people in harms way and putting bodies into distress.

    Whatever our views are on beauty competitions, Zoiey Smale needs to be applauded for her actions.

    She has made a stand for truth and is putting herself before anyone else.

    In her interview, she said it is important to empower women and be a good role model…in standing up for herself, she has done both, and not just for women, for men too.

    By making herself more important than a title or a crown and walking away from abuse, her actions speak volumes.

    The organisers of this particular beauty competition are showing a complete lack of responsibility and regard for their contestants, and even if they don’t change their policy or the way they view people, at least one person had the courage to stand up and say NO to abuse.

  25. Just talking in the community and asking one of our local business guys how his holiday was and out comes the story we all dread.

    Got to the airport and his passport had expired. This holiday was a trip back home to the sun with baby and the mrs. We talked about it for most of this year as he is so exhausted and needs the break to catch up on sleeping.

    Imagine the stress of this and the delay, which in the end costs not just extra money but only a few days of holiday time.

    Do we tend to leave things and not bother checking simply because we are so exhausted that it is not in our radar?
    Do we live a life of coffee, sugar and cigarettes that creates a fog in our mind, so we never remember to make passport checking before booking a holiday our Priority?
    Do we ever learn from this or go into some sort of anxiety as we are afraid something like this may happen again?
    How do we start to make certain things in life a priority?

    Would it be wise to address the chronic exhaustion that we feel every single day and get that sorted by asking how we are living that may be adding to it?
    Do we consider looking at our sleep quality and make that a Priority?

    I know my last holiday was 15 years ago and we missed the flight. Both of us were super exhausted and sleeping and eating was all we could do literally when we got there a day later. We were so checked out that on returning we had no clue our passports were stolen from my rucksack on our way home.

    Thank God for all the changes that have since taken place and the current daily life choices which have got me to writing this blog and keeping this website alive, with real life stuff that may support others to bring more awareness.

  26. An article in ‘The Telegraph’ talks about how, “NHS hospitals complained at M&S healthy drinks boost.”

    NHS bosses complained when M&S tried to make its drinks more healthy in its in-hospital shops.

    The business also cut off promotions high in fat, salt and sugar in the 28 outlets, part of a wider goal to reduce calories, sugar and fat by 2019, a year ahead of a Government set target.

    Earlier this year it was announced that NHS hospitals would be banned from selling sugary drinks and high calorie snacks.

    The head of nutrition at the retailer, said a decision to withdraw fizzy drinks and other sugar-sweetened drinks from hospital stores had provoked dismay from customers, dieticians and in some cases, NHS Trusts themselves.

    She told the Public Health England conference: “We had quite a lot of negative feedback from some of the NHS Trusts, from some customers saying we are taking away their choice and from some dieticians, which I was quite surprised about.”
    “But we’ve persevered with it and kept that.”

    She also said that M&S would be unlikely to have an explicitly healthy range in future, with food and drinks low on unhealthy ingredients becoming the norm and more indulgent products marked out to customers.
    “The deals you will find in hospital stores will be on the health foods,” she said.

    What is the more ridiculous here?

    The fact that some NHS Trusts have issues with a Government set target to reduce calories, sugar and fat.
    Or
    The fact that some dieticians have issues to reduce calories, sugar and fat.

    Isn’t the whole point of a hospital to ensure their patient’s health is cared for?

    We are always hearing about the dearth of hospital beds and that hospitals are always trying to push patients out early.

    Is it possible that if patients are given healthier, more nutritious food, it will help them recover faster which will then free up the beds quicker?

    Shouldn’t hospitals be the one place where nutrition is of paramount importance?

    We can understand the customers having an issue with healthier options because when we are ill, all we want is comfort food.

    But why are NHS Trusts complaining about this?
    Why are dieticians complaining about this?

    How is it possible that there are people in charge of our health and well-being that HAS an issue with our ‘HEALTH and WELL-BEING’?

    We all know that when we are ill, we all want our treats to pick ourselves up and generally it is the sugary foods we go for.

    Is it possible that the in-hospital stores make a lot of money for the hospital and the NHS Trust that runs the hospital is more concerned about loss of revenue than the health consequences of their patients?

    With the rates of obesity increasing all the time, surely any measure to reduce people’s weight should be highlighted and championed to the hilt?

    M&S should be applauded for their actions in making people’s health more important than money.

    It’s a shame that the one place where you would expect the patient’s health and well-being to be put first is made less important than the balance sheet.

  27. A recent newspaper article showed a picture of a surfer under a huge wall of water just before it came crashing down on him with the result of him breaking his back.

    The man, whilst on his hospital bed, is already planning his return to the waves saying, “I’ve been very lucky. I’m already focusing my energy to get fit and back out there on some more big rollers. Thank you to all the lifeguards and crew who helped stabilize me and do a great spinal recovery.”

    His wife said, “I know that all he will be thinking about is when he can get back in the water. Although it is the worst thing that could happen to most people, to him its part of what he does.”

    There will be those of us who will say that this is great, that this is brave and courageous because we want to get ‘back on the horse’ so to speak, that we are being responsible, that we are willing to face our fears, but is it possible that this attitude is the exact opposite?

    Is it possible that what we are showing is a complete lack of responsibility?

    A lack of responsibility to our families?
    A lack of responsibility to all those who love us?
    A lack of responsibility to the emergency services that would have helped us?
    A lack of responsibility to our own lives?

    We may be lucky once, twice or even three times, but what about the next time?

    Some people will say, ‘we are doing what we love’.

    Is it possible that the priority here is to do something that only serves ourselves?

    What is it in us humans, that we are willing to take risks with our lives?

    Is it really worth risking our life for something ‘we love’ because if we are dead we can no longer do the things ‘we love’?

    This is not to say that we shouldn’t do the things we love, but when the consequences of our actions have the potential to affect many other people, isn’t it our responsibility to make sure we don’t put ourselves in harms way?

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