How often do we forget something?
Can’t find something?
We all forget something or can’t find something when we need it.
We might get frustrated or angry with ourselves.
We may even blame another or blame something because –
We cannot remember how and when it got lost.
We have no idea where it may have ended up.
None of this helps us.
So WHY do we keep doing this ‘Forgot Something, Lost Something’ business over and over again.
Consider the stress we have when we forget something that is important?
Why do we panic when we lose our ring or misplace the phone?
How do we feel when we lose our house keys, wallet or handbag?
How do we react when we can’t find the passport?
How often do we travel and forget something, but could have sworn we had packed it?
How many times do we forget something even though it was on our list?
How often do our kids drive us nuts because they have lost something?
Are we living in a way that is contributing to this regular losing something?
Are we aware that something inside us maybe going on, why we keep forgetting something?
How often do we say – “How on earth did that happen”?
Has anyone checked how huge the Lost Property is in airports, bus or train stations?
Survey in 2012 revealed $47,000,000,000 loss in 5 countries.
So if it is 47 billion dollars for just a few countries, consider what the real cost is? (1)
Did You Know –
Who ends up with whatever it is we have lost?
Why is it that we leave something in the taxi, on the bus, train or plane?
Has it got anything to do with how we got in the taxi?
Could it be something to do with what was on our mind that morning?
Where was our mind at the time during the train ride?
What was going on for us while we were on the plane?
Do we have a pattern of losing or forgetting things on public transport?
Do we seem to create a drama every time we forget something?
Do we just accept that things like this just happen to everyone so it is ok?
How often do we leave the house and have to go back because we forgot something?
When is it that we remember we lost something?
Is it a few minutes?
Is it a couple of days?
Is it weeks?
Is it the next time we need it, which could be months?
How often in one single day do we misplace, lose or forget something?
How does our body actually feel when we can’t find something?
I recall one of our wedding guests was forgotten to be picked up by his family and he spoke little English at the time and had no way of getting to the venue on his own.
So this confirms, we don’t just forget or lose our keys but we also forget people!
Are we checking out in some way that makes us forget someone or something?
Is our mind connected to our body when we hop off the train and leave something?
What if there was another way that would support us to NOT forget?
What if this other way was simple and practical?
What if we practiced daily this simple way of living?
What would life be like where we rarely forgot anything?
What would our body feel like without the tension of losing something?
So is it possible that we check out for a moment or even a split second and in that time, we forget something?
If it is possible, then that means we would need to “check in”?
How do we “check in” daily so the chances of losing, misplacing or forgetting something are less likely to happen?
To “check in” we need to practice Conscious Presence.
That means our mind is with our body whilst we are doing something.
In other words, we have not checked out, we are not on autopilot and our mind is not elsewhere, whilst we are carrying out a task or simply moving our body.
We are with ourselves and present in whatever it is we are doing.
I learnt about ‘Conscious Presence’ from the teachings of Serge Benhayon – a man who really does live in a constant state of presence. What that means is he is not checked out, he is always with himself, no matter what.
The following tips have worked for me and maybe worth considering –
If we practice this consistently, we are more likely to gather and collect whatever it is we may have forgotten. Losing things becomes less and so our days are not spent in frustration or tension in our body because we mis-placed, forgot or lost something.
- Stop and pause and take a deep breath before leaving a room.
- Check in to feel that we are in our body.
- Top tip is to close our eyes for a moment.
- Great way is to feel our fingers and toes and that way we know we are in our body.
- Hold steady, then move your head slowly and have a glance to feel and see if anything is missing.
- You may just notice your attention on something you have forgotten.
- This technique works like magic.
Do the same before you leave the house.
Do the same before you leave the office.
Do the same before you get out of the car.
Do the same before you get off the bus, train or plane.
This simply creates a moment to just Stop and Pause.
The deep breath thing works as it brings us back into our body.
It is like we have connected and plugged back in so we become aware.
It is like we can feel if anything is amiss and not with us easily.
We realise what we have left behind.
It may be an umbrella or it may be our coat or keys.
Choosing to take the stop moment and press the pause button could save us a lot of stress.
Over the days and weeks and months ahead, we may feel like things flow more.
Giving ourselves permission to not rush out of the house or jump off the train can support us.
It takes seconds to connect and plug in and it could just be the simple answer.
Long term – it sure saves a lot of frustration and headaches.
Well worth having a go.
(1) (2012) Lost and Found. Mozy
(2) Atkin, C. (2016, February 1). Inside TFL’s Lost Property Office, where 300,000 Items Turn Up a Year