- What is gossip?
- Why do we do it?
- What does it give us?
- Who benefits?
- Would we like it done to us?
- What does it do to our body?
- Why do we read celebrity gossip news and magazines?
How would we feel knowing others are gossiping about us?
I grew up in an Indian family and it was very normal for my parents to take us at any opportunity to the rellies (relatives) and they would spend time just gossiping. This was mainly what Indian women do and the men would drink alcohol. I do not recall it ever changing and it is the same today in my experience.
I hated gossip and all that judgement so I opted to stay at home as often as I could as a child because for me it was too boring. If the rellies were visiting our home, I would walk out of the room but as I grew older, I found myself getting involved and joining in the gossip, knowing how wrong it all felt inside me.
Whilst I got better and was not gossiping non-stop, it was still there until I got an understanding that it harms me and others and it keeps me stuck. I can honestly say that today I make the choice not to engage in this gossip stuff and I am not willing to partake in idle chit chat that I know is harmfull.
- Why do we judge ourselves?
- Why do we feel to judge others?
- What gives us the right to judge those we do not know?
- Why do we need to keep judging anything and everything?
- What would our life be like if we stopped the judgement?
- How does our body feel when we judge it constantly?
- Could it be possible that another person can feel if we are judging them?
- Could it be possible that judgment of any kind is hurting us?
- Could it be possible that when we are in judgment, we are not ‘forming sensible opinions’ as the dictionary says?
Let’s get real – who doesn’t judge these days?
I am no halo head and not claiming to be non-judgemental but it sure is ‘work in progress’ and I have come a long way. What has helped me to not judge another is to have understanding.
Having a chat with myself and saying –
- You do not know what their current choices are.
- You do not know what they truly feel in each moment.
- You are not with them 24/7.
- You do not know what they have been through in this life.
- You do not know their past lives.
- You do not know what their choices have been to lead them to this point so shut up and Stop Judging.
What I can claim is I have hundreds of testimonials and this includes prisoners and a general theme throughout is that I do not judge. I know I have a true compassion for others and with understanding I remind myself to say –
“Live and Let Live. Allow another to be in their choices. Accept another in their choices, in the knowing that one day they too will return to who they truly are.”
This helps me to stay focused and on track with what I need to be doing and not getting into any form of judgement. What I realise is Living in this way to the best of my ability, others can feel this and it makes them feel safe around you.
- Just the word itself feels like a missile coming at you?
- Where did this all start?
- Why do we curse others?
- Is venting our anger on another cursing?
- Do we curse things and not just people?
- Is cursing confirming our lack of responsibility?
- Are we choosing to not take responsibility and deal with our stuff and so it all gets thrown out at the first thing or first person in the firing line that day?
- Many of us have grown up with cursing and imagine what it does to our heart?
- Imagine a young child being hurled abuse in the form of angry words?
- Imagine how our body reacts to this type of abuse?
- Imagine how hard and protected we get to not feel this cursing stuff?
Imagine if we all stopped cursing each other and made a choice to take Responsibility and deal with our ‘anger and annoyances’, which is what the dictionary tells us cursing is.
Imagine expressing without the hurt, which has made us angry and annoyed in the first place?
Cursing is poison in our body and it really has to Stop. Cursing another is attacking our own body and deeply harmfull. For this reason alone, I do my best to not allow ugly thoughts in and if it does enter my head, I say ‘get out’ because I know it is not a true thought.
This and all the other understandings I have today come from the teachings of Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine.