Say It as It is

Dear World

Simple Living Global delivered a blog called REAL TALKING a year ago.

This is well worth reading and re-reading as there is much being said about the Talk stuff.

Here is the link –

The following blog is an expansion on Real Talking and invites the reader to take the first step when it comes to Honest communication.

Hello World

Are we ready to get Real and get really Honest

Real and Honest are the ingredients needed for this Recipe called SAY IT AS IT IS.

What does it actually mean to Say it as it is

Think about young children and it is easy

Have we noticed our kids just Say it as it is

It is like they have no sensors and no agenda and nothing stops them expressing exactly what they want to say and it just comes out.

There is no calculation needed, no working it out and controlling what comes out of that mouth.

Most of us just love it when our child just happens to Say it as it is.

We find it refreshing, uplifting, inspiring, real, amazing, funny, beautifull and the rest…

So why on earth have we stopped doing that

What is the internal dialogue that caps that

What is going on in our head that blocks it

What is our intent when we don’t Say it as it is

What if we started to practice this ‘Say it as it is’

What if we observe our children to see their movements, so we can learn to Say it as it is.

What if we are really the same as children but somewhere along the life road we made the choice to stop the “Say it as it is” thing.

Have we conditioned ourselves into making sure we never say it as it is because we know it may cause problems and Complications.

Do we hold back from saying it as it is because we think it might hurt other people.

Do we worry about the backlash if we just Say it as it is to friends and family.

Do we get concerned in our workplace when we feel to just Say it as it is.

Do we have a job and security to think about so to Say it as it is never seems straight forward.

Do we hate saying it as it is because it is the Truth and others might stop talking to us.

Do we avoid saying it as it is because we just want to be nice and liked by others.

Do we feel a tension inside our hearts when we want to Say it as it is but never do.

Do we have lots of thoughts feeding our heads when we just want to Say it as it is.

Do we plan in our minds what we think we want to say instead of Say it as it is.

Do we feel bombarded with scenarios of the consequences if we simply Say it as it is.

Do we procrastinate when we know it is needed to just Say it as it is.

Do we mince our words and talk jibber jabber instead of just Say it as it is.

Do we go around the houses and never get to the point when all we had to do is Say it as it is.

Do we consistently play games with others instead of Say it as it is.

Do we put the invisible tape on our mouths as we are afraid to Say it as it is, because we really don’t want to offend anyone as we are too nice.

Do we grit our teeth and feel our body harden when we want to Say it as it is but just don’t.

Do we feel our body pulsing with frustration at yet another missed ‘Say it as it is’ moment.

Do we find ourselves getting Sick when we simply do not Say it as it is.

Dear World

What if we were taught from day dot to use immediacy of Truth.

In other words, we immediately verbalise what we see and feel.

What if our world and its brothers – that means all of us would benefit if we just Say it as it is.

What if there is purpose and meaning when we simply Say it as it is.

What if our world is missing this Real and Honest expression within us that is natural when we just Say it as it is.

What if speaking instant Truth would help us all to evolve and re-turn to who we truly are.

What if it is time to just SAY IT AS IT IS because our body is telling us so.

Could it be that Simple?





Comments 7

  1. I have come to realise that in my world and that means my everyday life, there is no holding back and I really do not care who it is I am talking to as I just Say it as it Is.

    My style is no mincing words or trying to sound like this or that.

    I get to meet all sorts of people and I find it interesting how people are sometimes uncomfortable in their own skins to just let the tongue loose and Say it as it is.

    I find to Say it as it is like fresh air. It’s clear and not foggy if that makes sense.

    When I start conversations people light up, their shoulders drop and the guard comes down and off they go sharing and talking with the ‘Say it as it is’ style.

    It is like the thing is catching on because that is how I am and they have permission to be the same, which is connect to who they truly are and simply express from there – nothing more and nothing less.

    This is not about sounding a certain way or like another but simply our own truth being voiced without any hidden agenda or laced with this or that.

    I reckon most people like the ‘Say it as it is’ and those who don’t may have their reasons, but in my world I see no point wasting a nanosecond talking jibber when straight talk – Say it as it is most certainly is needed in any situation.

  2. Waiting for a bus I was staring inside this cake shop which had a unique selling point – egg free.

    It got me thinking how on earth do they have so many cakes – all with fresh cream, every size you could think of and then the individual ones incase it was not for a special occasion.

    Well in that area there are certain types of cultures that want the cake but not the egg as they are vegetarians. So the demand is there.

    Old man, very well spoken stands next to me and he was endorsing this shop and in my usual style of Say It as It is – I delivered with no holding back.

    Yes I can understand that this shop exists simply because there is a demand.

    WHY I would never eat fresh cream or go near that amount of sugar was my next statement and on we went with this conversation.

    What I have noticed happens in our world is when another claims what they want to say, we tend to nod, agree or go along with it for whatever reason, but in my world of operating I see no point or purpose in doing so.

    Why not just Say It as It is as chances are we give another the opportunity to maybe consider another way or another angle to something that they may not be aware of until that moment?

    Not saying it as it really is serves no one if you ask me and what is the worst that could happen if we just said it as it really was?

    Kids do that all the time and we find it sweet, endearing and inspiring so why did we stop when we became grown ups?

    Makes no sense to me.

  3. It would be true to say that I talk to anyone at anytime, if I feel it is appropriate.

    In most situations, I have something to say and so I just deliver.
    A bit like a messenger who has been given a package of words that another needs to hear and take note of.

    My job is to express in full and that means not hold back or give bits but just say it as it is and go the whole hog.

    Today I went to a new local business recommended by a friend.

    Well it was like I walked in with this package – a download specific and relevant to exactly what they need right now for their next step. Sounds a bit whacky perhaps but this is how it is.

    One of them has a full time job in banking and this is a side business with his mate.
    He goes on to tell me that he lost money and failed in a business overseas and so he then decided this was not big bucks but his friend has his heart in this field and he wanted to help him out, so he invested and became a partner in this new business.

    Whether he was speaking the truth or not was not my concern. What I did know was there was going to be no mincing of words, just straight talk.

    I asked him did he have any hidden agenda, motive or need to make money in the business that went belly up. Of course I knew the answer.

    The majority of people who go into business when they have a full time job are in it to make more money, profit from something they see as new or unique or they have pictures of a future lifestyle they want and this is one way of getting what they want.

    I told him that without any hesitation.

    He asked me what I do and then in my wise way I said to him that when we do what we can to profit from people it will never work out as it is not the Truth. Regardless of all those he knows that have so-called “made it” in the money stakes, it would be wise to check out all areas of their life and see how that success shows itself. Rare is it in today’s world that we have relationships, family and health all scoring high as our bank balance.

    I told him that I worked for God and that meant I do what is needed and go where I am needed and that means for the people. If I make money as a result of this then that’s the bonus.

    I am not rich by any means when it comes to cash millions but boy oh boy I am super rich when it comes to the Quality department of life in which I choose to live by day in and day out. My health and state of being is that of someone much younger and that to me is worth millions in itself.

    Back to this comment – what if we all just say it as it is when the moment presents itself and do another a favour as they get the package – the full download and then they can choose to take note, reflect on it or ignore it?

    What if we all just say it as it is to those whose paths we cross, if we sense and feel to?

    What if this would not only support them to evolve but equally give us the blessing as we have helped another to look at their life from another perspective?

  4. It would be true to say that I am well known for saying it as it is, without concern or worry what the other person is going to think or say about me.

    Those days are long gone and I have come to realise that it can make a huge difference.

    Think about it – our kids just say it as it is and they have no clue or idea how to calculate or have a strategy going on behind the scenes, before they say whatever it is that comes to mind. So why is it as adults we stop doing that?

    Could it be a dis-service if you have something you know could support or help another but those words are suppressed, repressed of squashed back inside you and you stop just saying it as it is?

    The point of this comment is a real life example with a taxi driver – long journey across the city. His beard was down to his chest and he kept stroking it. This looked to me like he was in the comfort of stroking a cat. In fact, I have seen many other men with beards stroking with their fingers on public transport.

    So we got into a conversation and he told me about his skin condition and I asked what was going on in his life when it started and bingo we joined the dots. He realised that the stress was first and then came the skin condition. His way of hiding this and hiding away from life and other people was the beard. We both agreed this was making sense.

    However, he was reluctant as he said his 12 year old daughter would not like it if he removed the beard and my response was “are you married to your daughter?”.

    That is how I operate, it just comes out and I cannot hold back or think about it and if I did, then it would not be the real me as this is just how I am. Say it as it is cuts the game playing and being nice and polite and all the other stuff we are supposed to behave like in society.

    Next –

    He wanted to know a bit more about what I do and this website was mentioned.

    Well a week later back in the city ride he had shaved off his beard, tells me his daughter loves it and his skin condition has really cleared up. He said he understood more about stress and related it back to his situation and it was making more sense.

    He goes on to tell me that he went to the stress blog on this website, then to other blogs via the hyperlinks and things were making sense. He took the practical aspect seriously and applied one thing – a 20 minute nap during the day by parking up his taxi. He said how much better he felt and for me the way he looked and felt said it all. That was one week, so imagine if he continues applying some of the practical wisdom from this “Say it as it is” website.

  5. Talking to a woman recently who society would place as someone with ‘privilege’.
    That means she has a professional job, now retired officially with mr husband and the big country mansion with ideallic views and the city apartment with fine dining most days.
    What a wonderfull perfect life we could say as most of us strive to have that.
    Correct ?

    What I noticed was how uncomfortable she was in her own skin, so to speak. There was an ‘un-settlement’ that was felt communicated from her body.

    In the past, I would look up to someone like this or compare myself but long gone are those days, as I can hold myself with anyone in any conversation. From the prisoners and homeless to the neurologist or baroness working in the highest government chambers. All the same really – all humans with some kind of tension that I can sense at varying degrees but actually all the same but society would say otherwise…those with the job titles are far more superior or better off or whatever but they still have this un-settlement that doesn’t go away. What has just been said requires a deep pondering.

    Next –

    We got on to the topic of corruption and in my style I just “say it as it is”. No mincing of words, no apologetic manner at all and zero pandering or nodding as if I was agreeing to something, just to keep the status quo. No No.

    I was spoken to like perhaps everyone she encounters and of course takes the lead with such a broad and wide intellectual background about lots of stuff. Well when it comes to the topic of corruption, I am no fool and I certainly know a lot and it was not about competing or even saying more than was needed. I simply did not buy into the fact that she claims to know we have very little corruption in this world except in cases of justice and the prison system. Really?

    Wake up mrs – there is corruption in every area of society and it stinks and we all need to wake up. I don’t do politics which is what the response was going to because it wanted to avoid my direct-ness and call out on some ugly stuff going on today in our world. We do not have to go to the obvious like the drug lords, we can go anywhere, any system and if you know people like I do in all different jobs worldwide, then you get clued up and not play dumb or act like its not happening, just because you have yet to read it in your weekend newspapers.

    Say it as it is with no extra salt and pepper needed is what is missing in our world.
    Most of us do know and yet we lie, we pretend, we avoid, we negate, we dismiss and we go about our life as if it’s not really happening when it is.

    If more of us just SAY IT AS IT IS and can detach thereafter with the stance of ‘take it or leave it’ we would have so much more of the ugly stuff that goes on in our world exposed.

    This writing machine, known as Bina Pattel has no intention of withdrawing from life or suddenly dropping the ball when it comes to saying it as it is and that can be in a real life situation, like this one face to face or in a comment like this – both expression and both equally doing the job with no holding back. Job Done.

  6. At the bus stop today, I got talking to a young girl who had an American accent.
    Her background was Southeast Asia and she said the accent comes from studying at International Schools.

    She was here with a fancy job title which I did not seem to understand as it sounded like she was the cook and cleaner.

    Her job was sponsored as ‘au pair’ and the kids were teenagers 16 and 14.

    She explained that she lives in a huge house and cooks every day and the owners are always working and it is her job to make sure homework is done and make the kids beds.

    What was clear is how highly anxious she was and not settled with the situation but she has no options – has to stay as she is studying. The matriarch, mother of the children is passive aggressive and from previous experience she was told by the man of the house to ‘deal with it’ when the kids do not listen to her, so she thinks that is it.

    She is too afraid to tell the parents that the kids do not listen to her, pay respect or acknowledge her.

    I was straight and to the point with no mincing of words – my usual style and I said it is not her job to take on abuse as that is what it clearly is if the teenage boy does not listen or take her seriously. She has to remind him to go to his tennis lesson and do his homework and also he refuses to put his dinner plates into the dishwasher.

    Add to that she has to make the beds for both children every morning.

    My question to her is what is she “enabling” here by not speaking up and being allowed to continue in what is clearly a game?
    Who benefits and what is the purpose?

    I put a few things for her to consider like she needs to stand up for herself and not accept a child literally laughing at her and doing whatever they want.

    What is interesting is she just wanted to share more examples and one that stands out is the boy complaining to his mother that this au pair is nagging him. Mother then scolds the au pair and she is doing her so-called job of reminding him about his tennis lesson or whatever other practice he has.

    Apparently parents are never around – always busy and working.
    Mother comes home very late.
    Kids wake up, eat immediately and go off to school.

    I suggested that has she consider – they could wake up a bit earlier and make their own bed and by having this basic 101 routine it could be foundational for them in the future.

    What kind of kids are we raising when we are not participating in how they are being parented?
    WHY do we deem it ok and acceptable to employ a foreign student by way of ‘sponsor’ but in truth it is for our own personal use?
    For the record – The job was not ever advertised as daily cook and teenage kids house maid.

    I was able to assist this young student who was genuinely in need of answers and she said how much I was able to help her as everything I said was making sense.

    What I always do in any of these ‘real life’ on the streets as I call it conversations is SAY IT AS IT IS – STRAIGHT TALKING and ask if it makes sense.

    We seem to forget, as it is convenient and suits us, is that using others and not seeing them or valuing them as our EQUALS means we are not building society. We have made it about what we want and are choosing to not be aware – this is abuse. Maybe not what we normally associate with that word but it IS Abuse.

    What I realised is I know my stuff and I am no longer a push over or enabling others to stay in their internal state of anxiety and stress when I have wise words to impart.

    Take it or leave it is my approach, but it will never ever stop me from SAYING IT AS IT IS and what they do or not do thereafter is not my business.

    So many of us have the answers, the direction or the words of wisdom as elders in our community and yet we hold back, play small and nice and don’t want to offend or speak out of line and where has it got us all?

    Time to wake up and do the straight talking like our granny would.
    She never minces her words and is not looking to play games – just say it as it is.

  7. How many of us stand up for something when we know it is true and so we do not back down, play nice or worry about the outcome?

    A very real life sharing … posted here as this website does not currently have an article titled WORK yet.

    My regular postal delivery man leaves a box outside and it was obviously moved whilst I was out all day. It ended up away from the porch rood and with winds, the rain damaged the box completely.

    When I arrived that evening, it was soaking wet and the contents for me were precious and it was a bespoke order and very well packed. Regardless, the soaking wet box did get inside and packaging was also wet.

    When I next saw him, I called him over and told him straight. No mincing of words and tracked him back a few days and said was he on duty that morning and of course I knew he was. He then suddenly recalls that I had a small window open so he just assumed I was in.
    For the record that window remains open all year around regardless of outside weather conditions.

    I told him about the damage and his ‘irresponsibility’ and that an apology is not needed but a CORRECTION is and that means ‘sharpen up and stop assuming and stop the rushing around’. He works at great speed and feels like a crash is coming. We talk about this openly as he drives fast, parks hazardously most of the time and always says he is bored with the job, hence the earphones and not paying attention to the task in hand.
    He even tells me what he listens to is ‘just nonsense’ but better than the job.

    This has happened to me and most certainly to others so nothing new.
    But if we all say nothing, do nothing and never say it as it is – this can continue.

    Fast forward today and he was still on the racing around momentum, but he was not going to just leave the packages without checking if I was there to receive it or not.

    I told him that I have 2 emails confirming times of delivery – 11am to 3pm and it is 8.35am now. He waves his arms up and says those things are not ever right.
    If I made plans to stay in during those times and leave early today, I would have missed the parcels. So he has to re-deliver or try and find a neighbour to take it, but I know his style and he will just throw it back in the van. Seen him do it countless times.

    What kind of service is this and how could we support ourselves, our job and the service we provide to our customers?

    If this was my job, there would never be headphones or high speed ever and I would take seriously a customer talking sense and then tell those that need to know that these apps, computer programmed systems are failing us because the times are Out. Simple.
    No one benefits and it creates un-necessary work and inconvenience which comes at a cost.

    With online delivery continuing to rise it is worth taking note that our service providers, which include those that drive the vans and deliver cannot just be left to do the job when it clearly is not a decent service provided.

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