WHY do we want the Perfect Life?
WHY do we dream about a Perfect Life?
WHY are we seeking the Perfect Life?
WHY do we need a Perfect Life?
WHY do we want the –
Perfect Social Life?
WHY do we want goals that are not real?
WHY do we yearn for things that are not sustainable?
WHY do we want ambitions that are not attainable?
WHY do we keep striving for more and more?
WHY are we obsessed with having the Perfect Life?
WHY are we driving our body to get the Perfect Life?
WHY do we think that the Perfect Life takes away our problems?
WHY is it that when we get there, it is not perfect and we are not content?
Could it be possible that our mind changes the goal so we never reach perfection?
Could it be possible that there is no such thing as the perfect life?
Could it be possible that we are designed to be human and not perfect?
Could it be possible that in Truth there is no one in this world who has a perfect life, wife or all the things we want and don’t have?
Could it be possible that wanting or needing to be Perfect in any area of our life is going to lead to failure as it really is a goal we can never get to?
So what exactly is Perfect?
Let’s check our reliable Concise Oxford English Dictionary (1) –
Having all the required elements, qualities or characteristics.
Free from any flaw; faultless.
Google and you get a few more words like –
Exact, Precisely Accurate, Free from any defect in condition or quality.
Consider the pressure on our human body trying to live with precise and exact qualities with no flaws.
Consider the drive needed to live faultless and free from any defect.
HELLO – Bit of a tall order or what?
Can we stop and press the pause button here?
Do we need a reality check?
Who can actually live up to any of this?
Who is setting the marker?
Who on earth has this in their lives?
If we do know someone that we think has the Perfect Life, then have we studied them 24/7 for 10 years?
If not, then how can we say they have a ‘perfect life’?
Do we really truly know them and are we fully aware of all the choices they are making in every single moment?
A great example is a superstar celebrity who has all the trimmings that we think is perfect and that includes fame, fortune and the perfect private life to match.
But do we truly know them?
Do we know them personally?
Do we know how they are choosing to live every day?
Do we know about their childhood?
Do we know if they are living a see through life?
Where did we get the information from telling us they have a Perfect Life?
Are we being absolutely honest when we say they have the Perfect Life?
How does it support us if we have the media airbrushing and we pretend that these people are real and we do what it takes to get the same Perfect Life? See Link
Could it be possible that we try and copy with a mindset that believes we can be the same?
Could it be possible that we follow the diet or lifestyle that this famous celebrity is living?
What effect is this airbrushing having on our kids who maybe far from ‘perfect’?
Airbrushing and Retouching is now rife on social media platforms.
Traditional teenage pressure to look slim has been dramatically accentuated by the growth of social media and intense pressure from online bullying.
9 out of 10 girls in some schools are doctoring their pictures to appear thinner.
Dr. Pippa Hugo – Consultant Psychiatrist, London Priory Hospital (2)
It would be more unusual for them to upload a completely undoctored picture to Instagram. This is an “open secret” as everyone does it but no-one admits to it.
Isabelle Whiteley – Photographer & Researcher of That’s What She Said Project (3)
Doctors are concerned that this “selfie” culture is fuelling an increase in eating disorders. (2)
Think about it with our common sense hat on – there is pressure to conform and not stand out like the odd one out so our teenage girls go along with it.
It would be common sense to say this way of living is not natural, so of course it is going to have an effect on their breathing and what they choose to eat or not eat.
Add to this that the majority of who they hang out with are all doing it, so it becomes the norm instead of abnormal.
How serious is it when there are mobile phone manufacturers today who have beauty settings so we can ‘automatically’ airbrush our selfies?
We do not need any rocket science education here to work out how many are possibly using this to make themselves look like what they think the world wants.
Have we heard of Imposter Syndrome? (4)
Is this something that Perfectionism brings, like an undercurrent where we feel a fraud as we know it is not really us?
Girlguiding UK have reported that 25% of 7 to 10 year old girls felt the need to be perfect. (5)
Can we just stop and re-read this and ask WHY is this at such a young age now?
What is the world saying to them?
How is their daily life contributing to this?
Do the parents have a Responsibility here?
Does the schooling have a hand in this?
Are we blaming the media for this rise?
Is the Internet now the culprit?
WHY is Perfectionism linked to anxiety and depression? (5)
This is serious stuff as we now go into mental health, which statistics are telling us is rising out of control.
Could it be possible that our body goes into a state of anxiousness when it is not living a real life that is true?
Could it be possible that wanting Perfectionism is not realistic and deep down we know this and so it leads to us giving up on life?
Could it be possible that we give up on life as we are not committed to life?
Could it be possible that we are exhausted because of how we choose to live and this is the start of our depression?
Could it be possible that we have a picture of what the Perfect Life is and our real life is far from it and that makes us depressed?
Could it be possible that we are busy trying to be something we are not and that is what makes us anxious?
Could it be possible that we are not equipped to deal with our daily life stuff because we are exhausted and this leads to anxiety and depression?
Could it be possible that the choices we are making every day are contributing to the anxiety we feel but we can’t seem to find a way out?
Could it be possible that by doing what others do in their quest for a perfect life, this keeps us the same, so we don’t stand out as different?
WHY do we blame Society for giving us expectations about beauty?
Who is Society?
Who makes Society?
WHY does Society supply us with what we want?
What are we demanding from Society to deliver?
Do we stop and consider that each of us contributes to what we call Society?
Do we think that we may just have a hand in what Society is telling us?
Could it be possible that we as individuals are subscribing to the Perfect Life and so Society supplies us the Perfect Lifestyle choices to help us achieve this?
Could it be possible that we lose sense of reality when we try and be like another?
Could it be possible that this way of wanting another person’s life is not attainable?
Could it be possible that we seek the perfect life of another to avoid living our own life because we don’t like the choices we keep making?
Could it be possible that something is missing in our own life and so we seek to live another person’s life that we think is perfect?
Could it be possible that we cannot sustain this other way and so we give up?
Could it be possible that this ‘perfect life’ we see in another is far from perfect but we choose not to see the whole and just focus on the parts that suit the picture of ‘perfect’ in our mind?
WHY do we want the Perfect Life of another person but never look at the daily choices we are making that have given us the life we now have?
Have we as a society given up on our lives so we fantasise about the Perfect Life?
Do we find life a struggle so we choose to buy a lottery ticket as the ‘perfect’ answer to all our problems?
Could it be possible that we have given up on the real value of life?
Could it be possible that we crave the perfect life on the outside because something is missing on the inside?
Could it be possible that we seek perfection to hide the agony and misery of what is really going on in our everyday life?
In other words, we are not deeply connected to the very essence of who we are and in that gap we are constantly wanting and needing more of what this world has to offer.
Could it be possible that we are not on earth to be perfect?
Could it be possible that we are here to be real?
Could it be possible that if we started to focus on the everyday Back to Basics stuff like sleeping, walking, cooking to truly take care of ourselves, we may begin to feel more connected and content inside?
Could it be possible that the Back to Basics way of Simple Living is teaching us what life really is about so we don’t lose the plot?
Could it be possible that if we let go of the images, pictures, ideals and beliefs that we hold about the Perfect Life, we can give ourselves permission to make real choices that support us with our true health and well-being?
Are we ready to stop paying attention to the world outside of us, which tells us there is a Perfect Life?
Are we ready to listen and take note that the world inside us is what really counts as our particles come from a much grander place than we may realise?
Could it be possible that we are on this earth to learn lessons about life so that we can evolve?
Just in case you have not noticed our world is in a mess and we are all doing what it takes to cope and exist to get through our days. Not once do we stop and ask the WHY questions.
Our world is far from perfect. Our confirmation of this comes from the rise in illness and disease, ill mental health, crime rates escalating and wars going on in every country.
We as the most intelligent species on earth are no-where on the perfect scale.
Is it time we changed our focus?
Would it be wise to build a foundation that is truly supporting us consistently to live a self-connecting life?
Could it be possible that if we let go of our agenda to have the Perfect Life, we may get to enjoy a real life that has meaning and purpose?
(1) Concise Oxford English Dictionary – Twelfth Edition. Oxford University Press. 2011
(2) Bingham, J. (2015, September 19). Nine out of Ten Teenage Girls Digitally Enhance Their Own Facebook Pictures, Claim. Retrieved December 9, 2016 from http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/11875084/Nine-out-of-10-teenage-girls-digitally-enhance-their-own-Facebook-pictures-claim.html
(3) Cosslett, R.L. (2016, September 8). Thinner, Smoother, Better: In the Era of Retouching, That’s What Girls Have to Be. Retrieved December 9, 2016 from https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/sep/08/thinner-retouching-girls-image-manipulation-women
(4) Cohen, C. (2015, November 16). Imposter Syndrome: Why Do So Many Women Feel Like Frauds? Retrieved December 9, 2016 from
(5) Marsh, S., & Guardian Readers. (2016, October 14). The Pressure of Perfection: 5 Women Tell Their Stories. Retrieved December 8, 2016 from