WHAT is it about Family that disturbs us?
WHY have we got issues with our Family?
WHY is there such a War inside us when it comes to Family?
WHY is there a lack of understanding when it comes to Family?
WHY does our Family bother us so much?
WHY does this ‘F” word feel like a swear word to some of us?
WHY does our behaviour radically change in front of Family?
WHY does our tone and voice change at every Family dinner?
WHY does the institution of Family not leave us feeling great?
WHY do some of us fear being with Family?
WHY do tempers rise around Family conversations?
WHY do we feel emotional when it comes to Family?
WHY do we have a habit of pandering to our Family?
WHY do we always act fake and phony with our Family?
WHY do we have an attitude that sucks with our Family?
WHY are we raising everyone in our Family to be individuals?
WHY do we come together as individuals and look like a Family?
WHY are we just a group of individuals abiding to rules as a Family?
WHY do we hate the unspoken Family rules and regulations?
WHY do we subscribe to Family values that have never made sense?
WHY do we go along with family nonsense that drives us nuts?
WHY do some of say we only Love our Family, not others?
WHY do we say we would die for our Family but not for others?
WHY do we think Family is everything and others are not the same?
WHY do we see so much pain on the faces of our Family?
WHY do we want to fix our Family so we feel better?
WHY do we want Family members to see things our way?
WHY do we move to the other side of the world to avoid Family?
WHY do we want to keep away from our Family in the first place?
WHY do some of us dis-associate from our Family at a young age?
WHY do we dread the very thought of a Family get together?
WHY do we feel tension in our stomach when we visit Family?
WHY do we always need Alcohol when we are with Family?
WHY do we expect our Family to remember our Birthday?
WHY do we demand more from our Family at Christmas?
WHY do we begrudge being around Family at Happy Holidays?
WHY do we struggle and have a façade with Family in December?
WHY do we go away every Christmas, knowing it is because we don’t want to be near our Family?
WHY do some of us only see our Family every Christmas or at Birthdays even though we live in the same town?
WHY do we say we really Love our Family when we rarely spend more than a few hours in their presence, once a year?
WHY do we keep convincing ourselves that we will make contact with Family members, but never get round to it in decades?
WHY do we neglect our Family most of the time?
WHY do we make the effort to visit Family when we want something?
WHY do we think buying gifts for our Family erases all the unsaid stuff?
WHY do we always hide our private life from our Family?
WHY do we feel we have failed our Family in every way?
WHY do we have so many Family secrets that we hide from the world?
WHY do we lie through our back teeth consistently with Family?
WHY do we lie to our Family, as if they don’t know?
WHY do we stink of Tobacco and tell our Family, we don’t smoke?
WHY do we think we are getting away with it with Family?
WHY do we have a false way of communicating with our Family?
WHY do we feel forced to smile and be nice to our Family?
WHY do we feel burdened by our Family problems?
WHY do we feel obligated to do things for our Family?
WHY do we feel a sense of duty to our Family?
WHY do we feel responsible when it comes to Family?
WHY do we feel like unpaid servants when we do things for Family?
WHY do we feel so hurt by certain members of our Family?
WHY do we feel a sense of separation and division in our Family?
WHY do some of us prefer hanging out with friends, not Family?
WHY do we treat our mates better than we treat our own Family?
WHY do we have a saying, ‘who needs Family, when you got Friends’?
WHY do we feel friends are more supportive than Family?
WHY do some of us treat our neighbours like real Family?
WHY do we crave Family in our darkest moments?
WHY do we try so hard to be a part of a Family?
WHY do we pretend we don’t want Family, when we do want it?
WHY do we lie to others about our Family, so it makes us look good?
WHY do we whinge about Family members, behind their back?
WHY do we judge, gossip and curse some of our Family members?
WHY do some of us keep sitting on the fence when we know we need to speak up with Family?
WHY do we hold back our natural expression just to please certain members of our Family?
WHY do we feel that no one in our Family is interested in us?
WHY do we feel no one bothers to truly listen to us in our Family?
WHY do we feel like we are doing it all alone and yet we have a Family?
WHY do we feel like we are never met for who we truly are, when it comes to our Family?
WHY do we lose it with Family and not with others?
WHY do we hold little or no respect when it comes to Family?
WHY do we feel so much guilt when we are with Family?
WHY do we feel bitter with some of our Family for stuff?
WHY do we hold resentment towards people in our Family?
WHY do we feel angry when we even think about Family?
WHY do we get frustrated over and over again with Family?
WHY do we hold so much sadness with our Family?
WHY do Family need to adopt our ideals and beliefs about life?
WHY do we try so hard to make things right with our Family?
WHY do we have such a lack of understanding about our Family?
WHY do we carry so much pain inside us from our Family life?
WHY do we have weird feelings we don’t like when it is Family?
WHY do we have ugly memories of being raised in our Family?
WHY do the words our Family speak, sometimes feel so harsh?
WHY do we feel our buttons are pressed more with our Family, than anyone else in the world?
WHY do we always like to blame Family because it suits us?
WHY do we give ourselves such a hard time with Family?
WHY do we feel so much pressure when it comes to Family?
WHY do we constantly have a need to impress our Family?
WHY do we lose common sense when it comes to Family?
WHY do we favour members of our Family, who have a better job?
WHY do most have a favourite in the Family that can do no wrong?
WHY do we see the authority figures in Family like they are perfect?
WHY do we feel like parents to our parents in our Family?
WHY do we feel we are parenting our siblings in the Family?
WHY do we always compete with our siblings in the Family?
WHY do we sometimes wish we had a different Family?
WHY do we think we were born into the wrong Family?
WHY do we feel like the black sheep in our Family?
WHY do our Family speak to us like we are still a child?
WHY do our partners dislike us, when we are with our Family?
WHY do we hate being told what to do by our Family, when we are grown up and have our own kids?
WHY do we have a need to fight and mess things up with Family?
WHY do we seem to never learn the lessons with our Family?
WHY are we invested in our blood Family above anything else?
WHY are we making out that Family are more important than anyone else in our world?
WHY are so many of us false around our Family?
WHY do we take Drugs and lie to our Family about how clean we are?
WHY are some of us compulsive liars when it comes to Family?
WHY are we always justifying things to our Family about our life?
WHY are we so desperate to help our Family to rise above their issues?
WHY are some of us so needy for that Family unit to stay alive?
WHY are we so bored with the hot talk at Family gatherings?
WHY are we trying to be better than others in our Family?
WHY are we so rude in the way we treat some of our Family?
WHY are we so irrational when it comes to Family stuff?
WHY are we unable to deeply Appreciate some of our Family?
WHY are certain members of our Family just not our cup of tea?
WHY are we invested in those in our Family that we see as clever and intelligent?
WHY are we living in such illusion about our Family, when every cell in our body tells us otherwise?
WHY are we not admitting that if it was not a bloodline, we would have nothing to do with some of our Family?
WHY are we not saying that we prefer those outside our Family as we have more in common with them?
WHY are we willing to endure so much pain in the name of Family?
WHY are we so deeply hurt by the actions of our Family?
WHY are we so afraid to stand up and speak the Truth to our Family?
WHY have we got this way of making sure we focus on the bad ugly stuff that happened to us growing up with our Family?
WHY have we adopted a position in our Family from day dot that is not who we truly are?
How divided are we as a world, when it comes to the word Family?
Definitions of Family –
1. a group consisting of two parents and their children living together as a unit.
2. all the descendants of a common ancestor. (1)
Oxford Living Dictionaries
1. a group consisting of two parents and their children living together as a unit.
1.1 a group of people related by blood or marriage.
1.2 the children of a person or couple being discussed.
1.3 informal – a local organizational unit of the Mafia or other large criminal group.
2. all the descendants of a common ancestor.
2.1 a group of related things. (2)
Collins English Dictionary
A primary social group consisting of parents and their offspring, the principal function of which is provision for its members. (3)
1. the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children.
2. a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head (household).
3. a. group of persons of common ancestry (clan).
b. people or group of peoples regarded as deriving from a common stock (race).
4. a group of people united by certain convictions or a common affiliation (fellowship).
5. a group of things related by common characteristics. (4)
Have we seriously Lost the Plot?
Are we confused with all these meanings?
How separated do we feel because we have so many versions to tell us what one word means?
WHY are we not one-unified when it comes to the “F” word?
WHY do we have so many different meanings, in the first place?
WHAT about all the other country definitions for the word Family?
WHAT is the original meaning of this word?
HOW was this word used and lived in the past?
Have we deviated from the essence of the word Family?
Have we side stepped to suit us by moving the meaning?
Have we honoured the word for what it truly was?
Have we ever lived the Truth of what this word truly is?
Is it worth considering that the real Truth of this word has never been lived, because true Family is about Brotherhood?
Is it too late to go back to the Truth of a word and live it?
History of the Word ‘Family’ –
First Known Use: 15th Century.
The earliest uses of Family denoted “a group of persons in the service of an individual”, a sense that is now archaic.
Although this early meaning may seem far afield from the way that most of us use Family today, it is not surprising when we consider that the word comes from the Latin familia, which meant “household”, a designation that included both servants and relatives. (4)
The Online Etymology Dictionary
early 15c., “servants of a household” from Latin familia “family servants, domestics collectively, the servants in a household,” thus also “members of a household, the estate, property; the household including relatives and servants,” abstract noun formed from famulus “servant, slave,” which is of unknown origin.
The Latin word rarely appears in the sense “parents with their children,” for which domus was used.
Derivatives of famulus include
famula “serving woman, maid”
famulanter “in the manner of a servant”
familiaris “of one’s household, private”
familiaricus “of household slaves”
familiaritas “close friendship”
1540s – In English, sense of “collective body of persons who form one household under one head and one domestic government, including parents, children and servants, and as sometimes used even lodgers or boarders.”
1620s – “any group of things classed as kindred based on common distinguishing characteristics.”
1660s – as “parents with their children, whether they dwell together or not,” also in a more general sense, “persons closely related by blood, including aunts, uncles, cousins;” earlier “those who descend from a common progenitor, a house, a lineage.”
1752 – family-tree “graph of ancestral relations”.
1753 – as a scientific classification, between genus and order.
1788 – meant “thief,” from family in a slang sense of “the fraternity of thieves”.
1796 – phrase in a family way “pregnant”.
1807 – As an adjective from c.1600; with the meaning “suitable for a family” by this date.
1809 – family circle.
1856 – family man “man devoted to wife and children, man inclined to lead a domestic life.”
1902 – Happy Family
an assemblage of animals of diverse habits and propensities living amicably, or at least quietly, together in one cage.
Century Dictionary – 1902
1966 – Family Values first recorded. (5)
So what could we learn from the original meaning of this “F” word?
How are we 600 years on from the first meaning?
WHY did it have changes over the years?
WHY do we complicate the meaning of a word?
Is there something here we could learn?
Can we understand things when they are presented in this way?
Can we join the dots and keep it simple?
Does this confirm things are not making simple sense?
Could it be possible that we as humans have not been able to have a “happy family” with the definition given in 1902, as we are unable to live amicably or at least quietly together?
Could it be possible that back then FAMILY was to include servants, slaves and maids?
Could it be possible that in the past all others were not held EQUAL to the person who was the authority in the Family household?
Could it be possible that the word FAMILY is INCLUSIVE of ALL and not just bloodlines?
Could it be possible that regardless of our position in society, we are all one and the same, when it comes to the real meaning of FAMILY?
Could it be possible that each member of society are our Brothers and living in True Brotherhood is what the essence of Family is about?
Could it be possible that TRUE FAMILY is about EQUALNESS and BROTHERHOOD, which then confirms we are all inter-connected?
What if we have deviated from what this word originally meant?
What if we are not living the word FAMILY in its true essence?
What if we have lost the plot when it comes to Family?
What if we changed the meaning to make it a suitable truth?
What if TRUE FAMILY is not the Family interpretation we have today?
What if TRUE FAMILY is pure and real and very possible?
What if TRUE FAMILY is the future for all of us, but we just don’t know it yet?
What if TRUE FAMILY is about ALL of us as one world and no one is excluded?
What if having TRUE FAMILY means dealing with our hurts and moving on?
What if TRUE FAMILY means no more separation and division among any of us?
Could it be that Simple?
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