World Suicide Prevention Day

Dear World

There are more deaths from suicide than from war and homicide together. (1)

Are we up to date with what is going on?
Did we know we have a World Suicide Prevention Day?
Are we aware of this?
What is this all about?
Why is suicide a global problem?
Why does anyone take their own life?
What gets inside them to make that choice?
What is going on in their life that they want to end it?
What drives someone to give up on life?
What can we really do to change things?

World Suicide Prevention Day (WSPD) has been going since 2003 on 10 September. It is to bring attention to the public of ‘one of the world’s largest causes of premature and unnecessary death.’ (2)

The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that over 800,000 people die by suicide each year and 20,000,000 attempt suicide. (3)

What we should all be asking is how accurate are these figures when we all know that this is a very hush hush subject in our world.

How does each country record a suicide and are there cross cultural differences which make it impossible to get real facts recorded?
We all know that research is not going to tell us why someone is ending their life.
We all know that we are not going to get a suicidal person into a lab for double blind testing.
We all know that we cannot take the mind of someone who has taken their life and study them.
We all know that most of us live in fear of having a mental health issue.
We all know that something is really wrong if suicide is on the increase.

We have 196 countries in this world of ours and only 28 countries have a national strategy for suicide prevention. (4)

Hello – can we just stop for a moment and re-read this.

That means less than 15% of our world is actually doing something. So is it any surprise that suicide is on the increase?

So we have a grand plan but if only a few are taking action, are we going to see any real change?

Suicide Prevention – World Health Organization (MHAP) Mental Health Action Plan from 2013 to 2020. (5)

  1. Increase public, political and media awareness of the magnitude of the problem and the availability of effective prevention strategies.
  1. Restrict access to the means of self-harm and suicide like firearms and pesticides.
  1. Promote responsible media reporting in relation to cases of suicide.
  1. Promote workplace initiatives for suicide prevention.
  1. Improve health system responses to self-harm and suicide.
  1. Assess and manage self-harm/suicide and associated mental, neurological and substance-use disorders.
  1. Optimise psychosocial support from available community resources both for those who have attempted suicide as well as for families of people who have committed suicide.

So this tells us that our World Health Organization has a mental health plan that has been going on since 2013 and they have just over 3 years left and suicide is on the increase.

Could it be possible that increasing public, political and media awareness is not happening?

Could it be possible that prevention strategies are not the answer?

Could it be possible that denying access to a gun is not going to stop someone from finding another way to end their life?

Could it be possible that our media has a long way to go when it comes to consistently promoting RESPONSIBLE media reporting?

Could it be possible that promoting workplace initiatives may miss what is actually needed?

Could it be possible that countries like the UK are cutting budgets so assessment and management is not really happening in the way it needs to?

Could it be possible that there is limited or no funding for ‘community resources’ to support those who have attempted suicide, or families of people who have committed suicide?

So to summarise, would it be fair to say that these words on paper sound like a great big plan but something is not right because suicide is actually on the increase?


Why are we not digging deeper and spending resources on this serious global issue?

Check out these statistics so we know it is a worldwide problem.

In high income countries, 3 times as many men die by suicide than women. (6)

Suicide Mortality Rates 2012 (6)

Republic of Korea
36.8 per 100,000 population

Guyana (South America)
34.8 per 100,000 population

33.5 per 100,000 population

Sri Lanka
29.2 per 100,000 population 

Suriname (South America)
28.3 per 100,000 population

25.4 per 100,000 population

23.1 per 100,000 population

20.9 per 100,000 population

20.3 per 100,000 population

13.7 per 100,000 population

11.6 per 100,000 population

7.0 per 100,000 population

These are the most up to date figures from the World Health Organization.

USA (7)
38,000 people die by suicide every year
That is 105 Americans each day and one person every 13 minutes
Approximately 250,000 people become suicide survivors each year
Male suicide deaths represent 79% of all USA suicides each year
51% of males who suicided used firearms
Females attempt suicide 3 times as often as males
Poisoning is the most common form of suicide in females

Australia (2)
Suicide is the leading cause of death for men and women aged 15 – 44
The annual number of deaths is around 2,500 per year – approx. 7 people each day
65,000 people plan or attempt to take their life each year
400,000 people think about taking their life each year

Suicide was illegal in the past and we got sent to prison for attempting suicide. (8)

2014 (9)
Suicide rate per 100,000 population increased to 10.8
6,122 suicides recorded in people aged 10 and over
Male suicide rate was more than 3 times higher than the female rate

In the last 45 years’ suicide rates have increased by 60% worldwide.

Suicide attempts are up to 20 times more frequent than actual deaths by suicide.

Rates among young people have been increasing.
Mental disorders (particularly depression and substance abuse) are associated with more than 90% of all cases of suicide.

There is compelling evidence indicating that adequate prevention and treatment of depression, alcohol and substance abuse can reduce suicide rates. (10)

What are these bold facts spelling out to us?
WHY have we seen such a huge increase in suicide rates worldwide?
WHY are young people choosing suicide to end their life?
WHY are our youngsters’ self-harming?
WHY are we unable to figure out the root cause of depression?
WHY is substance abuse a major factor in many cases of suicide?
WHY are people using harmfull substances to cope with life?

Are we aware of the real figures of suicide in prisons?

Prisons in England and Wales

April 2013 – March 2014
69% rise in suicides
Highest level for 9 years (11)

April 2015 – March 2016
100 male self-inflicted deaths
Increase of 27% from 2014/15.
Some of these deaths were linked to the New Psychoactive Substances. (12)

In 2015 there were 25 male self-inflicted deaths within the first month of them being in prison. (12)

How many of our inner mates are suffering from depression?
Why is substance abuse going on in our prisons today?
Why are we blaming the systems and expecting the government to deal with this problem?

‘It is clear that suicide prevention requires intervention also from outside the health sector and calls for an innovative, comprehensive multi-sectoral approach, including both health and non-health sectors, e.g. education, labour, politics, justice, religion, law, politics, the media.’ (10)

We can all agree that suicide prevention requires intervention but all these ‘sectors’ are people who make up the systems.

What if it is for each of us to look at our individual responsibility to our own health and well-being.
In other words, how and what are we choosing to live every single day that is consistently supporting us to CONNECT, COMMUNICATE AND CARE?


Let’s get back to the 2016 World Suicide Prevention Day theme, which is three words at the heart of suicide prevention. (3)



This is crucial and we could all agree, but what does this mean to us?

Are we choosing every day to connect with ourselves first?
Are we aware of the value and importance of engaging with another?
Do we know how to develop a self-connecting relationship with our self?
Do we find a way to connect and this could be smoking a cigarette or social media?
Do we bother to chat to the person on the train or stay with our screen?
Is keeping an eye out or checking in on someone enough?
Are we aware enough to know if someone is dis-connected?
Are we consistently taking responsibility to connect with ourselves first?
Are we committed to our own inner-most connection?

Are we living in a way that is deeply self-connecting every day?

Is connection about meeting another with no agenda?
Is connection about listening and giving another the space to say what they feel?
Is connection simply about an openness and willingness to be with another?

Does the International Association for Suicide Prevention have a valid point when they say –

Individuals, organisations and communities ALL have a responsibility here. (3)

Is the word RESPONSIBILITY what we need to focus on?


What is clear is that in many communities’ suicide is still very hush hush and not spoken about.

The International Association for Suicide Prevention are telling us to discuss suicide openly, as we would for any other public health issue and dispel the myths and reduce the stigma that surrounds this but without normalising it.

They talk about a ‘suicide prevention strategy’, but is this going to really get to the root cause of WHY people commit suicide?

Are we equipped to deal with another in a truly compassionate way, which requires listening and a non-judgmental approach?
How judgmental are we really in our daily life and would this rub off in any way when we are with another or can we make it just disappear?
Are we able to conduct ‘sensitively-managed conversations’?
Do we have the natural skills or do we have to learn this?

Do we agree with the International Association of Suicide Prevention when they say –

The media also have an important role to play in suicide prevention.

“Media recommendations have been developed by the International Association for Suicide Prevention and the World Health Organization to assist journalists in getting stories right”. (13)


‘All the connecting and communicating in the world will have no effect without the final ingredient – care. We need to make sure that policy-makers and planners care enough about suicide prevention to make it a priority and to fund it at a level that is commensurate with its significance as a public health problem.’ (3)

We would all agree that this is a great statement because it makes sense.

Could it be possible that the policy-makers and the planners need to self-care first?
Could it be possible that self-care has to be a priority in our own life?
Could it be possible that true self-care requires a way of living every day that is consistent?
Could it be possible that the missing ingredient is our own individual responsibility when it comes to self-care?

‘On September 10th join with others around the world who are working towards the common goal of preventing suicide.  Check in on someone you may be concerned about and start a caring conversation with them, asking them how they’re going’. (3)

WHY do we wait for a date in the calendar to get going?
WHY are we not starting right now?
WHY do we need an annual reminder that suicide is on the increase?
WHY is it that we don’t have real figures about our global suicide problem?

Could it be possible that TRUE RESPONSIBILITY starts with ‘checking in’ with ourselves first and having a ‘caring conversation’ with ourselves?

Imagine if we knocked out all disregarding ways of living.
Imagine if we developed ways to no longer abuse our body.
Imagine if we learned how to breathe correctly.

Imagine if we could support ourselves so we don’t check out.
Imagine knowing what we need so we do not numb ourselves.
Imagine a life of not neglecting our feelings.
Imagine honouring what we feel all the time.
Imagine a life of saying what we feel and not holding back.
Imagine caring for ourselves like a precious baby.
Imagine committing to life so we feel a part of the world.
Imagine living with the knowing that we do make a difference.

As the author of this blog, I can say the above is possible and it comes down to making simple daily choices with Responsibility and that means to not harm self, others, or our environment.

How can we as individuals make a difference?

What is it that we need to say or do that can change the increasing rates of suicide?
Does our World Health Organization have all the answers we need about suicide?

Is wearing a ribbon or cycling around the globe going to change anything in the long term?

Could it be possible to say – We are far away from the real issue of suicide.
How have we ‘reduced’ in some form the seriousness of suicide by ribbons and marathons?

Are we missing something?

Could it be possible that we need to apply common sense?
Could it be possible that we each have a responsibility?
Could it be possible that we need to learn how to connect with ourselves first?
Could it be possible we need to develop listening to our own inner-most feelings?
Could it be possible that we can educate others from our own lived way?
Could it be possible that if we made a choice to live our natural way, it would end the need for harmfull substances?
Could it be possible that if we made a choice to commit to life, our depression would not dominate our life force?

In other words, if we each done our bit by taking responsibility in the way we choose to


FIRST for ourselves, then it is this quality from our way of being in the world that would inspire others to do the same.

Could it be that simple?

We have statistics of those who actually go through with ending their life.
But what is the real impact and is it ten times greater than these statistics are showing us?

What about ALL those that suicide affects?

What about the families who suffer?
What about the friends and work colleagues?
What about the community?

What about those who self-harm but never make it as a statistic?
Are we aware that we do not have real figures for this serious global issue?

In truth, how many people are truly affected when one person suicides?

Could it be possible that our role is to bring this type of conversation into our everyday down to earth chit chat, so more and more people become aware?

Could it be possible that if we bring this way of communication to others the tides may turn?

Could it be possible that if we start to open up, talk and expand on what we know and are aware of, others can get the opportunity to equally feel how serious suicide is in our world today?

Could it be possible that if we don’t do the chit chat and stop talking then we ‘reduce’ the problem?

Could it be possible that it is this type of ‘reductionism’ why so many of us are simply not aware of what is going on in our world?

If you are feeling suicidal, contact your GP for support or the Suicide Helplines.

In a crisis contact your emergency services.

UK – Samaritans available 24 hours.
Tel: 116 123 or email

Childline – for children and young people
Tel: 0800 1111

USA – National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Tel:  1-800-273-8255

Other Countries
Check International Association for Suicide Prevention Resources on Crisis Centers


(1) (n.d). Suicide: Facts and Figures. World Health Organization 

(2) (2016). World Suicide Prevention Day

(3) World Suicide Prevention Day – 10 September, 2016. International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP)

(4) (2016). Mental Health – Suicide Prevention. World Health Organization

(5) (2013). Mental Health Action Plan 2013 – 2020. World Health Organization

(6) World Health Statistics 2016: Monitoring Health for SDGs. Annex A – Target 3.4 – Indicator 3.4.2: Suicide Mortality Rate. World Health Organization

(7) (2016). Suicide Facts. Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE)

(8) Holt, G. (2011, August 3). When Suicide Was Illegal

(9) (2016, February 4). Suicides in the United Kingdom: 2014 Registrations. Office for National Statistics

(10) (2016). Mental Health – Background of SUPRE – Prevention of Suicidal Behaviours: A Task for All. World Health Organization

(11) Travis, A. (2014, July 31). Official Figures Reveal Rising Violence in Prisons in England and Wales

(12) (2016). HM Chief Inspector of Prisons for England and Wales. Annual Report 2015 -16. HM Inspectorate of Prisons (p.8, pp.18 – 19)

(13) (n.d). International Association for Suicide Prevention (IASP) – Resources: Suicide and the Media

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Comments 56

  1. A much needed conversation, and one that we dont talk about in our normal daily lives. And, these figures are the tip of the iceberg – how many times do you hear of someone you know who has felt suicidal? or had suicidal thoughts? far more than we care to accept. Why they are we feeling this way in a society full of so called everything – more pharmaceuticals, more technology, more infrastructure, more doctors/nurses than ever and yet the suicide rates are still exponentially increasing. There really is much for us to consider here, and this powerful blog is a brilliant contribution to this conversation.

    1. Correct Jane Keep – this is a much needed conversation because it really is not the stuff we tend to talk about.
      I also agree with you that these figures are the ‘tip of the iceberg’ and it is great what you say here about how we have so much more now with technology and medicine yet suicide rates are increasing.
      Something is clearly not right and we need to start asking questions and joining the dots if we are to address this global escalating problem.

  2. “There are more deaths from suicide than from war and homicide together. ”
    What!?! This is not OK.

    …so are we at war with ourselves? Why? What are we missing here?

    If we are so self loathing, so miserable that this statement can exist then we are ALL doing something that is not working.

    What I feel is that we are so so much more, much greater, bigger, more beautiful, tender, sensitive, creative and loving than how we are individually & collectively living and expressing ourselves to be…. and it is this which hurts so much.

    I know from experiencing the transformation in myself by applying the simple practice of commitment and self care, that what the author describes at the end of this blog is what is missing for all of us.

    How much longer do we push on in our suffering ways before we stop and choose to feel all of who we are in our inner truth and commit to feeling that and working hard to live from that?

    Too hard? We are experiencing the alternative. Can we look at what we have instead of the scary hard work of getting honest and beginning to take responsibility, and then make a conscious choice?

    What if we used a portion of all the devotion, dedication, time, money and attention we pour into all our recreation and other peripheral activities to focus on getting the center of life happening; the connection, responsibility and ability to feel the joy of life and the beauty of who we are?

    What would that be like…?

    1. Top comment Jo Elmer. Love it.
      Correct it is not OK that there are more deaths from suicide than from war and homicide together. The fact that this statement can exist as you say Jo is spelling out to us that something is seriously wrong about the way we are living and interacting with others.
      There is enough evidence or you could just put your common sense hat on to KNOW that when we truly connect with another and allow the space for them to share whatever it is they want to say then things are not going to be buried. That person is not going to feel isolated. What they will feel is that someone does care and that what they feel is being honoured. We don’t need to become counsellors or try and impose our own ideals and beliefs onto them. We just need to give others space and listen, truly listen without any need to fix them or offer solutions. It really is that simple and I am talking from lived experience and so I know it really does work.
      Think about it if there was someone genuine who engaged and met you for who you are with no agenda, surely this would support you to not get into the downward spiral of drugs, alcohol, depression which all lead to things getting buried and not expressed.

      1. Call it ‘change the focus’ and things will shift.
        Why keep going down the alley when you know things just are not feeling quite right and we end up getting ‘more of it’ as you say Jo and Jenifer. We all know in every moment we have a choice and every choice has a consequence. Could it then be possible that if we change the choice, we can re-direct where we want to end up.
        What if we keep making choices that are supporting us and this gives us a platform, a foundation so to speak that holds us, so we don’t wobble when life bring us stuff, no matter what that may be?

  3. I lived many years in levels of mental illness and in fear of it getting to a point where no one could help me… I have spent time in mental hospitals with friends who were in trouble and though there is ‘support’ there I never felt that the cause of such misery has been understood or addressed… until now.
    At the end of this blog the author describes exactly what I have learned, first hand, can pull us out of this hellish global issue of suicide and all the hurt that surround & lead up to it.
    I feel the incredible importance of what is shared with each of us (suicidal or not) in this blog.
    “Could it be possible that TRUE RESPONSIBILITY starts with ‘checking in’ with ourselves first and having a ‘caring conversation’ with ourselves?”
    What would it be like if we could support ourselves and not check out?
    What would it feel like to know what we need so we did not need to neglect or harm ourselves in any way?
    What if we committed to ourselves and to life so that we could feel we are a part of the world? …and that we are important and that we make a difference?

    1. Great confirmation here Jo about what this blog is saying and it is to all of us and not those who are associated with suicide.
      Checking in with ourself first and foremost makes simple sense.
      If we are not plugged in, connected so to speak then how can we be truly aware of another and where they are at.
      Ticking boxes and checking in with others may not be the answer if in truth we are not connected first with ourself.
      This is now something our world needs to consider deeply if we are to see the tides turn.
      Some of us are doing this and whilst it may not be many when you look at 7 billion but even one making consistent choices to take TRUE RESPONSIBILITY means change. None of us can ignore this fact.

    2. This blog has really switched a light on. How many of us truly have a CARING CONVERSATION with ourselves? Why is there so much negative self talk inside our heads and could there be another way? It makes a lot of sense that the 3 Cs as presented here could have a profound impact for those contemplating suicide and in fact for all. It sounds to me like something that should be taught in schools from an early age so that ‘checking in’ and taking care of ourselves and our innermost thoughts becomes a foundational part of life. Now THAT would be a game changer for the national curriculum. Imagine what it would do to the statistics cited above.

      1. Good point here Jenifer about how we could really do with educating our children at a young age to ‘check in’ and take care by honouring their feelings and not dismissing or over-riding them as we adults do over and over again.
        YES that would ‘be a game changer for the national curriculum’ and have a knock on effect where mental health would not be rising at the current scary rate that it is.

  4. I totally agree with what you say here, Simple Living Global, as I know that it has had a direct life changing effect on me that others have taken the time to connect with me with no agenda. When someone connects with us in that way we feel safe – safe to share our true feelings, safe to just be ourselves and let down the guard. Just making the space to connect with another in our day can be life-changing for them.

    1. The word ‘safe’ here is important. Thank you for sharing this Shevon.
      We have all had our down days and yet we know if we have a genuine conversation with another that is real with no hidden agenda we just feel it.
      Yes I agree we can make a life changing difference to another by simply meeting someone for who they are and connecting with them. Allowing them the space and holding them as an equal can all be done with our mouth shut and ears wide open. It works as I have made this a part of how I live and it is my normal.

    2. “Is connection about meeting another with no agenda?
      Is connection about listening and giving another the space to say what they feel?
      Is connection simply about an openness and willingness to be with another?”

      How many of us truly experience this? How many of us actually do this? It has brought me to tears re-reading this blog and reflecting on that. We are 7.125 billion people here on planet Earth. How many of those 7.125 billion people get the chance to feel ‘safe’? To truly trust? To not feel judged?

      13 people dying from suicide EVERY MINUTE. This fact answers the question. And it is brutal to read.

      What would the statistics be if the 7.125 billion people on planet Earth simply had the chance to feel SAFE? To be really heard? To talk to someone who simply cares and doesn’t want anything from them? To not feel judged?

      It is actually devastating to realise we are so far away from this.

      I have a friend who was honest enough to tell me he doesn’t do anything or talk to anyone without a hidden agenda: if there isn’t something in it for him. If we are really honest, how many of us are living this way? And if we are, do we think others can’t feel this when they talk to us?

      There is a lot written these days about being your authentic self. About not wearing a ‘mask’. About speaking your truth. How many of us actually feel able to do that or even know what it means?

      So what if this blog is showing us that our most important work has nothing to do with the job we have or our daily chores or raising ‘good’ kids, and has EVERYTHING to do with CONNECTION. To check in with ourselves and then really BE with the people around us. To choose to talk and really listen. To be open and seek to understand. That’s it. Nothing more.

  5. BBC Radio 2 News on 12 October 2016 stated that there is an “unprecedented rise in violence and suicides in prison”.
    The Prison Governors Association want to set up an Independent Enquiry into the state of UK prisons.

    1. Another BBC radio 2 News this week said that in the UK , the highest form of death in male under aged 49 was suicide.
      This is serious, this is huge and this is not going to go away until we get to the root cause of what is actually going on.
      Why are men taking their lives?
      What on earth is going on for them?
      WHY have we not got the answers>
      We seem to know how to send a solar powered thing around the world and marvel at the glory of advanced science but here on our watch we have not worked out why suicide is increasing and has now become a major global problem.
      Something is not making sense.
      Not talking about this hush hush topic is deeply damaging to all of us.

  6. The numbers of people killing themselves is alarming and the fact that this is happening increasingly in young people is VERY concerning. Why is it that we can have top professionals – doctors, dentists and lawyers killing themselves? How can we have journalists and magazine editors killing themselves?These are professions through which people can support others and bring awareness and education to the world – but how is this possible if the professionals concerned are harbouring suicidal thoughts, are feeling depressed and in some cases making plans on how to end their lives?

    1. This is now exploring who is suiciding. Not only is it our youth but professionals as you mention in your comment Shevon. Again very serious and more questions and conversations about this hidden topic needs to be front page news until we all wake up and do out bit.
      No point blaming anyone as we each have a RESPONSIBILITY.
      What brings another to such a low point that they contemplate suicide?
      Let us not forget that these statistics quoted in this blog do not include those who have not ended their life but nevertheless have had the thoughts and may have even attempted suicide but not made the statistic.
      This would increase the figure big time and this fact alone cannot be dismissed.

  7. We need to look at why we work to bring other topics into the open but we leave this huge and ever growing epidemic of self murder and all the suffering leading up to and then caused by suicide, in the dark… Is there a self responsibility we are avoiding here?

    We must allow intimacy with each other now, like today, at the grocery store, at work on the bus… because we all want to be met, witnessed and appreciated for who we are, for the special light only we can bring to others.

    I feel it is only without this connection that we can have such a devastating loss of purpose that we would annihilate ourselves…

    …and with this understanding it is every persons responsibility to stop hiding and protecting who they are; to open up, be real, get honest and vulnerable every day so others feel permission to come out of painful isolation and do the same; connect.

    I can feel that it is my & our most ultimate responsibility, to be open and fully loving in the world and that all the many years I have hidden myself away have been torturous because I could feel the harm it was doing me and every one else.

    There is so much suffering in this world we have created.
    No more procrastination.
    No more adding to the hell by indulging in all the ways we use to hide our light/love/who we are.
    It is time to contribute to the ‘coming home to who we really are’,
    It is time to know we are working to contribute on the side of Love.

    It is time to remember how to open up and be love with our selves and each other.

  8. The Mental Health Foundation have a very interesting campaign going on at the moment called ‘I’m Fine’.

    You know when we say “I’m fine” when asked how we are. This term “I’m fine” can have so many meanings and undertones like

    “Back off”
    “I don’t feel great but don’t know what to say”
    “I don’t trust you to share what I am really feeling”,
    “I don’t what to bother you by telling you the truth.”

    Honouring what we feel and being able to express that is such an important part of taking care of our health and well-being.

    Well worth taking a look at this 2 minute video that the Mental Health Foundation have produced from speaking with people on the streets.

  9. Thank you for giving us this video link Shevon which is well worth watching.

    You get to see and feel a cross section of people and the message from the Mental Health Foundation says only 19% who say they are fine actually mean it.
    Does this then confirm that we find lying quite normal?
    Is this spelling out to us that we somehow don’t feel safe to speak the truth?
    Is this telling us that we like one lady said may feel judged so we hold back?
    WHY has saying “I’m Fine” become an auto-pilot way of communicating for most of us?
    How does our body feel when we say “I am fine” but our thoughts and feelings are saying something quite different?
    How comfortable are we saying the words “I’m Fine”?

  10. And how many under 18s are we hearing about committing suicide too? It feels like there is a tsunami coming and what we are seeing is the first wave. The cyber abuse statistics are through the roof and increasing.

    I read that suicide is one of the biggest killers of teens in the US. What is the bed we are making for ourselves here? It really does make you ask yourself the question: how often am I checking in with myself, never mind anyone else?
    For a subject that can feel quite disempowering, that is a very empowering thought: that we can step away from this blog with an action to take to CONNECT, COMMUNICATE and CARE with and for ourselves at the very least.

    The thing that comes through for me here, too, is consistency. I might be doing these 3 things for myself and others throughout an average week or month, but how much am I doing them consistently EVERY DAY, every MOMENT and how much more could I bring to others if I doubled down on that consistency?

  11. Reading the comments and conversation on this blog, I really appreciate the platform that you are offering here Simple Living Global for hush-hush subjects like suicide to be discussed openly. This website brings so much awareness to our daily lives and it is very clear that it is not about hiding away, closing our eyes and trying to be as comfortable as possible. In fact it is the opposite in that from what you share we are called to wake up, if we decide to, look around and see that things are not good. It may be an uncomfortable read at times for some of us, but change only happens when we feel dis-ease. What I love about this website and the author are that they are presenting another way to live and that we can get out of the life difficulties that we experience if we are willing to make fundamental lifestyle changes. This really is a very valuable website for humanity.

    1. Thank you Shevon for your appreciation of this website and what it is presenting.
      Simple Living Global is not going away. It is here for the long haul and there will be nothing stopping us delivering truth week after week so that humanity do have some questions to ponder on and consider. This website is not trying to drum up business or raise the hits on how many visit the blogs or anything like that. It is simply saying –
      Dear World, things are not working, have a read of this and start by answering some of the questions. If you feel uncomfortable, great something is happening. If it feels like twaddle and makes no sense, just click the x and move on.
      Yes this platform is raising awareness on topics that are hush hush in society like Suicide which is of great benefit and value to humanity.
      Maybe not right now but one day this website for humanity will be studied by scholars who will find enough content to be left in no doubt that there is another way to live and it really is about Simple Living and bringing it Back to Basics.

  12. Dear World

    This news story is telling us that even our doctors are suiciding and the family of this young doctor are saying “Doctors can feel a dreadful sense of personal failure and inadequacy if they struggle to keep working. Sometimes, the despair can be sudden and overwhelming.”

    What is this spelling out to us?
    WHY is this not on front page news headlines?
    We value our medical professionals and yet we put enormous pressure on them.
    WHY does a young doctor who is perceived in our world as highly intelligent taking their own life?
    WHY are our doctors working super long hours?
    WHY do our doctors have such heavy workloads?

    What is going on for our doctors that it leads them to suicide?
    What about all those that don’t make the statistics who have suicidal thoughts?
    What quality are we receiving if some of our doctors are not coping with life?
    What is it going to take before we stop and address this?

  13. It occurs to me that doctors are required (in the U.S. anyway) to ask women, (in the privacy of the treatment room), “do you feel safe at home?” and that perhaps we have a responsibility to find a way to check in with them; to ask them if they are safe?

    How safe is a person under so much pressure and with a lack of sleep?
    How safe is a person who does not feel free to express their inner struggles?
    Who’s responsibility is it to make sure our doctors are OK?

    We have created a set up where a professional care givers do not feel safe to openly express or seek support for mental emotional challenges.

    There exists a ‘picture’ that doctors are supposed to seem competent and well adjusted at all times despite the grueling set up of med school and the lack of support for them through out a highly demanding career…

    So, we are seeing that a major part of our health system is modeling a serious lack of support for the individual and even requiring study and work hours which are abusive (harm-full) to the mind and body… and we are seeing the very high toll this has, in the large numbers of doctors killing themselves to escape… this is inhumane.

    But just imagine what a ripple effect it would have if we all became outspoken about requiring the current system to be renovated to be more gentle and supportive of our doctors and care givers as human beings; for them to be well and do their jobs well?

    1. A great comment Jo Elmer and much is being presented here. Bringing in that word ‘safe’ opens up so much more. So in the USA doctors have a duty to ask women if they are safe in their own home but what about the doctors is what you are so rightly saying?
      Who checks in with them and WHY is this not something that is universal. In other words, WHY is the whole world not agreeing that ALL doctors and anyone in the caring medical profession, offered the space to openly express what they feel in the utmost confidence?

      It is true what you say that there exists this image of our doctors to be ‘competent and well adjusted at all times’ and at no point is it considered that they are too human and may not be able to cope with the demands of med school and then a healthcare system that is over stretched and over worked and patients presenting multi-symptomatic illnesses. In other words they do not come with one thing but multiple complications which further add to the workloads of our doctors.

      Just losing one doctor to suicide should be alarm bells that something is seriously not right. More questions need to be asked and topics like this blog need to get out there so more become aware of the seriousness of what is actually going on today in our world.

  14. This is a much needed conversation on doctors’ suiciding, as so many of us are not aware that this is going on. We have a Doctor here Dr. Maxine Szramka talking about this also.

    On her website, Dr. Maxine shares that doctors have the highest rates of burnout and that health care professionals are up to 4 times more likely to suicide. Dr. Maxine also speaks of her own experience of going through medical school, well worth a read.

    As Jo says in her comment above – do we have a responsibility to check in with our doctors on how they are? No one person can do it all. For every person to grow and develop and be all that they are true care is needed. Relationships are a two-way street. Doctors are not superhuman and they don’t know everything and so there is a responsibility that we all have in that, as we take care of ourselves we are also taking care of doctors. One example is that we are then less of a drain on our health care systems. We may believe that as one person we cannot make a difference but this is not the truth. We do all make a difference.

    1. Thank you again Shevon for your contribution to expand this blog further. The link you provide is well worth reading as it is coming from a doctor. She states 85% student doctors have the highest rates of burnout.
      So how did these guys enter medical school?
      Could it be possible that they came in exhausted and not taking deep care of themselves?
      Could it be possible that they were simply not equipped to deal with the enormous pressure and workloads of medical training?
      How bad do things get that our most professional medical carers are contemplating suicide?
      How come there seems to be no true support out there for them because of this stigma that they should be able to deal with what comes?
      WHY are we seeing this group of people as different to any other human being?
      In other words they have their problems and they need support too.
      What is the true quality of care being offered to the patient if the doctor is unwell in some way?
      What is going to happen in the long-term if we do not start talking about this on platforms like this website?

  15. Suicide, not combat, is the leading cause of death in soldiers deployed to the Middle East to fight the so-called Islamic State.

    This is the opening paragraph in an article in Unilad on the suicide rates in Operation Inherent Resolve.

    The article also say that -.

    ‘The army has the highest percentage among the services for suicide. Of the 269 active-duty troops who took their own lives in 2014, 122 were soldiers.’

    Currently experts on military suicide do not know the cause.

    The information in your article Simple Living Global, presents a lot of answers and questions that would certainly support military personnel.

    It is not natural for us to be at war, whether it be within ourselves, with another person, or with another country as our natural state is homeostasis and to live harmoniously with each other.

    We only have to look at the latest information that has come out about World War II to see that the only way that the troops were able to invade France was because the tank commanders were high on drugs.

    This confirms to me that in order to sustain going through war those fighting have to numb themselves with stimulates otherwise they would feel the intense agony of what they are being called to do. Having this understanding I can see that suicide would be a natural consequence of being at war as the internal agony would be too much for one to bear.

    Sharing this blog and The War Inside Us would really support military personnel and all of us, to understand what is going on and the very damaging effects of war and how it starts.

    1. Your comment here Shevon says a lot and is well worth the reader going through the links and asking questions.

      This first link states – “The reasons why suicide ranks as the highest cause of troop deaths is poorly understood, according to experts on military suicide.”
      We are willing to up the firearms budget and any other weapons needed for combat but we not have the same priority for our troops.
      This is serious stuff when the highest cause of deaths in the military is suicide.
      What this blog is presenting may just have some answers as you say to support military personnel. If we just applied some common sense we may just all agree that it is not a natural innate thing for a human being to fight or be at war with anyone.

      So it makes sense that tank commanders were high on drugs in World War II.
      Is this simply telling us that we need drugs to carry out acts that are not natural because we all know drugs of any kind, alter our natural state?

  16. BBC News – 28 November 2016
    ‘Record number’ of prison suicides in England and Wales

    From January 2016 – 28 November 2016, 102 suicides were recorded. The highest number of inmates taking their own lives since records began in 1978 says The Howard League for Penal Reform.

    The number of people dying by suicide in prison has reached epidemic proportions.
    No one should be so desperate while in the care of the state that they take their own life.
    Cutting staff and prison budgets while allowing the number of people behind bars to grow unchecked has created a toxic mix of violence, death and human misery.”
    Frances Crook – Chief Executive, Howard League for Penal Reform

    What is going on inside, behind bars that gives rise to this?
    Are we missing something?
    Are we able to join the dots and see something is clearly not right?

    Could it be possible that living in confined conditions with very little movement, at times, is one reason for these statistics?
    Could it be possible that sharing a tiny cell has something to do with why our inner-mates want to end their life?
    Could it be possible that the resources are simply not there to deal with our offenders?
    Could it be possible that true rehabilitation requires the word RESPONSIBILITY?
    Could it be possible that a flat screen TV and kettle is not enough for many of our prisoners?
    Could it be possible that true care for another can only come if those giving are deeply caring in their everyday choices?
    Could it be possible that lack of true connection has something to do with this ‘record number’ of prison suicides?

    As the author of this blog and comment, I have lived experience having worked inside a UK prison.

    As a support worker I was able to alert the offender management team who commended me for bringing to their attention a prisoner wanting to end his life.

    I was new to the ‘job’ so to speak with no previous experience. So how did I know?

    Simple – I connected with this man and he told me everything. He said he knew I was not judging him and I was out to support him.

    How I done it was because I choose to live a deeply self-connecting life. That means it is easy then to observe what is going on with others with great accuracy.

    Spending money on mental health training may not be the simple solution.
    This blog is presenting more and well worth a re-read.

  17. Mental Health on College Campuses.

    Please note that these statistics are for 2015.
    This link was posted in January 2016.
    So what are the real figures today in January 2017

    Approximately 42,773 Americans commit suicide every year, according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, many of who are college students.

    1 in 12 U.S. college student makes a suicide plan according to National Data on Campus Suicide and Depression.

    49.5% students reported feeling hopeless in 2015.

    60.5% students reported feeling lonely in 2015 – a common indicator of depression.

    More teenagers and young adults die from suicide than from all other medical illnesses combined.

    Two-thirds of students who are struggling do not seek treatment.

    Suicide is the number 2 leading cause of death among those aged 14-34, according to the Center for Disease Control.

    This is confirming that something is seriously going on with our college students.

    Depression and suicide has always been a correlation and if so if a common indicator of depression is feeling lonely, could it be possible that when we are not connected to who we truly are, we feel alone, isolated and lonely?

    As this blog is saying could this be the simple answer?

    Could it be possible that campus life is not all it is cut out to be and the reality hits hard when home comforts are simply not there in college life?
    Could it be possible that our students cannot hide in the comfort of home life at the campus so the lack of connection to self is felt even more?
    Could it be possible that most are choosing to live a life that is dis-connected from who they truly are in essence, so there is no one really to go to or seek connection with?
    Could it be possible that our education system is bringing theory but there is a missing ingredient?
    Could it be possible that all of our education needs to be about responsibility to connect and self-care as the basic requirement before any teaching begins?

    Is it time to at least explore if there is another way as nothing is working and the statistics are increasing as this blog and comment confirms.

  18. ‘ There are more deaths from suicide than from war and homicide together. ‘ I had no idea that this was the case I have had to sit with this today as this is huge, so many people who have gone beyond despair feeling there is no way back, we are certainly keeping this matter behind closed doors. From reading this blog and it’s comments it shows there are vulnerable people in all walks of life from the disadvantaged to the rich and famous, to the person we are passing in the street.

    The statistics seem to keep growing…

    Today The Guardian reports from The Samaritans.. there is strong link between disadvantage and suicide

    ‘ Suicide rates are two to three times higher in the most deprived neighbourhoods compared to the most affluent, and admissions to hospital after self-harm are two times higher. ‘

    Thank you for writing this article Simple Living Global and bringing the facts about this rarely spoken of topic to the world, suggesting ways we can start to bring a change to this shocking global situation by genuinely caring, asking how are you? and truly listening. I find it empowering that I can be a part in bringing about change by caring for myself and then taking this care out to others.

    Reading this blog has certainly inspired me to open conversations with people about suicide. I love that this website asks the Why Questions, the Is It Possible’s, and offers Simple Ways to start to bring the change our world so desperately needs.

    1. Great Ruth that you find this blog inspiring and love the website, which is asking plenty of Questions.

      “The important thing is to NOT stop questioning”
      Albert Einstein

      Our Questions Questions blog is well worth reading as it literally spells out the value and importance of asking questions.

      Back to your comment about suicide and the link you provide states –
      A government spokesman said: “Every death by suicide is a tragedy but we are taking action to make sure we reduce rates by 10 per cent by 2020.”
      Well that is in three years time so we all better take note and get these statistics down.

      But is it that simple?
      Are we able to see and feel that most of us live very protected and guarded for whatever reason and find it difficult to open up to a stranger or talk deeply about stuff?

      Having attended a alcohol free dinner evening last month with 60 other people, what was interesting to observe was how many struggle to open up and how we avoid certain people. This then plays out in every area of our life, so we find it hard to engage with others on the street.

      We can all feel and we are all human. That we would agree.
      We are on some level interconnected and we can also feel that even if we may not be aware of this fact on a particle level.
      It is not about feeling sorry, giving hand outs to those who have less but it is about taking Responsibility, opening up and not judging where another is at on the social scale. If we can begin to deeply connect to our inner most self then it becomes easy to relate to anyone from any background. This claim is coming from the author of this blog who most certainly touches lives and it comes from staying open and meeting people for who they are. In other words they get met and the outer stuff – what religion, gender, culture, where they live or what job they do or don’t do is not in the equation.

      Having travelled overseas to be with a homeless man, who requested I was there when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer speaks volumes. WHY?
      I was his only true friend and never judged him for the choices he made in his life.
      We can all make a difference just by simply connecting with others without the guard of protection across our chest with an invisible message saying “don’t come too close – I do not want to get hurt again.”

      1. What an amazing story – to travel across the Atlantic to support someone who had noone else and to do so for no personal gain or investment, out of pure care, simply because he needed help.

        Who does that?

        Is the fact that such true care is so rare part of why we are walking around so closed and protected?

  19. What is going on in a person’s life that the only recourse is to take your own life?

    How does someone get to that point?

    Could it be, to commit suicide, that person doesn’t have an ounce of love for themselves?

    If so, why dosen’t that person love themselves enough to not end their life?

    We live in a world that has no time for anyone. With the introduction of the internet, smartphones, iPads and the vast array of technological gadgets, human contact is dwindling.

    With more and more emphasis being put on the outer, its no wonder the inner is being neglected and feeling alone and isolated.

    Could it really be as simple as this blog asks, which is to :


    I feel it is. A simple example of how the three C’s above do make a difference.

    I was in a supermarket, in a queue, at the till. I was observing the cashier who was just going through the motions with no one engaging with her. When it came to my turn, I saw she had a name tag on and I greeted her with ‘good morning Melania’.

    A broad smile took over her face and she became a lot more animated. We had a little chat and at the end I simply said ‘Thank you Melania’ and left her still smiling.

    I myself have been inspired to be this way with people by my wife who does this wherever she goes and with anyone she meets.

    If everyone in the world were to connect, communicate and care, then maybe they may meet that one person that needs that ever so slight nudge to bring them back to thinking that life is still worth living.

    Thank you Simple Living Global for this much needed blog. Considering that suicide is preventable in a lot of cases, for someone to suicide is a tragedy. Not just for themselves but for the family, friends, work colleagues and even the emergency services.

    If even one life were saved through just connecting with that person, its not really one person that is being saved, it is potentially hundreds.

  20. 1

    l8,998 suicides in England and Wales between 2011 and 2014 in people aged 20-64.
    In 7 out of 10 cases the job of the individual was recorded.

    That’s a huge amount of people taking their lives, with the highest percentage being women. Are these people being cared about, listened to, understood and supported, to help stop the isolation with the pressures they feel, why is our work a factor in this devastating decision?

    If this many people took their lives, how many people did this number of suicides actually affect?
    Consider the emergency services, family, friends, work colleges and more… the numbers must be vast.

  21. I feel the suicide rate for young people is an indication that they have no role models in their life that they feel are ok.
    Children are born with a natural sense of what feels right. As they grow they need confirmation that what they are feeling is right.

    When I was parenting my children, I found that they really wanted boundaries in their lives even though they resisted. I now feel that what they wanted was to get a confirmation from me that what they were feeling was true. I thought I was teaching them things about life, but no, I was telling them things they already knew. I have always felt that my children taught me as much as I taught them, but now I understand that if I was more open to it, they could have helped me remember all the things I choose to forget as a child – the things that I am starting to remember now, with support from Simple Living Global.

    I feel it is critical that we get our own lives back on track, so we can truly parent our children by confirming to them that they are amazing beings and all they need to do is be themselves.

  22. I have recently become aware that many people are turning to social media for support when feeling suicidal.

    What is it about our society that people feel they can’t turn to each other for help… to be heard?

    Could it be we are so taken up with so many distractions that we are simply not there for each other?

    The feelings of aloneness that must be felt by these people, surely what they need is warm caring communication and understanding from a lived way… Could this be the answer?

    We can all feel what each other is feeling, would us taking responsibility for our lives in how we are living and therefore able to connect with people on a deeper level, one they feel they can respond to, be the way to turn this round?

    We are 7 billion people on this planet, can we be the prevention of suicide by our choices in how we live?

  23. A recent news story here about a young mum who hanged herself in a mental health ward.

    First child aged 17.
    It was after the birth of her second baby in 2015 that she ‘became anxious and detached’.
    This young woman was described as a “brilliant and resilient person who coped well with motherhood”

    The fact she told her mother about her disturbing visions is a clear sign that something was not right and she did ask her GP if she could be suffering from postpartum psychosis, which is a severe episode of mental illness following the birth.
    So this is a confirmation that she was questioning her mental health.

    Could it be possible that our GPs are under so much pressure to get it right, they did not take this young woman seriously?

    So do we blame the GP, social workers and those in the medical profession who promised a medication review and did not follow it through?

    Are we willing to see that maybe it is not a clear cut case of blame but that there are more things to consider as to WHY she was spending time on suicide forums and researching methods to take her own life?

    WHY is the Internet allowed to publish this stuff and no alert button to those who need to know that someone is clearly contemplating suicide?

    How do we stop this and where can we learn lessons?
    When are we going to ask the WHY questions so we can get answers?
    Does this blog give us some insight about this tragic loss of life?


    When we think of suicide I wonder how many of us think of farmers taking their own lives because of crop failure, family problems and illness.

    This news story states that 80% of farmers killed themselves in 2015 because of bankruptcy or debts after taking loans from banks and registered microfinance institutions.

    How serious is this and what about all those that are left behind because of one suicide?
    How tragic that these people see themselves as failures?

    Having grown up in the Indian culture where my ancestors were all farmers, I know there is enormous pressure to ‘make it’. There is a huge emphasis on making money and then going for more and never stopping. Our health and well being are no where on the radar and it has become an obsessive drive to just keep going, accumulating wealth for our future generations.

    I know my great grandfather sent his son on a ship to Africa to make more money and he was told never to return unless he came back with two gold bricks. He left a wife and family behind of which my grandfather was one son. It was simply because the farmers’ land and income was not seen as enough and they wanted more. That more has never stopped and it runs through the veins of the majority of Indian people.

  25. Steve Ford wrote in Nursing Times on 17th March 2017 –

    ‘The risk of suicide among female nurses is 23% above the national average, whilst care workers in general are at higher risk.’

    Considering that nursing and care working are caring professions this is crazy.

    What kind of pressure are they under that they feel the only resort is to end their lives?

    Just as Dr’s suicide is higher than the average population suicide, as detailed in this blog by Simple Living Global on What is Intelligence? –
    there must be something about the way that we train and care for or not care for – in this case our medical and care work staff that are leading to these deadly figures.

    If we don’t start taking care of our medical staff and regarding Drs and nurses and care workers as important members of society, who are to take care of themselves first, then we will continue to lose out on the true quality of care that we could be receiving from our medical systems.

  26. ‘Horror at the Stock Exchange’, that was today’s front page headlines in Metro newspaper – 16th August 2017

    They are referring to a man who is said to have climbed over a glass barrier on the 7th floor of the London Stock Exchange onto the marble floor in the lobby.

    Colleagues were sent home.

    What could have lead this man to such extreme action?

    What was he going through and what pressure was he under to take his own life?

    How will this affect his colleagues and all those that knew him including his wife?

    Were there signs?

    Could anyone have intervened?

    So many questions arise when someone commits suicide, with often people wracked with guilt trying to understand what has happened.

    No doubt in the ensuing weeks and months we will find out more, but yet again we have lost another human life due to suicide.

    How many more workplaces is this happening in and WHY?


    10 September 2017
    Kauai Island Daily newspaper is telling us that the death toll on Kauai is rising sharply, alarming officials and devastating families.

    WHY on earth do we have a paradise island where we all dream of living, telling us that drugs are going on and people are committing suicide?
    What is going on?

    ‘Epidemic’ can be a charged and risky word, but in the case of suicide on Kauai this year, it is simply accurate according to KPD Assistant Chief Bryson Ponce and Kaulukukui. Clearly many residents suffer from severe depression and there are not enough treatment resources to reach them all.

    Ponce also says that after many years of battling methamphetamine and other stimulants as Kauai’s top drug abuse problem, police have recently begun seeing a spike in heroin overdoses.

    Figures for 2017 for people who survived suicide are not yet available, so the reported death toll only represents part of the picture.

    Suicide experts are not surprised that this is happening in an isolated rural country as they have noted historically very high suicide rates in Wyoming, Montana and Alaska.

    Many of us like the thought of being in Alaska away from the busy-ness of daily life as it seems so full of nature and ideal, but is it really if this is what our suicide experts are telling us?

    “As well-intentioned as such events are – walks, marches and other kinds of demonstrations – there is scant proof they actually reduce suicide.
    The important thing is to make sure that people are talking about suicide, how best to help people left behind and how to prevent future deaths.”
    Julie Cerel
    Psychology Professor – University of Kentucky
    President – The American Association of Suicidology

    On that note is this top professor talking some common sense to us all?
    Let’s at least start talking if we are ever going to see change in the future.
    Is she bang on about our well intentioned rallies and demonstrations, which simply have no bearing on what the root cause is of WHY someone chooses to take their own life?

    Are we ready to pay attention to this woman because she is a bigwig academic and our world tends to place them in society as those who know what they are talking about?

    Are we ready to get talking by reading blogs like this, Depression and Methamphetamine, on this website, which are mentioned in this news story, so we have more awareness and are better informed?

    Could this be a start then to share with others and get a deeper understanding so one day we can get to the root cause of WHY anyone would want to end their life?

    Do we each have a Responsibility to act and do something and not just leave it to governments and others in our community to take the lead?

  28. Sitting on the tube this morning I glance over at my neighbour’s paper and read the following 2 headlines on the same page-

    Hairdresser killed herself in Ibiza after drunken row

    Student took cab to bridge with friend and leapt off

    I am in my late 30’s and I remember when suicide was a very rare thing to hear of. Now it is common place with more and more cases from the young to the old including students, doctors and other professionals being reported daily.

    The statistics in this blog already affirm that the situation is getting worse.

    Are we really asking the right questions with our research to get to the root cause?

    What if there was something we could all do in the way that we live that would stop the numbers escalating?

    What if we were more interactive with each other in our homes, in our workplaces and in our communities and communicated without argument but with genuine respect, care and understanding?

    Would this have an impact on the wider society and stop the escalation of harmfull behaviours like suicide?

  29. I recall reading a few months ago about a man committing suicide at the London Stock Exchange. In today’s Metro News they say he worked there 31 years.

    What on earth was going on for him?

    We all have this thing that those who work in the stock exchange are highly paid, so what happened and how come no one around even noticed?

    Are we so busy in our life that we don’t engage, meet or talk to anyone with a genuine expression?

    Are we so busy with our work and other life that we find no time in our day to give to another?

    Is there anything we could learn from what has happened in this tragic case?

    I have come to learn that ‘doing my bit’ in the world means engaging with others but not imposing or trying to get info out of them or any nonsense like that.

    I notice that the more open I am and remain steady, people do open up too and it does make a difference.

    I could write a book with the amount of people I stop and talk to daily wherever I go and it’s been like that for a long time.

    Is it time we all felt ok with being open and genuine and honest when we talk to another person and it may just be the answer as it has been known that people do find it easier talking to a stranger?

    I am living proof of the stories and secrets people share with me and I have never met them before.

  30. Metro news story – 25 October 2017

    A family man with a partner who is pregnant and a former professional footballer told the Metro how a stranger stopped him from taking his own life. So to most of us, the general public, we could say ‘what more could anyone want or need’ as we generalise and think professional footballers have got it all and have the perfect life.

    But the question is – what is going on that this man went missing and was about to kill himself?
    How serious is this and do we ever get to question WHY this goes on for someone who most of us would envy and think they have the ‘perfect life’.

    Is being famous, a celebrity or any other enhanced status that society gives us not really what we want or need? Is this why those in elite positions suffering even if it looks like they have it all including the fame, family and all that comes with that?

    What this story and many others about suicide that are coming to us more and more in the news is something is clearly wrong and we cannot ignore the simple fact that our mind is not right if we even contemplate giving up on life.
    In this case it makes no sense to leave three children and a wife so there has to be something else going on…without digging deep and asking more questions like this blog is doing, we will keep going around and around and this will mean more news like this is coming.

  31. Metro News – 25 October 2017

    A retired police inspector suicided the day after his daughter got married.

    My first thought was – how devastating for all those related to this man.

    How do those left behind comprehend or contemplate what has happened?

    Most of us would think a job like that would be rewarding for a family man – so how come he suffered with anxiety?

    What did he have in his mind that he could not deal with that led him down the road of giving up on life?

    How many more stories are we going to read about in the coming days and months?

    What was going on for this man who made a difference to so many but chose to end it all for some reason?

    WHY are we all so stunned when it comes to suicide and talking about it openly?

    Is this blog presenting some simple stuff that could support and help us right now?

    Is it high time we all started talking and make it our business to talk to our neighbours and those in our community, just to engage and meet them for who they are and not what job they do or don’t do?

    Could that simple act make a difference as nothing else is working?

  32. Evening Standard – 10 November 2017

    News story about a 21 year old man, with two children, who shot himself and his face was donated and given to another man who underwent the transplant of 56 hours surgery.
    There is more, the man who received the transplant surgery of the new face, was after failing in a suicide bid when he put a rifle to his chin.

    So here we have both men attempting suicide and one died and the other received the face of the dead man.

    Have we stopped to imagine the pain these guys were in at the time or the state of their mental health?

    What would make any young father of two young children want to end their life?

    What has society got to if this is going on in our world today?

    Can we afford to sit around and allow and accept everything that happens or are we prepared to at least do something?

    Not talking about news stories like this ensures things will stay the same, but expressing what we feel means change is going to happen.

    Is it high time we brought these types of topics and blogs like this into education, so our youth are wisely informed and thereafter have a choice in what is needed, should they feel any suicidal thoughts entering their minds?

    If we just sit back and do nothing, then we can be assured this type of stuff is going to be our new normal.

  33. Recently I came across someone that openly said they felt suicidal. I could see the look in their eyes of desperation and nowhere to turn. Are we doing enough as a society to begin to understand why someone would get to that point?
    Are our health professionals just putting a sticking plaster on rather than getting to the root of the problem?

    Suicide is still very much a taboo subject and is frowned upon in some culture and accepted in others. With rates on the increase is it not time the world wakes up to what is really going and start to talk about it. I think so!

  34. The Times – 19 October 2017

    Self-harming up by 70% among young teenage girls, aged between 13 and 16.

    50% of adolescents who committed suicide had a history of self-harm.

    Children who harm themselves are 9 times more like to die from causes such as drugs or violence and 17 times more likely to suicide.

    The report by Manchester University was published in the British Medical Journal.

    These highlights are enough to give us a real insight into what is going on in our world today.
    How serious is this and what is behind the huge rise?

    This same story is in The Week dated 4 November 2017 saying researchers did not look into what could be driving the increase.

    Hello – would it sensible and wise to make this a priority?
    If we have not considered this important factor in a major study, where does it leave us?

    What if we interviewed the parents or guardians of these young girls, would we learn more?

    What if we had first hand information about the cyber-bullying, sexting and other pressures that are placed on them?

    What if fitting in and seeing self-harm as cool and ok allows it to rise and go unseen?

    What if there are heaps of reasons why a young teenage girl self harms?

    What if there are no real role models around for these girls?

    Are there people in the community that these girls can confide in?

    Do any of us on the street know more and could say more?

    Are we keeping away because we think it is not our business?

    When are we going to make everything our business, if it is harming?

    I was able to support a teenager who was self-harming by building trust in our relationship.

    This was simple as all I had to do was meet them for who they truly are, without judgement or trying to fix the problem. Not freaking out with what was shared, allowed this young girl to see and feel that I was a steady person in her life and anything she said was safe.

    Of course, I knew her mother and after some time, I suggested we have a meeting with her mother and it was a game changer. Taking no sides and not wanting an outcome, things shifted. What I did do was open my mouth and say what I felt and how being honest with our communication was super important for all of us.

    What if us elders in the community can make a difference with our wisdom and experience?
    What if we need to stay open and allow others to feel they can approach us because we are steady and consistent with Living life?

    I know we can all make a difference, but hoping things like self-harm is going to go away is not going to happen. We each have a responsibility, a duty to humanity to do our bit and that way we know when we read news stories, we are not simply sitting on the fence, doing nothing.

  35. Between 2013 – 2016, 71 students in Hong Kong took their own lives.

    At a specially convened legislative council meeting, both school children and parents gave accounts of long school days, over-stretched teaching staff and hours of homework.

    The meeting was called in response to a Government commissioned report that stated there was no direct link between the education system and the fact so many students had taken their lives.

    One primary three student shared at the meeting that he could barely rest and spent 2 hours a day on homework.

    He said “I feel tired every day and cannot sleep. Almost every subject needs assessment, including dictations, I have assessments almost every other day. Do you know we are having a hard time? Could the education system be changed?”

    This is a primary 3 student talking like this. A student who is in their 3rd year of primary school so they are below 11 years of age!

    One can tell from the tone of what was said this child is clearly struggling and is crying out for help.

    What happens if this anguish goes on?
    Who can contain that misery?
    Are we then surprised when pupils then suicide?

    We ought to take more notice of what our children are saying to us. The articulateness of this one student says it all so very clearly – things are not working as they are.

    Does the change start with us all prioritising who we are and what we feel is true for us over demands, expectations and ideals and beliefs about how we need to be and then supporting our children to know that it is acceptable for them to honour and respect what they feel is true, rather than go with the status quo?

    I am 39 years old and am still dealing with the effects of buckling to societal pressures rather than following what I know is true. To make changes this is taking very small steps everyday, however I know that it is possible to live the real me in the world and not be crushed by it as I know others that do live this way and so those daily choices to make changes are worth it.

  36. Thank you from this crucial blog.

    About 8 years ago, I attempted suicide by taking a knife to my wrist.

    I had become depressed following the end of a relationship. I had been depressed before in my life but this was different as I had also become consumed with jealousy following discovering that my ex-girlfriend had started dating someone else. At the time, this cocktail of depression and jealousy was too much for me.

    My thoughts became obsessive and very narrow in focus. Within a short period of a few weeks, I had lost my daily routine of self-care. I had no appetite for food and tried to take all my nourishment from coffee and cigarettes (that doesn’t work, of course).

    My negative thinking was a vicious downward spiral. I developed myopic tunnel vision – I was obsessed with thoughts of regret and my ex-girlfriend. I felt ashamed of myself so I didn’t want to share my thoughts or feelings with anyone. I stopped communicating with others.

    So, I lost my connection to others and I also became somewhat detached from my body and my self as I was living totally in my head. My negative thoughts were all I seemed to have at the time.

    I wasn’t sleeping well so I was exhausted. The combination of this exhaustion and the utter bleakness and blackness of my thoughts meant that I very quickly got to point where I had totally given up on life.

    I could not see any meaning in life whatsoever and my life felt intolerable because all my thoughts were negative, day after day.

    I wanted my pain and anguish to be over and, in my lost state, suicide, I told myself, was the answer.

    In hindsight, my suicide attempt was a call for help.

    I have learnt from the experience that it is imperative that I appreciate myself, build a daily foundation of self-care and work to stay connected with people and to look for the purpose and meaning in life.

  37. Talking to someone today they shared how their father was diagnosed with something when they were young that left him almost blind. There was no medical solution and he had to live with 10% vision. So he gave up on life and considered suicide as a way out.

    This young man was told by the school teacher that his daughter was crying in the playground consistently for two days and was he aware of this.
    He instantly changed his priority and got his life back on track. His wife learned to drive so she could take him to work, he found car pool and got back home and then continued working for another 25 years, until a back injury which stopped him ever working again.

    What makes me write this comment is how many young fathers and mothers have these suicidal thoughts and how may go through with it and how many are saved by their own children who feel what they are going through even if they think they do not understand or communicate it.

    Our world is hearing more now than ever about people of all ages, including children taking their own lives and it is high time we woke up as we are in serious trouble if this is going on under our nose or in our family or neighbourhood.

    This story confirms that this man changed his thoughts and his movements were about taking action and doing something, instead of giving up on life, which is what he initially did after hearing he was almost blind.

  38. PsychCentral

    According to a new study from the University of Waterloo, in Ontario, Canada –
    Teenagers and young adults living with a chronic illness, such as Asthma, Diabetes may be at greater risk for mental illness and are about three times more likely to attempt suicide compared to their healthy peers.

    The researchers also found that the risk for suicide attempt is highest just after diagnosis of a chronic illness and emphasise the need for prevention and intervention measures during this vital time.

    WHY is having a chronic illness increasing the risk for the development of a psychiatric disorder which in turn, increases the risk for suicidal thoughts, plans and attempts?

    Are we going to find solutions or are we going to keep asking questions and get to the root cause of WHY this is happening?

    Can we as general on the street members of humanity, jo public start talking and keep talking and expressing what we feel so we can get to the bottom of this?

    Can blogs on this website on Asthma and Diabetes help us – see links

    How are our Youth choosing to live and what are they getting up to?

    Is there a contributory factor here for us all to examine and consider?

    Have our teens lost real connection to their inner most self?

    Have our youngsters given up on life in some way and this is the onset of ill mental health?

    Have they seen no real role models that offer them another true way of living?

    All the above and more needs to be questioned at every dinner table and every conversation in our community if we are going to turn the tides.

    Our Youth of today will be our adult generation of the future and that in itself makes it worth our time and effort to say something and do something.

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